With Whom have You Discussed Your Masturbation Habits (face-to-face)?

Yeah, it sure is easy to talk freely about all your experiences stroking your privates here in a forum full of strangers whose faces you’ll never see. And it sure is useful to have such a forum, because it is damn difficult to do so with a real flesh-and-blood person sitting in the same room with you. I have to say, that is so sad. Here is an activity that most humans enjoy immensely on a regular basis, yet even with close friends, lovers, and family members, precious few of us would ever say, “Good Lord, do I ever love to masturbate. I do it every day, and I look forward to it in the hours leading up to my self-pleasuring time. I consider it my daily momentary visits to paradise. Praise the Lord that He has given each of us such a beautiful gift.” But there’s a fucking taboo against speaking openly about it in most cultures throughout the world. Why? For the life of me, I don’t know. Would you, for example, discuss your masturbation habits even with your primary doctor or your urologist? Probably only if something was going wrong with your tender bits ability to respond to your strokes, and maybe not even then. Would you talk about it with your best friend? “Hey Dave, you want another beer. BTW I’ve discovered a backhanded stroke that fluffs my dick to the most intense squirts I can ever remember. You want me to show you?”

Why can’t we publicly regard masturbation as the beautiful thing that it is?

So here are the folks I’ve had frank discussions with about self pleasuring...

My sister. We are close in age and since we were little, we shared all our feelings and observations. We were always unabashed about seeing each other naked. When we were in grade school, she told me how she liked to rub crayons against her panties ‘cause “It feels soooo good on my vulva” (yes, we used the words Mom taught us for our bits, penis and vulva). When I was 13 and had been masturbating for less than a year, I told her all about it (even though I didn’t know it had a name) including the details of how good it felt and about how it always ended in an emission. When she was a teen, she needed knee surgery after a sports injury, and she was on her back in bed for weeks as a result. She told me that’s that when she took up masturbation in a big way because there was nothing else to do. As adults, when her two boys reached teen-hood, she asked me to give them the masturbation talk.

My high school girlfriend — the one I had senior year. We were both still virgins when we met, but no longer a few months later. But even before that we had had frank discussions about our solo-sex habits. The first time we dry-humped was when the subject first came up. I had tried to hide that I was cumming. I held my breath so as not to cry out, and let my breath out slowly when it was over so as not to betray what my penis had done. It didn’t fool her one bit. “You just jizzed in your pants, didn’t you?” “How did you know?” “Easy. It was like your were strong and weak at the same time.” She asked me how it compared to masturbating. And from there we let flow our secrets that we both masturbated often, and that it was cool and very natural that we did, and even cooler that we could discuss it with each other. To this day she is the only sex partner I’ve had with whom I could discuss it so freely. When we were apart after I went off to college, we’d share letters and assure each other that we were giving our bits plenty of “exercise.”

There was another lady I had a brief affair with prior to getting married. After we had fucked, she asked me if I masturbated. I said yes, and we moved right on to a new topic.

Since then I’ve had one friend with whom I used to go sailing and with whom the subject came up briefly from time to time. He would complain that sex with his wife was all too often just too complicated, and how he got just as much relief but without the hassles going solo. I mostly just listened and agreed. Still I was reluctant to admit that I masturbated just about every day — multiple times on many days — even on days that I had sex with my wife. Sadly he has departed this earth — otherwise I’d still be having such discussions with him and perhaps being more forthcoming with my thoughts and experiences on the subject.

In 34 years of marriage, I never admitted to my wife that I masturbated often. She would not have taken it well — she had an attitude that all of my seminal emissions ought to be into her vagina. If I squirted onto her breast or her tummy during intimacy, she would always say, “What a waste.” Nevertheless I think she knew what my long showers were all about. And she did catch me outright, mid squirt once. And she was not at all happy about it.

So that’s my list of humans I’ve had direct conversations with about masturbation habits. I hope if you got this far, you will respond by posting your list along with what details you can remember. And feel free to rant about why it is so difficult to have such conversations.

 

My fwb. Telling her that when horny and alone I take care of things myself

It had no big effect on her, not that I expected it to have any. She was affected when together and she made my cock hard.
That was what mattered to me

 

My wife on the second date and she told me hers. Then we masturbated together on that second date. I think she wanted to see my dick before she had sex with me. She was slick.

 

It is the only secret in my life. I have masturbated for almost 60 years and nobody knows. Surprisingly, nobody catches me.

 

Do you feel as though you’ve kept your secret bottled up — that your secret struggles within you, wishing it could get out — that it would be comforting to share your secret with someone you trust? Coming here to discuss it must give you some satisfaction, otherwise you wouldn’t bother.

I sincerely wish that nobody would feel compelled to keep it secret. But I wish for good will among all humans too. How likely is that?

I still, on occasion, have frank discussions with my sister. On being cooped up alone at home because of COVID, I remarked to her that my only companions are my little dog, my hand, and my dick, and the only meaningful conversations are between the latter two. She got a chuckle out of that.

I see you are in my age group. One of the thoughts I have these days is how, at age 12 when I discovered masturbation, that I was so unaware that it would remain my close friend all my life, even into old age. The fact is that on the vast majority of the days elapsed from age 12 to age 68, I have masturbated at least once. I even use recollections of masturbating 4 times a day during my teen and twenties years as mental fodder for daily masturbations these days.

 

I would not place masturbation in the secret category because it is a normal human function like eating food. A secret would be if you never masturbated.

 

This is a good topic. I am in early 60s and actually have only ever discussed masturbation with my present partner, who I have been with for 5 years. Up until recently I believed it was a really private thing (maybe shameful - a wee bit - but much less so now in my later years)
She asked me how I did it, and wanted to see. Because she was interested, and also wanted to learn how to best give me a hand job. We subsequently decided that she would rather take me in her mouth that the hand, and I am more than happy with that as a plan.
I have also told her about my past self sucking habits. Her attitude to that was very liberated and realistic. She was impressed that I was bendy and eager enough to do that as she had never heard of it as a thing before. And she didnt think it was weird, Its just advanced masturbation isnt it? As she said to me, you love fellatio don't you, so why wouldnt you do it to yourself if you could?

 

I’ve openly discussed it with two women: my girlfriend when I was 19, and my wife. It was that girlfriend that “opened me up” to actually acknowledging it. She was 21 and is known her for about 3 years before dating. She was nowhere near a slut, but she was open about her sexuality. She. We started dating, she would openly masturbate after intercourse. I’ve always made my lovers orgasm from oral, but only 10% (?) of the time from intercourse. So when she didn’t cum, she did it to herself. I was amazed by her honesty and lack of “bashfulness”. I swore to be like her from then on. Flash forward almost a year later and I me the woman who I’m married to. I’ve always been open about it. She is extremely private about masturbation. I’ve tried to get her to open up about it, but she insists that’s her “private time”. I wish it was different, but I respect that.

 

My sister that we shared a bedroom for years and we have seen each other masturbate thousands times, my girlfriends some cousins and friends and of course my wife!!

 

As you said masturbation is a part of human nature, and there is nothing shameful to hide, but those people who don't like to talk about it most believe it is guilt according to their religious belief, Otherwise, they like to talk about it openly.

 

It’s been a topic of discussion with a female friend who I have no sexual connection with via text messaging, never face to face.

 

Friends in HS, wife, sister in law, lady friend.

 

Childhood friends, girlfriends, folks on here.

 

Childhood friends, a girlfriend or two and wife, but also... I worked for a company that sent me and a woman my age out of town to do work involving water quality sampling. The company had us in a townhouse, just the 2 of us. After sampling Monday through Thursday, we had to drive samples to the laboratory Friday morning. The lab was half way around the beltway surrounding the city...But we got to talking and we circled the city twice!! Talking about masturbation and sex with an attractive coworker who you have just started spending the summer with? - very distracting. We're lucky we didn't run out of gas!

 

I never have.

 

My wife. There is little she doesn't know. She enjoys rubbing one out also... so it is all good. We mutual masturbate also...which is awesome.
She does not know about cam jerking for others to watch. You either are into that or not, and those that are not... are REALLY not.

 

I discussed masturbation with my husband when we started dating.

When I stayed overnight at his apartment, I often masturbated while he was out running in the morning, hoping I would get "caught in the act." That never quite worked out, so I finally brought it up one time, and expressed an interest in being watched by him. He had a couple of exes that had done that for him, so it wasn't a new experience for him.

He also admitted to frequently masturbating on the nights that we were not together. So, watching each other, and masturbating together became a regular thing for us.

He always encouraged me to masturbate for him, and bought me some toys to enhance the experience for me. This was back in the 80's, and we eventually acquired a video camera, and started filming some sex acts.

Eventually, he started to occasionally video me performing solo. He basically encouraged me to go at it until I collapsed after multiple orgasm completely exhausted.

Then, he later watched the videos, and masturbated.

 

I like that

 

My first real GF loved watching me masturbate, as I did watching her. Of course that led us to eventually having sex. Subsequent GF/ex wife liked watching. Several years ago I had a married FWB that would masturbate with me.So HOT! Current wife has a bad view of masturbation. Claims she never has masturbated, and thinks that if I'm gonna cum it should be in her. But now there is no sex with her. What am I supposed to do?

 

Figure out why you are being controlled by another human being on natural bodily functions and put an end to it.

 

And that wasn't awkward?