what to do about oral

ok heres the problem...my bf acts like he has no problem with giving oral, the thing is when it actualy comes down to it he gripes and complains. once i get him down there he looks at it, and that makes me really uncomfortable, so i just dont have him stop...any idea's on what i can say to him...I've told him it annoys me but nothing...

 

what's his problem with it? I had to ease my man into with some chocolate syrup. He was afraid of the taste. He loves it now. Try it after you're super clean and fresh. Do you have hair? You should never shave just for a guy, but some guys don't like the hair.

 

I have a simular problem with my fiancee. He refuses to go down on me. He did once and that was right after i had douched and he smelt me and was disgusted and ever since then the only thing I got from him was his dick.

 

that's awful!! I can't beleive he was actually disgusted!

As if taking a cock in the mouth is a treat. You know, you guys don't smell that great either!!

 

This may be a little inappropriate, but I have to promote my beliefs. Veggie chicks smell and taste yummier than our meat and dairy eating counterparts. That being said, if your man won't go down, you may need to get a new man. Seriously, I think it's a complete shame that some hundred million women in the US don't have orgasms. If he gets off and you don't, he's a complete jerk, and there isn't much of a point to having sex with him. You need to talk to him, without getting upset, and find out why he doesn't want to go down.

There are a few magazines for men out there that explain oral sex pretty well. I bought one for my Xhusband, once. I didn't tell him about the section on oral sex, I just told him that I saw it at the store and I thought he might like it; he thought I was being sweet. After a few days, the mag sat with a nice coat of dust on the coffee table. I picked it up while he watched TV, and started flipping through it. I playfully pointed out the section on going down and started reading it aloud. He gained interest, and read the rest of it later. He improved a little, afterwards.

I've never been timid about it. I've always told my X and every guy after him to go down. They always listen. I guess it helps that I have quite a bit of confidence. I think you can get anyone to do just about anything in bed, if you have confidence. It also helps to move around and make noise, when he's doing good. That lets him know that you're into it. Guys hate it when you just lay there. That can cause long-term anxiety in bed.

Don't use douche. That's bad for you. Shaving down there is bad for you, too. If he has a problem with it, he's a shallow jerk.

 

how is shaving BAD for you?

 

Exactlly.. I love the smell of ball sweat... Not

 

Yes Douching is bad for you.. your body starts to rely on the douch to clean it instead of cleaning it itself.. Shaving is only bad in the aspect that the hair keeps germs and such from entering same thing as eyelashes and nose hair and ear hair... keeps crap out.... but its not horrible to shave... Im personally under the belive that i leave some hair.. its still doing its job

 

I knew douching was bad, but I never thought shaving was. I used to get UTI's all the time and when I started shaving, they went away. I thought the germs got STUCK ot the hair and that's why I got them so much. I don't smell as bad after I started shaving too.

Is that just a coincidence?

 

Well, just another thought, along with what the others have offered... but are you sure he even "knows" what to do once he's down there? Maybe he's a little intimidated and not sure what to do? Sounds crazy, but I've heard it happen before..... LOL.... Maybe a little coaching on your part could ease the chap?

Lynn

 

i feel the same way... i think i smell better.. but when i used to shave it all off id get yeast infections all the time... my gyno told me about the germ thing.. i havent gotten a yeast infection since i started leaving some hair (well unless i take antibiotics but that dont count ) I would think you were probaly getting them from the germs getting stuck... but i supose air born germs and body germs are different... Hell were damned if we do and damned if we dont

 

Damned if we do and damned if we don't. Isn't that the truth! Haha. I think that's bullshit that he won't go down. Or do anything when he goes down. Maybe he is scared. That would explain why he acts like he has no problem with it (to be macho and whatnot) and then flips when he actually gets down there. Or he's just in awe of your supersexiness. You might tell him what you want, give him some coaching to get the ball rolling. Good luck!

 

I completley agree it's proven that a diet lacking in animal products actually makes you smell better all over. I still don't eat meat but i don't smell as nice as when i ate no animal products at all.

 

yeah but not orgasming isn't always the guys fault. you can be the best and most giving lover in the world but the chick might still not be able to and it has absolutley nothing to do with him at all.

 

no it's not that's what I like about being hairless is that the smell is a lot less strong but then I won't shave because I don't want to have to stay hairless all the time and waxing is a pain0literally heh.

 

Why would he not. There are very few things hotter than making a girl orgasm with my mouth! Not to mention the taste and smell are extremely hot.

 

All right ladies a question for you. This girl I'm seeing won't let me go down on her she says she doesn't like it. I don't know if she let somebody else do it and they didn't do it right or if she doesn't feel comfortable with herself. I have a feeling she would absolutly love it if she let me. So what should I do? I believe it is an integral part of a sexual relationship. Pleasing each other with everything we have. Anyways what should I do?

 

my answer is hook up with the author of this thread!!

 

she's shy about it. you guys see yourself down there all t he time but a lot of women can't see themselves-I've never seen mine so it was weird at first letting somone else see something on me that i've never seen.

 

Yeah I would but 16 is a little young for me. No offense intended.