I Discovered I'm Trans

Transguy · Feb 23, 2023

Is there any updates? I’m happy to support you. I’m ftm transgender and been on hrt/testosterone for 7 months

AlabamaSissy · Feb 26, 2023

WesternNudists said: ↑

Hello everyone, I am a straight male (or so I thought) and I just wanted to let you know that tonight I discovered I'm trans. I had always been a little curious about it but I finally took the plunge and put on a pair of panties, a dress, high heels and lipstick and I was amazed at how comfortable I felt. I was walking around my house all night tonight in these and it felt so great and natural. I think in the end I was trying to deny this part of myself but it feels so liberating to finally accept it. Any thoughts or advice on how to proceed?
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well I also just came out to myself.i also love wearing bra,panties,and sexy girl stuff it's awesome and exciting and makes me wild for guys ok.

Lauren5158 · Mar 22, 2023

BiGuySW said: ↑

Full and lasting happiness is elusive, but pan-sexual and pan-gender men do the best we can, making little adjustments, and sometimes big adjustments, along the way.

I've known for a long time that I need to express both my masculinity and my femininity in order to survive. This is not always easy to do in a world where so many people want you to only express maleness or femaleness. But, here is what I have found.

Open-minded women and gay men tend to be better listeners than straight men. If you need to express your inner life, make friends with good listeners, and talk to them whenever they have time and the inclination. Let them express themselves, also. This has allowed me to be both masculine and feminine at the same time. I don't tell my friends about the details of my love life, but I do express appreciation and love for anyone who is willing to share what is really happening in their lives and hear what is really happening in my life.

Many men are just busting at the seams from all their conditioning. It is so difficult for them to be "manly" all the time-- so confining. When you find men like this, make some space in your life for them. So many men have almost zero vocabulary for expressing what they feel, because even just developing this vocabulary is considered "feminine". But don't let that stop you. Be feminine when you need to. Express your femininity whenever you have the chance, and let other men do the same.

The world will not wildly spin of its axis if you become more sensual, affectionate. and loving. It's definitely an adventure to experience and express both masculinity and femininity, but for many of us, it is essential to our survival. If you feel trapped by society's definition of a man, escape from the trap. This probably does not fit into the classical perception of transgender people only including those who change from male to female, or vice versa. There are many who encompass the whole spectrum of gender.
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BiGuySW said: ↑

I was lucky, because I discovered that I was non-binary early in life, even before I first started having sexual relations with others. Depending on the situation, I felt masculine, feminine, or a fluid mix of both in my relationships. This allowed me to resonate with other men who had made the same discovery. I have found that non-binary cis-men naturally gravitate to each other, and that they end up becoming close with open minded women. That reduced the feeling of being trapped in a man's body, although there are many situations where I have to cloak my feminine aspects for safety purposes (I live in the rural southwestern part of the USA).

However, I read so many posts from men who talk about how hard it is to bust out of society's gender "rules" and find other men they can relate to in an open and affectionate manner. They strike me as feeling extremely trapped. Many of them end up focusing on male genital fetishes, and feel deeply conflicted about their sensuality. These men tend to have a difficult time expressing the emotions they are experiencing. Women had to work hard to achieve each stage of liberation in society, and men will have to do the same with regard to overcoming society's gender "rules". I encourage trapped men to share their feelings with other men who feel trapped, either in informal one-on-one situations or at men's group situations.

And obviously, there are people who have known since early in life that they were trapped in the wrong sex assignment at birth. I have witnessed various stages of the transition made by two of these women from male to female. In both cases, they went from feeling trapped to gradually feeling liberated. This was wonderful to observe in each case. Both women are so much happier now than they were before.

People yearn to be their authentic selves.
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Well stated, BiGuySW!

Lauren5158 · Mar 22, 2023

KathyL said: ↑

It is quite possible that you are trans, but that realization doesn't come in one night. The best advice for how to proceed is to talk to a gender therapist. They will explore how you feel about your gender identity, why you think you might be transgender, and what your goals are. They can help you plan what to do about it if you are indeed transgender.

You won't get a lot of knowledgeable support here. I try, but fighting off the fetishists is a losing battle. There are better sites for this subject. PM me if you are interested.

Be sure to distinguish gender expression and gender roles from gender identity. Gender expressions and roles are social constructs. Gender identity is who you are, and is something you are born with.
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"You won't get a lot of knowledgeable support here. I try, but fighting off the fetishists is a losing battle. There are better sites for this subject. PM me if you are interested."
I'm a newbie becoming acquainted with This forum. Trying to learn more about myself... Read your response and would like to know more about the "better sites" you have referenced.

KathyL · Mar 22, 2023

Lauren5158 said: ↑

"You won't get a lot of knowledgeable support here. I try, but fighting off the fetishists is a losing battle. There are better sites for this subject. PM me if you are interested."
I'm a newbie becoming acquainted with This forum. Trying to learn more about myself... Read your response and would like to know more about the "better sites" you have referenced.
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That was an old post. Things improved here since then. I won't post links to other forums here, because that is not considered kosher anywhere. I will PM you.

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