I Don't Know What To Do:Parents and Drugs)

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man that would be crazy. sorry i cant help you out. peace.

 

You're from Canada too? That's cool. Thanks for writing and reading though, I know this is a hard thing to help with so it's allll right!

Peace

 

Would pulling a guilt trip on them work? Like, watch a movie with people doing cocaine in it with your parents and say things like, "Look at these people ruining their lives and bodies" and "I feel bad for their families". It's especially effective if your parents don't know that you know.

 

cocaine isn't the worst thing in the world. You said you've tried it yourself so how can you be such a hypocrite?

Are your parents in debt? Do they miss work to do coke? Are they bad parents because of it?

If not I suggest you lighten up and let your parents do their own thing. they are old enough and smart enough to know the consequenses and you're no baby and can take care of yourself.

If you're really concerned about it, don't take dumbass advice like Silver Clover's, just be honest with them. Come out and ask if you feel that you have to know what's going on. There's nothing wrong with a little honesty. I think they would appreciate your concern over some stupid head game to try and make them feel bad.

If there is a problem, realize there is nothing you can do but love them and offer your support when they want to stop. If they don't, you can't change them so just love them for who they are. I'm sure this is not a "new" habit. I imagine they were trying to be responsible and wait until you were old enough to take care fo yourself before getting really high.

 

If your parents are into it, and they have been for some time ... if they show no signs of making flawed decisions ... if nothing is suffering as a result of their little "habit", if you will, then I see no reason for alarum.

Cocaine can be bad ... it's addictive, at least. But something tells me, from the way you presented this, that it isn't a big problem, at least not for them. Perhaps you don't know them anymore, but then, did you ever? Get to know THESE parents, and you'll be at the very least closer to knowing their true selves, and you'll be closer to the answers you seek. =)

The only stupid question is an unasked one. So ask them why before getting upset over it. =)

Ciao, good luck.

 

Don't get too worked up, coke ain't so bad. Unless your mom's turning tricks for crack you got nothing to worry about. Old people need to party too!

 

ok, so my dad was a serious coke head for a while and had to go to NA meeting and the whole deal. coke IS bad, its very addictive, especially for older people, just my opinion.
i agree with the guilt trip idea, if that doesnt work, approach them directly and very blunt. say "i know you sniff cocaine and i dont like it" be real with them, they'll be real with you.
if you need to talk PM me. peace

 

hmm the others said if they can handle it cool, i tend to agree with them except... how exactly can they afford this? i mean its not a cheap habbit... i'd imagine

but yeah no head games... you asked exactly what you should say to your parents... say what you posted here! be honest and direct... unless they are abusive which i understand would complicate matters.

 

especially for older people

yup.....older people have better taste than the younger ones taking speed, dexamhetamine, cold and flu tablets, etc... and quite often better contacts too!! yay for the oldies...and watch it, you all end up there one day!!!

 

I just don't see how it's any of this girls business if they aren't spending too much money, blowing off other things to do coke, or becoming abusive in any form.

plenty of people do coke just to have a good time. It can be addicting and a hard thing to deal with, but that doesn't sound like the case here.

your parents aren't perfect. they're human and more than mommies and daddies.

I agree with stenphaniesomewhere. Older folks always know what they are talking about.

 

heh...

 

its her business because she is worried about their helth and lively hood! jesus people, cocaine is ok? i wouldnt want my parents doing coke, i bitched my dad out everyday for a month when i found a staw cut in half in his room!

 

they know what theyre doin....i mean if theyre in thier 50's they should

 

I care about lots of people's health, but that doesn't mean I have the right to get involved. My parents smoke which is just as addicting and just as harmful and I don't think I have the right to tell them not to.

coke isnt ok. It can turn people into horrible monsters. But only when it gets out of hand. Notice the author hasn't responded to tell us whether or not they are spending tons of money and time on it, or if it was just a thing they do every once and a while for fun. that's why I think she blew it out of proportion. If some girl said my parents are doing coke and becoming abusive some way, they are putting themselves in debt, it's all they do and one of them is going to have a heart attack ,then I would be all for stepping in and saying something.

But to me it sounds like someone created a little more drama than need be for some attention.

 

that's really tough..
I'd imagine you'll have to start making big desicions about drug culture.
And how family patterns repeat.!.

you've got some serious breaking of patterns to do..I say you never 'end up' anywhere stupid if you know you aren't one of them..good luck + go for it, you've got my 100% support in anything you say/shout/throw/write/etc to them, or with anyway you handle buisness...xxxyou've got my support

 

lay a guilt trip when they're coming odwn

 

I would suggest talking to madcrappie

http://hipforums.com/forums/showthread.php?t=71284

 

do they do it all the time? a lot of people just do it once in awhile unless it's an addiction I don't think it's a huge deal.

 

the whole family patterns thing is bullshit. My dad is a hardcore alcoholic now and I don't like drinking in the least. People use that as an excuse.

If she happens to get addicted to coke it's her own damn fault. She's already tried it and it's not because her parents do it. We all make our own decisions and choices.