My girlfriend and I have been dating for about 4 months, and to be completely honest I'm not into a relationship anymore. The problem is that the last thing in the world I want to do is hurt her, but she has said multiple times that I'm the only good thing in her life, the only person that understands her, and the best guy she's ever met. I feel horrible because no matter what I do I am going to hurt her. If I break it off then she breaks down, but if i keep limping the relationship along then she just gets more worried that I will dump her. I keep praying for a miracle but one hasn't come yet, what do I do?
Don't drag it on. Be up front and honest. Dragging it on will only hurt her more in the end anyway. The more you stay the more there will be in the relationship. Four months is short and easier to break off than a years worth of being together...
Yeah, hun. I know it's hard to break up, went through it myself a few times and it's never easy. But I also made the experience that it's fucking devastating to find out that your partner has stayed with you just because he/she couldn't be bothered to break up. I broke up with my last boyfriend, although I still loved him, cause I he didn't make me happy. A week later I found out that he hasn't had real feelings for me for the last 6 months or so, and that hurt like hell, believe me. I actually needed another 6 months to get over it. Just think about it, you're going out with someone you really love and then you find out that the past few months have basically been fake feelings. Not nice!
Tell her how you feel because the longer you wait the worse it becomes. Which would she be more hurt by, the fact that your heart wasnt in it or that you waited until hers was.Either way its gonna hurt but if your honest what can she do. Hopefully she'll understand if not...you tried, thats all you can do.
been there done that, you wanna quit now, don't drag it, youmight think it might get better but it doesn't, then all that's left is nothing
All the above are right, but I know what you're going to do gotsunfire. Like most people you'll wuss out and avoid doing anything about it. As time goes by this girl will come to annoy you more and more until you are snapping at her for doing the smallest thing. You'll feel her dragging on you and get resentful everytime she is near you. And then? After months/years you will become a major prick - you'll hate yourself for it but won't be able to stop treating her like crap. And finally, once both your lives have turned to shit, it will all blow up and you'll stop hanging out. She'll hate herself because you made her feel bad for being who she is, and you'll see yourself as a prick. SO - do what they say above or choose my way, my way is more interesting.
