So, What's Up with Me Not Being Able to Do It?

Honestly, I think I'm just going to have to settle for oral the rest of my life.
It hurts like a fucking bitch (let me emphasize FUCKING BITCH) when I try to have sex. We can't even fit it in all the way. My god, I just think I should give up. Any ideas as to why I'm on sexual lock-down?

 

I wish I had some ideas because I can somewhat feel your pain. It hurts everytime my man and I have sex. I can usually go with it for awhile, but we can never go that long because it becomes too painful. Luckily I have a sweet boyfriend, but it is a problem. I guess just keep trying and go really REALLY slow. How long have you been trying?

 

there is a condition you may wanna look into - vaginismus I believe it's called. Basically, you're body thinks that sex is bad (usually due to previous trauma/bad experiences) and you're muscles lock down, preventing the guy from entering.

more foreplay and more lubrication of course. Can't have too much foreplay.

 

LUBE up Girl!!! it hurts like a bitch the first time.. but it gets better with time...

relax, dont tense up... alot of the time girls will fear sex and tense up when they think it is going to hurt.. this makes entering the vagina alot harder for guys, or if you tense up while he is in you, it will lock you together!!!!

Just use lotsa lube, losta 4-play. get really wet and slowly work it in...

 

also, make sure he's really the one you want to lose it to and if he is make sure it's the right time, you might just be really nervous. I can't orgasm when I'm nervous the womans body reacts to things like that. try not to dwell on it either, it will just make it worse, light some candles turn on music and try to relax.... much luck to ya!

 

LUBE!

Try and fit it in, once you get it in the first time the rest are a walk in the park. Let me ask you this, is he extremely big? Also, just relax and try not to think about the pain.

 

Sounds a bit odd, but try masturbating to orgasm before sex via a pocket rocket. A clitoral orgasm makes vaginal sex like running a knife through hot butter.

 

When I"m not in the mood but my boyfriend is I let him go at it anyways but I guess my vagina isnt in the mood either because it wont let him go in...it's weird...

 

haha. the kittens will have their say, won't they? lots of tenderness, gentleness. sometimes it takea few goes for your body to accomodate, sometimes you're just too tense. sometimes you need lube (and sometimes the lube just facilitates the OUCH by allowing a stretching you don't want.)

 

yep. look into that.

 

I went to my GYN the other day... it was my first time being examined, which I was comfortable with because, when I thought about it, I'd let a guy see me, so why shouldn't another female be able to? So, I told her about it and guess what else? It's kind of sad, actually. I feel bad for my poor vagina. Because I am little (5'3 and 95 lbs.), she used a youth speculum, and it hurt! I wouldn't let her put it in... She said that I have very thick tissue and that my hymen probably isn't broken yet (she couldn't tell as we couldn't even get the speculum to go in). It's weird, but she suggested a vibrator/dildo to help stretch it. I've had sex before, though. So I have (kind of) 'gotten it in' before. It's just frustrating because it ruins the moment when we try, as I'm incapable. I haven't tried lube, though. That might help... Oh, and that vaginusmus (sp?) or whatever... I've looked into that, and I'm positive that between my thick vaginal tissue and that condition (if I even have it), my body is going to be harder to break into than a Swiss bank account.

 

Lube ALWAYS helps. Best invention ever.

there are some slimline types of vibrators/dildos you may want to look into. Hell, a long candle with A LOT of lube might even be a better starting point, since they're generally slimmer yet (though not as erotic or pleasurable, since they don't vibrate)

good luck!

 

you either need a very gentle lover who will make you feel warm and comfortable and youre muscles will relax, or you need a complete a-hole who will make it fit no matter how much pain it cases you. i would offer myself for either but alas, i have decided not to harrass/flirt with chicks here no more. another idea is to get shitplowed drunk so you wont think or feel anything when it happens.

 

you have lots of time, dont worry. I agree with the others, find someone really gentle, do lots of prep to set the mood, like a bath, candles, music, hot oil massage, feathers, and just go with foreplay as long as you can stand it, hours even....if it is not ready then just both use fingers, and maybe he will be nice and go down for a while. That is something that always heated things up for me. In a few years, I bet you will have this thing put to bed, so to speak.