I often think of the concept of being intimate with another man and it is quite appealing. It is only when i put a face to this man that the feeling sort of decreases. I know to some level i like men, but its noit any specific man... can anyony relate or explain? peace
You probably just haven't met him yet. I always had an idea of what I wanted from a man, but I could never quite get the face right. There was always something slightly wrong. But then I stopped looking for perfection, and it got easier. That's kind of what I want to say: everyone has this perfect partner in their mind, but generally, it's what's different about a person that attracts you to them. You can't predict those differences until you meet someone who, although nothing like what you tihnk you're attracted to, will become what you really want.
Or it could just be curiosity or fantasy. My masseuse had thought about being with women at one point in her life, but without seeing a face. She finally had a chance to explore these thoughts to find out that fantasy and reality were two different stories. She's had one or two thoughts since the experience, but overall, her curiosity was satisfied and she's straight. That's just one of a few explinations for your thoughts. SelfControl's theory could be true as well. At any rate, there are others who have felt like you do now. nothing weird about it.
As long as you know you could have an emotional relationship with another guy, and feel the want to, then you probably are. And also, if you feel sexually attracted as well, whatever the degree. Just go with the flow, experiment, whatnot, and you'll know in time.
thats exactly how i am with girls- like i cant tell if im bi or not i am so confused- i get turned on by guys but i often find myself looking at girls and ive hooked up with a couple and that feels good too- so confusing
