Bi Married Males: Complexity/Sacrifices

I agree.I think most guys would be OK with Male to Male sex if society didn't bash them for it.
Doesn't make them "gay". There are various shades of grey between gay and straight

 

Well said.

Ignorance, sadly, is like a disease that continues to poison with its harmful toxins, if left unchecked.

Sadly, tolerance and common sense seem to be in very short supply, these days.

I don't believe in "labels"; enjoy sex PERIOD, with EITHER (or both) genders, if that's what you enjoy........

"Live long and prosper"

 

My wife is aware that I use a gay chat site where I masturbate with other guys on cam. She tolerates it as long as I do it when she is out. She does not know that I visit the local gay sauna for m2m. I'm not sure how she would react to finding out. I must add that she has seen me masturbate another guy in a circle jerk group, so may have already guessed that it's not just an on line thing.

 

IMHO, I think that your wife has, by now, guessed that what you are doing via cam is not the complete picture, by any means.

Just use your common sense, and just see what the future holds..........

"Live long and prosper"

 

VERY well said; cannot agree more.

"Straight" values and views are virtually forced down your throat since childhood days.

No wonder gay and bi male teens are often so confused and perplexed.

What role gay/bi role models do they have?

Even the best and most sincere heterosexual counselor/therapist cannot even BEGIN to know what hells a gay/bi teen endures every day of his life.

You have to pray that these kids AT LEAST have parents who are loving and supportive.....

"Live long and prosper"

 

I guess you're right. I must be very naive to think otherwise. I have decided to talk to her, and gauge her response/feelings.

 

I think this is a very wise (and certainly mature) decision on your part.

Being honest and open with your wife will, if nothing else, establish what is true and what is not, and, also, keep you "in the clear", so far as being truthful goes.

Certainly hope all goes well, my friend.

"Live long and prosper"

 

VERY sound and wise advice.

In such a "sensitive" situation, preparing for a worse-case scenario might NOT be pleasant, BUT, it DOES give you the upper hand of being prepared against what you might NOT expect.

There is so much at stake in a situation such as this; honesty.......and, of course, DISCRETION.......are what should be focused on here......

"Live long and prosper"

 

Again, I am in total agreement with you.

Sometimes, being honest and open comes at a VERY heavy price, without a doubt.

I believe it is VERY wise to weigh all your options BEFORE to decide to "spill", so to speak.

Discretion is a very good medicine, of course, but it must be taken wisely....

"Live long and prosper"

 

Thanks for the advice. I have decided to give the situation a lot more thought before speaking to her.

 

THINK methodically....and RATIONALLY....before "opening the floodgates".

You most certainly DO NOT to open a "Pandora's Box", perhaps, revealing too much.

Just think ALL OPTIONS out, before revealing too much.

Good luck, my friend.......

"Live long and prosper"

 

Personally, the more a bi or gay man ages, the more support and companionship he needs, especially from other males.

It is very important to "male bond", especially emotionally, as we age......

"Live long and prosper"