My random thoughts on marriage-like em or hate em!

Pathetic! You should have been the subject of the evening!

 

sometimes i wonder if people are supposed to be serial monogamists.

 

I have nothing against marriage and someday I might like to get married as I do think that it can really be meaningful to people. But most people seem to marry for the wrong reasons or don't try hard enough to make it work.

But even though I love my boyfriend more than anyone else except for my family, I have absolutely no desire to marry him. Which is a good thing since he has told me point blank that while he cares a lot for me, he doesn't love me, and will never marry me or anyone else anyway.

 

I love her dearly but on this I'll have to agree. Sorry if that sounds selfish but it was suppose to be my bachlorette party.

My wedding day made up for it. I had a beautiful wedding. I danced the entire time I was so happy Our day had finally came.

It rained too but for some reason it stopped when we had to be outside.

 

i read the first page and before i read the rest, just some comments... you do have some VERY good points, angela.

for me though... no matter what shit ive talked on dan and all of our conflicts, marrying him is the best thing that has ever happened to me. it just.... shows in a way that we are committed (not that you NEED marriage for that)- but it can take it to a different level.... saying "im willing to settle down and be there in sickness and in health and all that... BECAUSE I LOVE YOU THAT MUCH....

marriage is not for everyone. but for some people, when you find that person that is your BEST FRIEND and that through it all... all you wanna do is fall asleep holding them.... *shrugs* it's what i want and i wouldnt change it for anything.

also... and dont harp too much on this... but dan and i lived together in a very committed relationship for 3 years before then..... NOW i can go to school and be on his health insurance and get tax breaks... meaning its easier to care for the person you love.

im rambling but my marriage to my husband is the best thing i ever had and it took me a while to realize that.

 

Laura, that was BEAUTIFUL and i could tell it was from the heart. even though my story is different... that is how i feel about dan. every time i think about him and how much he cares, i get teary eyed. we've been through our ups and downs... his fault, my fault, both of our faults... but when it comes down to it if you love someone and both want it to work... it turns into the MOST beautiful thing. more beautiful then ANYTHING i could have ever pictured.

it's not like the fairy tale that people might think... but its BETTER and more REAL.

 

:& I almost cried when I read that.. beauitful

 

i think its all bout insecurity n jealosy n never a good idea .....

 

thanks peanuts You're my hero

haha lets get hitched lace and feet we can sit around in our underware and eat Chef straight from the can

 

Don't you have to be a jerk somewhere else?

 

i've never had much faith in marriage, nor did my husband. it's kinda funny. his mother has been married 4 times. she believes in getting married before living with them, but apparently she doesn't believe in staying married. sheesh. we're both from broken homes, and my mother is in another misrable marriage, though this one lasted longer than the oneto my father did. i've never EVER seen a marriage work out. lol. so why the fuck did i get married?

i wasn't going anywhere. i was committed to dave. i didn't even do it for my religion, there's no marriage ceremony in the bible. for all we know a wedding was just people saying before their peers and neighbors "hey, we're married. we're gonna share our shit now."

it was pretty much for legal reasons. it made no difference to our relationship at all. whatever nominal social standing is not really something we worry about.

 

I like it when people still have a good/normal (normal meaning the same after marriage as it was before marriage) relationship after getting married. It's so often though that people become somebody completely different than who they were before.

Another reason I forgot to mention, which someone brought up on one of these posts is that who knows if your point of views are going to change. For me, yeah- it's nice to think that I will be with the man I love forever, but I really don't know that. And I don't know if he would feel the way about me forever--even IF I did for him.

I respect couples who have working and LASTING marriages. I understand it takes a lot of hard work. My parents are a great example for that. Hell, so are my Grandparents-- BUT my Grandparents really don't like each other. But still, I respect them very much for taking their wedding vows seriously. It is something serious in my opinion. (Too serious for me to ever do!)