Men, Women and what comes first, the romance or the sex

My wife and I have this discussion every 4-5 months. We just get busy with our lives and our kids lives that we lose focus of our relationship.

It would be interesting to know how to keep that edge in your romance and relationship. Not talking about sex......lol But that should be a different thread.

 

mynameiskc

i agree with that. i feel this way with people that i don't know very well. if my boyfriend does something romantic, i know it is genuine so there it is no annoyance or embarassment. sexual arousal, for me, does not need to be brought on with emotional romance.
although my boyfriend (and many other men) always says that when i woman fantasizes about another man, it is worse than a man look at pornography. i think for some woman fantasizing is the same thing(in a roundabout way) as what looking at porn is for a man.


so everyone is different

 

I am a very romantic person but my husband is not however he makes up for it in so many other areas that I never feel like I am missing romance.

I used to want to hear the words "I Love You" all the time. I realized that actions speak louder than words and my husband tells me he loves me several times a day by all that he does for me. I feel more loved than I ever have.

I have a wonderful relationship with my husband. We have great communication with each other. We can talk about anything and everything and I always appreciate the fact that we can.

Romance and sex is important but communication is the key. For me anyway.

 

sex isn't really important.


I'm way too mod for sex...I'm generally sitting in the snow writing emotionless songs about detachment.

 

hm. i wouldn't wanna date you then...lol.

dave will occaisionally do something profoundly sweet and thoughtful, and it is so awesome, because he's not USING it to maneuver me into fucking him. he can get that whenever.