please, try to help if you can.

My friend and I were riding in the car a few hours ago, and she was really pissed off at a few of the people we were hanging out with (at the time were in a seperate car following us). She kept bitching and bitching, and kept looking towards me like for some sort of approval. Occasionally, she'd try to get me to agree with her on part of it. I don't like drama and will usually (if the angry person tries to envolve me in some way) try to defuse the feeling in them. I don't really like to be around others that are angry, and I hate when people try to share that emotion with me. I wanna know what you think I should do, because this has happened before, and the usual result is they wind up snapping at me for trying to make them feel better and I end up sad.


She said to me, "No one is happy all the time, because life is not a happy place, you have to make your own happiness, and deal with the fact that people get angry."

I thought:
1.maybe
2.that's only an oppinion
3.yes
4.no

 

unless she was about to give it up to you, dont compromise your true feelings so cheaply

 

give what up? i don't feel i did compromise my feelings, i'm a little confused...

 

i think she was right

 

If you were comfortable with the other people, then don't think you're obligated to agree with her by any means.

On the other hand, if she's a good friend of yours, and she's not confortable with them, then there is almost certainly a reason behind it, and you should at least keep your guard up (in some sense of the word) and realize that she thinks something isn't right/good about the situation.

If you think there is no substance behind what she thinks, then talk to her about it. =) Ask her why she's so angry with them.

 

You don't have to agree with her, but I think it's somewhat petty not to acknowledge her feelings are valid. As a friend, you should accept the entire spectrum of her emotions. Friends don't demand friends stifle their emotions because it makes them "uncomfortable." Give her a reasonable amount of time to be angry, state your opinion if asked, but be supportive.

 

I'm not not trying to accept it, it's just, it seems that this is a repeating pattern. She told me that she was jealous of one of the girls in the other car because some guy they were with seemed to be paying more attention to her. I mean it's not the same exact reason every time, but they are all in that same arena. She said that she was acting childish but this is the way she feels... i think i just answered my question.

 

I can't stand drama between friends. If she has such a problem I would ask why she bothered to come along at all. To bitch the whole way? you have better things to listen to. Don't try and make people like that feel better. Tell them to quit their bitchin because she put herself in that position to begin with. If you have no opinion, tell her. Don't be caught in the middle. You don't have to make people feel better. Ignore her until she stops. Or tell her to take her problem up with the person she is mad at. If she can't she needs to shut her mouth.

 

mi god.. try this if you can... she's giving you a present of anger..wrapped up in a ribboned box. You say, no thank you, you keep it...if she insists, be like..no really, thanks for all the effort and everyting, but i just don't want to take that gift away from you. it looks better in your hands...i think you should KEEP IT!!

 

The best way to resolve conflict is to shout so loud that they cant get a word in.

 

hahalolaahahaa

 

I think this statement is very true. Emotions such as Happiness or Anger is generated internally. This is comforting since nobody has the power to determine whether we are to be happy or sad.

Its been said a gap of time exists between external stimulus (an event, statement, etc.) and our reaction to it. This gap gives us the ability to choose, consciencley, our reaction. For example someone insults us, we have the ability to choose whether to go off on that person, calling them every name in the book, to ignore it or laugh at it. I prefere laughing. The person gets nowhere with me and I end up in a much better mood.

 

Slap her like a pimp and blame it on tourettes

 

ahahaholoha..

 

id say,stop dragging the rest of us down and get over it and add a little "haha" at the end to influence her brain with a slightly positive impact.

 

don't yell or get angry because then you are just stooping to her level.