Younger women attracted to older men. How common? What are the deciding factors?

Good questions Andy. As always, a mans initial intention is sex. We cannot deny that. A woman's intention could have multiple reasons. Experimentation, gold digging, comfort, security, and a gamut of others. Compatibility does play a part as the relationship blossoms. I have several friends, married couples, who have a rather large age difference. It doesn't seem to bother them. But lets turn the tables. When I was young I had an long term relationship with a much older woman. She was married yet separated, pursuing me to bolster her confidence over being left for a younger woman, and a fantastic lay in the bed. Outside of that I saw a lot of compatibility issues between us. From that point I have had only younger women less one who was a sex worker in a Nevada brothel. Some just a few years less my age. Others as much as 40 years younger. For me all were about having sex. Compatibility outside the bed was left for women closer to my age. Thus I married a woman just 3 years my junior. We are very compatible even to this day. As for all of the other women I've been with, the only intention has been sex. That is both our intentions.

 

The two fb’s in their 20s i fucks are basically into good sex and someone that knows how to eat pussy. One actually referred me to her friend so both of them have boyfriends but these guys just want to fuck or get sucked and really don’t care about eating pussy and taking time to do so. They understand i will not be a sugar daddy and it is just about sex. I have a wife an fwb and an fb so for me i have enough but then again it is never enough. I am respectful and they are too.

 

I've always felt the attraction to older guys. I'm just in my 30's and I could easily say a guy in there mid 40's would still be an option. They are more confident and hopefully would be able to perform wonders in the bedroom.

 

Option as well for 50, 60?

 

had a younger Gf when younger had a really good time till I got caught
. if the wife hadent stopped having sex may i wouldnt had. used to do the gf almost eveery d AT LEAST ONCE. i WAS MARRIED SHE WAS SINGLE SHE 35 ME 47

 

I was 50 something--she was 19 and she came on to me. Did the deed. factor was looks, I guess.

 

I HAVE to play ELOs Don't Bring me Down with the beautiful shuffle girls --EVERY DAY to get my dose of FINE WOMEN!! Just had to mention.

(besides--that's the way I used to dance!)

 

In my opinion men who are already over 60, we can give only 2 things: money and pity.

 

There's always an open door for many "options".

 

Nice to hear from a younger woman here. Thanks for posting. You didn't mention if you're in your early, mid, or late 30s. If in the mid to late, going for a mid 40s guy doesn't seem that big of an age difference.

For curiosities sake, what about a guy in his mid 50s if you clicked with him, and he was fit, athletic, good looking, and had no belly or gray hair? Would that large of an age difference be a deterrent to you?

 

Ah but she did. By saying she is "just in my 30's" indicated to me she is 30 or 31, 32 at best. I hope she answers you question though. Since I'm just in my 70's I'd kinds like to know if I have a shot. Well, not really as I've already had sex with women still in their 30's. So I know age difference doesn't matter at some point in life.

 

Agreed.
When I was 52, I met a younger woman who was 28.
She was lovely.
Literally.
Intelligent, beautiful and with a lovely demeanour.
Not up herself in any way at all yet almost had that 'out of reach' persona. Maybe that was my imposter syndrome kicking in but she was certabnly way up there.

Her style of clothing and her long hair style were beautiful (and classic) and different from most others locally.
She stood out and was very visually attractive, not because she was bright blonde or surgically enhanced or something like that but, because she was just beautiful.
She seemed to have a distinct quiet confidence too and was a close to faultless as I could ever have imagined a person could be.

Anyway, we got along well too, which was even better.
We had met for coffee to discuss a photo shoot of her naked and in various stages of arousal, as I have done may times with a variety of women in a variety of age groups.
I'd not realised there were so many women who would be keen to try it and it was very good for my heart when a long list of them approached me. I digress.

There was no sense of a generation gap in our conversation and she was open to the things I was suggesting in addition to what she wanted to do and others we had already discussed.
She said she felt comfortable with me like she had not felt with anyone before and that the age difference wasn't a factor.

She was both the lovely girl, y'know the one your parents would like their son to meet yet, brilliantly and very arousingly, she was also the sexually intrigued, inquisitive, open-minded young woman, that any red-blooded male would love to play with.
It was she who steered the conversation to include a lot of new sexual experimentation.

At that point, the conversation was a little like a business conversation because we discussed each aspect she'd like to try and which she consented to. More importantly, those which she didn't consent to, which was actually nothing.
That discussion was as 'normal' (perhaps better described as 'easy') as when planning that which we may do on a family day out.
So easy to talk to and (probably because we discussed it in a business-like way), she said she felt no embarrassment despite talking with me about stuff she hadn't even discussed with her fiance.

Yes; fiance. She wanted to have the photos for him and she wanted to try all these new things before introducing them (or not), to their relationship.

There was nothing that didn't meet with her consent and she said we may have sex and we may not but if we do, it's all good.
That meant she was willing to try everything either of us could think of and it was me who hesitated at one stage when she described what she wanted.
Not that she wanted to give oral or for me to give her oral - she wanted me to relinquish my body to her for her own sexual experience and experimentation.
Relinquish is a term I use to this day because I agreed to her request and it sums up what I too am looking for, mutually.
(Full sexual openness with each other and whenever either of of us wants to play together or with ourselves).

I felt it was absolutely necessary to establish the consents before either of us were aroused and potentially thinking less clearly in case, afterwards, she could be upset or feel guilty/annoyed/confused or any such negative feeling.

I was taking the conversation a little slowly so as not to pressure her but she took it to the end in one step! lol
A lovely roller-coaster, for me.

It was an amazing conversation; one that I have yet to have in such a mature way with women of any age.
I consider her 'the one who got away'. I could have fallen for her and possibly already was falling, however, it wasn't to be.

Still, to get back on topic, if there's no generation gap apparent in the conversation between an older guy and the younger woman, it can be a really powerful and enjoyable experience for them both.
She can learn from him and try things that nobody ever need know she's tried whilst he will enjoy the time of his life especially if - as I do - he likes to give before receiving. And never taking.

 

Wonderful! This should be viewed as a fine way to handle the age gap! Well done!!

 

Well, I have gotten to know this young woman a little better. She is still a mystery but, I now know enough to understand that it is extremely unlikely we would connect if anything happened with our respective marriages. For starters, we are of very different social classes with different types of friends, tastes, humor, etc. And we have very little in common as far as interests and lifestyles go. It seems she might be self-centered too and she shows little outward gratitude which has always been a big turn off to me.

Someone mentioned earlier that some young woman get off on flirting with older men. I am beginning to wonder if that was the case here. On the other hand, she seems to be unpredictable. At times, she is super warm and with the most provocative eye contact from any woman I have been around. Other times, it is as though I am not even around. What ever connection we had, confirmed by her family member, seems to have faded a bit. Yet, she is still inviting me to her parties.

Maybe a big tease, testing her abilities, trying to give boost to her insecurities. Perhaps a major flake. Maybe it was a fleeting emotional fling for her. Perhaps she had an attraction to me that changed, yet she still wants to have a friend connection of some kind. Maybe it was all wishful thinking on my part, wanting to feel desired by a young, beautiful thing. Might just be a combination of all of the above. Who knows. Despite finding her ways off-putting, oddly, I still like her. She is undoubtedly an incredibly sexy creature, that, without doubt, captured me with the way she gazed into my eyes. It would be best for me if I cut off my ties with her completely. Not easy when I have ties with her family, and see her a few times monthly.

 

I would keep it at just that! If not, could be a complicated situation. Just my thoughts;/)

 

I think that I am bothered by the term "attracted" relative to interactions between males and females. Many young women grow up looking to their fathers for guidance as they grow up. Some young women do not have fathers in their lives, so they may look to older men for guidance or advice. Young men, in reality, know nothing about the emotional needs of women. Perhaps they look toward older men for emotional stability and experience. I say that with the admission that I am an older man and have never experienced attention by a younger woman in any reality.

 

Thanks. I agree. If I would not have to see her again, that would be best for me. Hard though given our ties. And the way she looks into my eyes makes me feel completely powerless. The biggest issue for me is all the mixed signals. Terrible what a woman can do to a man. Terrible what a man's brain can do to himself.

I'm in a position of a job transfer in a couple years which I am going to take. At that point, our paths would no longer cross as they now do. If I could transfer now, I would!

 

Bottom line..if it’s ment to be it will! Hope the best for you!

 

These days --I should be so lucky!!

 

Thank you. In the beginning, that is exactly how I approached it in my mind. And it was surprisingly easy for me. Then came the stronger eye gazes, and her family member telling me there was a special connection with us. It was all over at that point.

Crazy to me how one's mind can run with something like this after such innocent interactions and words. I am embarrassed and ashamed. Yet, I don't know that I can accept all the blame with the way she would lock eyes with mine. I don't know that it was THAT innocent. In a way, I'm slightly upset with her. But, I should be able to control my thoughts better. Beauty can really screw with a guy!