a relationship where the two people aren't in love?

i am madly, deeply, CRAZY in love with my sweetie...and i have been in a couple relationships before where i wasn't in love and knew it. i didn't let those relationships last, because i would rather be single than be in a relationship where we aren't crazy about each other. this is just some food for thought and discussion...soooo, discuss! i want to hear everyone's opinions! is it worth it to stay in a relationship when the two people aren't "in love?"

 

if the sex is good and you both agree your not in love

 

no you shouldn't stay in a relationship if you're not in love it's usually fulfilling some other need for you if you stay in it and that's selfish.

 

how can the sex be good if you're not in love though?

 

It depends a lot on the dynamic of the relationship, I think.

My last relationship was like that - I wasn't in love with him, and about a month in I realized I would never fall in love with him. But the sex was great (at first), and neither of us seemed all that interested in a deeper, loving relationship.

It's not something I would stick with for a long time, but to satisfy my carnal desires for a period of time, it's certainly not awful.

 

i can say ive been the martyer in 'relationships' in really all the ones ive been in....so far

 

oh my god you guys seriously break out of that habit that's no way to love or be loved. Love's mutual it's two people wanting to make each other happy. Maybe it's the type of people you chose to be with?

 

What is the point of a relationship lacking love?

 

bussin a nut.

 

What's the point of a relationship if you just want sex?

 

not having to go bitch hunting to buss a nut

 

Geez you just have all the answers don't you.

 

sarcasm hurts

 

its called an orgasm

 

I wouldnt want to be with someone for long unless i loved them, but you can still have fun in a relationship and like hangin out with that person wihtout really loving them. I see love relationship is where your partner is your first priority over all other issues in your life; but thats not to say it = obsession. you can really enjoy going out with a girl but do so of course since its often nicer to have someone to be a couple with than to be single, after the fun of being single runs out. As long as you dont tell the other person that you want to be with them forever, and lie, as long as your honest when the subject comes up, and so obviosuly theyd have to be fine with it for them to not just dump you

 

being in a 'relationship' purely for sexual gratification is all well and good, unless one person thinks it's something more. hell, it's even possible to use someone for emotional gratification, a temporary placeholder to quell any loneliness you may feel.
i feel bad admitting it, but i've done both. i didn't realize i was doing it until a few months in; i'd always known that it would be temporary, and that when the time came, I'D be the one to walk out... then i realized they didn't, and every time i was with them i was terrified they'd say 'i love you' or some crap like that. so i left.

relationships like that are fine for the time being, albeit the fact that they're essentially meaningless. i never got attached to anyone i was physically involved with because they weren't special in any way, didn't have that magnetism that irrepressibly lured me to them.... but at the same time, they had something that interested me far more than a majority of the human population, and being with them was interesting in its own way.... also kept me from going crazy out of boredom, horniness or loneliness. all that changed when i met my girlfriend; i finally, after a string of pointless flings, found someone i genuinely cared about. she was the person i was looking for, and somehow, i found her.

the point is that not everyone is right for you; sometimes it'll take a long time to find that one person you can fall ridiculously in love with. but until then, there's really no point in being celibate.

 

definatly, im sayin a relationship shouldnt be about martyering, but sometimes it ends up that way. no one should be a martyer.

 

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