help for my friend. this kid i grew up with is a really nice person has always been over weight, i think its genetic cause his whole family is large. well he's really lonely now, i just got a girl friend, the first one i actually care about, so im spending more time with her and not as much with him. i wanna help get him a girl friend so he's not lonely, but he's really shy and sensitive about his weight he thinks no girl would ever want him. i dont know what do do to help him get more confidence, i mean hes big but hes in proportion to the rest of his body and hes nice. what can i do? what kind of girl would he have the best results with?
well everyone has to walk thier own path, and come to grips on thier own with thier issues, so they can continue walking it. pretty much anything you actively do is only going to hinder this walk. but women do like big boys. im serious. you need to convince him of this, make him believe it, so he's not so self conscious. this is wahts getting in his way, not his weight. alot of women prefer big guys, because they think they they will "hit it" harder. make him believe this, so he gets that "i want to hit it hard" look in his eyes, then keep him away from your girl.
........damn that's funny wayfarer. until your boy is happy with who he is, he's stuck. women dig confidence and he just has to believe in himself for something to happen. of course you could find a woman that would be willing to help him get out of this rut he's in, but you don't want your friend to find out what you're up to. i haven't done it in a while but when a bunch of us guys would go out i'd walk up to a woman and tell her my buddy just broke up with his girl (or whatever the story is) and could use some company. nearly everytime she'd walk over and at least talk to him. good luck
I agree, we all must search within for our answers, you can't help me, or me you. The most you can do is like zendude says, and also whatever he might ask for help with, but he has to initiate it. unsolicited advice is rarely effective.....
