Should my first bi experience be with a couple or one person?

I posted an ad on Craigslist this week, and seemingly forgot about it after a few days. A couple of days later, I received an email from this black nudist married couple just a couple of years older than me, wanting to hook up very soon. He's a bottom twink type, and she's the "come fuck me" type. Both are swingers, and seem like normal people (aside their lifestyle) based on my conversation with the guy.

I've obviously had a strong desire to explore my bi side, but at the same time I'm feeling extremely nervous about it, now that I have the opportunity to act it out. Probably because I don't know what to expect... I'm pretty sure a lot of alcohol in a cozy environment will losen my inhibitions, but at the same time it's with people I don't know all that well. Like myself, they're looking for a regular hook up with someone they can trust, so I guess it's just a matter of getting to know them I guess. And what makes matters even more perfect for the both of us is they're only a 7 minute drive away, AND I get to bang his wife if I want.... Decisions, decisions.

So I guess my question to you, is what advise can you give me to make me relax and enjoy the experience IF I decide to go through with it? ...Or should I forget about this opportunity (with them) and start off slow with just one person?

 

I'd say all of you should meet somewhere neutral where there is no sexual pressure, how about you all go on a hike? beach? lunch? I think once you meet in this way for the first time you'll know what to do next good luck dude!!!!

 

You should definately get to know someone before jumping into the sack with them. They could creep you out, have disease or something worse.
My experience was with a married couple and I knew the wife very well, prior. Good luck

 

Maybe I'm so nervous because I'm thinking that something will happen. But I guess you did raise a good point, in that all it is is just a conversation with them in person. The guy seems very cool, but very caucious . Which is understandable, because I feel the same way. But I guess there is no harm in meeting them to see if we all click.

 

As others said - get to know them first - over a fue drinks then see how it goes from there.
- I wouldent think it would be good to just go and have a first time one night stand with guy - it might not be the best for the first time.

 

Well, I finally mustered the courage to pay them a visit last night, and both the husband and wife seem like normal people. We all get along very well, and managed to get through an hour of conversation without any uncomfortable silences. I thought it was funny how they dispensed with the small talk and got right down to my sexuality, and what I thought about their lifestyle. In a nutshell, they're bisexual nudists that have been married for 20 years. Very young and hip, and attractive - only a year or two older than me. He's more on the twink side, and she kind of reminds me of the frizzy-haired black woman on "Extra" (tv show).

We all get along, so I think we'll get together one of these days really soon. They're actually looking for a permanent swinging group, but in the 6 years they've been on the west coast, they haven't found the right people. In any case, I'll keep everyone posted.

 

My wife started me after about 6 months of dressing me in black nylons,panties, garter belt bra (Stuffed) and bright red lipstick. We visited an adult bookstore and she had me suck two cocks with a condom on. Fast forward 10 years and here I sit. I want to try bare back and drink his cum but like most, I afraid of catching something. I have a few ads posted on various swinger sites but they all want money to answer a message. So I am marking time and hope somethiing pops. I advertized for a couple because I figure that would be the safest way to go. You would think a city as large as Philadelphia, would have more swingers. Play safe.

 

Personally, I would go with one person ONLY for your first bi experience; in this way, you will FULLY experience your first m/m encounter with no "distractions", so to speak.

Regardless, USE DISCRETION....I cannot stress this enough; ENJOY your experience, BUT, don't throw caution to the winds, either......

"ive long and prosper"

 

I’d say one person. With someone that understands you are curious at this point. The first step is being naked with another man. Many of us started off one sided. We would get a blowjob from a guy then want to immediately hit the door. Your first should be expecting this. He will also tell you that you are welcome back anytime. You likely will be back as (in my experience) getting head from a guy is so much better than with a woman. You may not even cum that first time. The next time, you’ll be extremely horny and will be thinking about texting him but not sure but you will eventually. What will hook you is that first time you cum from his blowjob.

This is how it started for me. I still don’t do a lot of kissing during sex but like it before hand. When i walk in the door and I’m horny AF. Hands wandering, making out, etc. You may find that you enjoy giving anal and not receiving. Could be the opposite. When you suck your first cock, tell him to not tell you when he’s going to cum. This way you won’t be able to chicken out. Swallowing is the best part.

 

I guess if the opportunity presents and you are ready then size the opportunity. I've been looking discretely but never found anything except a cruising lounge but wasn't comfortable with him so I passed on his advances.

I think it could be hot to get with a couple as I'm mostly interested in women but wanting to try cock.

I could go one on one with the right male I don't want to pass on the right opportunity but having a female to encourage us to play with each other and also participate would be fun.

If it's just a BJ from a guy and hit the door you will know if you want to go further. Seems like there are guys who get their satisfaction from providing BJs for other guys with no expectations of anything more in return than the opportunity to suck them off.

I want to try a few things and the opportunity on offer will dictate how that goes.

Till then keep looking and don't give up hope if this is something you need to explore