Any BiMarriedMen satisfied with sex with wife

I knew I was into sex with guys before I got married. Never once doubted I was truly into girls and then my wife but without a doubt those bi desires come back. My wife was never really into sex but we made it work. Now it’s been about 5 years since we’ve had sex and although she is occasionally willing, I’m just not really into “willing”. I could ask and she would say ok and would lay there patiently until I was done (probably going over her to do list, completely checked out) and I just cannot put myself through that anymore. We get along well and we have talked about it many times and she really does believe she’s doing her part in saying yes and laying there.

 

Well said. Same boat here for the most part. It’s been a few years since our awesome sex life of almost 20 years. The last time we had sex she had her usual 2 orgasms and just laid there waiting for me to finish. I couldn’t and lost interest. Too much effort required by me. Don’t really miss it anymore.

 

We do have sex not regular tho. And for the most part shes not that very into it which makes it borring. Almost like im masturbating with a hot sex doll. I do it to meet my needs but even tho i tell her im open to satisfy her shes not into it. I totally hate that. Back when I was single and bottoming, I love the way it felt for my top to want me, lust for me, enjoy me and just look at me like I am an incredible fuck! I miss that feeling. On top of the feeling of getting dick in me it was INCREDIBLE! The kind of sex that left you speechless, stupid, taking time to recollect yourself and think about the next time for days! Now the only thing I think about for days is when Im gonna get it and if shes going to be into it when she gives it to me. Honestly Im losing interest in her. I mean I love her but….. Now I try to get into bed when shes asleep so Im not tempted to have boring sex. I think Im about to enter a dead bedroom where “I” don’t want it anymore.

 

It's almost as if I wrote what you said! Except I did have a fluke of two nights in a row in an over 5 year stretch! She doesn't get how not just lack of sex, but affectionate touch harms me mentally & physically?!

I, too, am not really into "willing", either! I told her I wanted an open marriage over a year ago, still made me jump through hoops and rings for six weeks before she did! And I had such a mental block I couldn't even finish, jerking off outside of her, because of the built up resentment. It stopped after a month, part me, part her, but mostly her. Had another fight over open marriage. Had to bring up divorce to get her to say she's "willing" to have sex, said with as much enthusiasm as agreeing to a root canal! Affectionate touching is discouraged, batted away, as - the horror - it might stir me up into wanting more, ie. sex!

My bi urges have always been minor, but I realized they are never going away. My interest & attraction to women is my main motivation for sex ( and life!). I'm completely hetero-romantic. I've self examined, and wondered, was I secretly gay and just too scared to admit it, with all the bi-phobia and bi-erasure? But nope, I can't even bring myself to imagine a relationship, let alone romance with a guy, just sexual pleasure and friendship only. I'm rarely attracted to men physically, unless it's a guy even other hetero men would admire.

But when I have no GF, or the majority of my marriage has been sexless, most all of my thoughts have been mmf, and watching mmf and mm porn.

I've already wasted over a decade of my life with her forcing me to be sexless against my will! I'm going to move forward with a divorce, as I'd be lucky to get sex a couple times a year, if that often for the rest of my life, and it will only get worse the older she gets, as well as my resentment. I'd still like to be her friend, just not her husband

 

I totally agree!

 

I have been married twice. Still in the 2nd (sexless) marriage. We are trying invested in our situation so we live with it. I had been with and sought out male sex since the first marriage. NOw at 62 I have a good friend (gay) that we spend time with each other. It’s a good situation that allows me to take care of my desires.

 

yeah it’s a strange scenario we and many others find ourselves in. I’ve been criticized and mocked online for not just admitting I’m truly bisexual and would date men or women…or just flat out gay for that matter. There was certainly no guidelines for a guy that occasionally likes sex with a guy but no attraction or relationship wanted.
It sucks that there’s so many guys that have wives that want nothing to do with them. Occasionally I see a Facebook video and it’s something sexual in nature and the comments from so many women show that many women do indeed like sex and need it. Sucks you’re headed for a divorce but good for you on the other hand. Find a woman that wants to be with you and is accepting of your sometime bi tendencies.

 

Wow….I have often wondered what it is that makes me want to be a bottom. I bet that explains it an awful lot. I’ve never felt like my wife “wanted” me or desired me in any way and now that I think about it deeper I don’t think I’ve ever felt desired by any woman (maybe it’s in my head I don’t know). I’ve always wanted that and I think subconsciously if I were to bottom then I would be wanted and actually my body enjoyed.

 

I am very satisfied with the sex I have every week with my affectionate long-term girlfriend and very satisfied with the safe sex I occasionally have with men. I have had the same girlfriend for 18 years now.

 

While I have the inclination to say I would be if my wife were interested in sex anymore, but the reality is that even in our younger years when we had a good sex life I also had desires to have sex with men. I did my best to ignore those desires but eventually gave into them even while I was getting laid at home. So I guess I wasn’t content with sex with just her. Funny thing is I always considered myself straight I guess because I was married to a woman. In retrospect I think I’ve always been bi.

 

I would be satisfied but.. it's sexless now

 

I am very satisfied with my sex life with my wife. Of course, when i'm with a man, i'm not on top. I tried to top but it just doesn't feel the same as it does with the wife. My wife gives head, but it's always a precursor to sex. When I give head or get head from a man, the goal is a cumshot in the mouth. I feel like i'm a true bisexual and not just a guy trying to make ppl believe he's not gay. I love having sex with my wife but I crave dick and my wife doesn't have one.

 

I never really gave any bi action a second thought while I was sexually into it with my wife. I had a love for dicks, cemented in my subconscious form the earliest play times way back. Only out of desperation did I give it the chance to surface. If I had MF sex laid on now, I'd probably put it back into the dark recesses of my mind.

 

I too have a very satisfying and kinky sex life with my wife. She also has her boyfriend (he's also her highschool sweetheart) and even though they're not as "kinky" as her and I are, his dick is considerably larger and THICKER than mine. As she tells me frequently, she love his "animalistic" ways and "take charge" attitude in bed. She's sexually submissive to him, whereas with me, we're on a more "level" playing field, or I tend to be the more submissive one.
Like you, I'm bisexual and a total bottom (and sexually submissive) with men. This has always been for me, as I've never had the desire to top another guy, or found the idea of doing so to be appealing. I'm not grossed out by men's asses by any means, but topping just ISN'T for me.
I give you props for trying to top with men, even though it wasn't meant to be for you.
Also like you, I love having sex with my wife, but I also REALLY like and crave dick, which she doesn't have... But her boyfriend does, and it's really nice and yummy looking. I'd gladly suck it, either with her or by myself, and I'd be lying if I said I haven't thought about and masturbated to the idea of him topping me (he says he's "straight", but my wife and I know he's topped a mutual gay friend of theirs on several occasions)... So who knows, maybe (hopefully) I'll get the chance to enjoy his nice BIG dick The same way my wife does some time in the near future.
Two of the kinky things my wife and I are into, that I'd also like to do (or at least try) with another guy are:
1) Golden showers - I want to be the one receiving, especially on my face and in my mouth
2) Exploring my ABDL side - As a long time DL (Diaper Lover), my wife is very supportive, and even encourages my diaper wearing. She's also become an active participant, and it's led to some of our most passionate, intense love making.
I'd love to experience wearing diapers for, or even better, wearing diapers WITH another guy.

 

Yep; when the old lady wants to have sex, it's all that and then some. I can't see myself giving up sex with her - or any woman - and only relying on dick for my satisfactions.

 

U sound so sexually pent up

 

yeah….pretty much

 

When I was regularly giving it to my first, then current wives, I never thought of anything bi. I always knew in the back of my mind I liked nice fat veiny cocks but that was just a subconscious memory. I never even masturbated for years. With the end of my sex life, I supplemented by relieving myself. I ended up exploring the bi side cautiously. Other women, while desirable were off the table, but surprisingly my current wife was /is OK with sucking and being sucked off. Haven't looked into that for years but definitely going to.