Do you know what people on this board need to stop asking?

"Am I gay?"


Why the crap would I know that if *you* don't even know? Just because you happened to have a fantasy or dream about it or had sex with someone of the same gender does NOT make you gay, so there you go! Please quit asking that question!

 

it's a sensitive topic really and most people are confused at such an age (thanks to social standards set out by conservative folks). also, half the time the question is just rhetorical....
you're right, not everyone whose had a single dream about sleeping with a person of the same gender is gay, but if others really believe they are and are confused about it, no harm helping them out.... as i said, those conservatives have set the "standards" in our society and being gay isnt accepted everywhere - it's tough for some. so yes, some people do need guidance to get them out of denial

 

Am i gay?, hehehe

 

yeah i stopped coming here for a while because it was filled with the same questions: "am i gay?", "were you born gay or did you choose it?" and "how do i come out to my conservative/religious friend/relative?"

i understand "am i gay?" is a question a lot of people need to ask in order to find themselves, but there seems to be a severe lack of interesting conversation going on here. there are only so many posts you can respond to saying "stay away from labels, just go with the flow"!

 

I don't understand why it's so wrong. People like to come here to find support and answers and like-minded people. There are a lot of confused people out there. Where else are they supposed to get a peer's answers and opinions?

I guess I can see how it would be annoying to someone who is strong and confidant and over the whole nervous stage, but everyone is different and not everyone is that far along in finding themself. Maybe I'm wrong, but I personally can't see a lot of real harm.

 

by the way. every situation is differant too. I have gotten a response to one of my questions that say "don't think about labels" and such, but that wasn't what I was worried about. I don't think a lot of you take the time to ponder each individual question. Maybe they seem all the same because you read it that way.

 

At least I know that I am gay for sure

 

am I gay ?
I am gay
gay I am

LOL ... sorry, it I just had the urge to say that.

 

It's so hard for so many kids. I came out three times before anyone believed me! I questioned myself a lot! It's just that people want to have someone to talk to that won't judge.

 

I am new to this forum so be gentle with me.
I can understand why the question, "am I gay?", is asked so often. For a lot of people out there it is not simply black and white, cut and dried, or even yin and yang. I am older than many of the people posting on these issues and I am still confused.
One thing I will say, however is that coming out as a teenager is a darn sight easier today than it was twenty years ago. You now have a plethora of support networks and the internet is fantastic as well.
Nobody chooses to have a sexual attraction to the same sex, it just happens. I went through these emotions myself in my teens. Now twenty years later, after a few less than successful straight relationships my attraction to other guys seems to be going through a rebirth of sorts.
My confusion has always been because I so don't fit the "gay" stereotype. If I am gay I must be the straightest acting least gay looking person in the history of gays. Nobody in my family or circle of friends would ever suspect that I would rather look at good looking young guys instead of girls.

I feel better now I've got that off my chest. Thanks for listening.

 

maybe one day someone will come here and ask:"why am I NOt a gay?"or"How can I become a gay?", haha....

 

hmmm, how about people on this board need to stop telling other people what to post...

 

Sunburst, I don't think you're qualified to make such a statement on a message board in which the vast majority of its members are in your age group (late teens and early 20s). There's a REASON why so many members of this board are asking this question. It's part of the coming-out process.

Nearing 52, I may be the oldest member of this board. Yet I never tire of reading the question being asked -- and I try as best I can to offer encouraging advice. As a member of the original "Stonewall Generation," I feel I have a responsibility to do so, and I accept it gladly. I wish more of my fellow "queer" Baby Boomers did the same. After all, your generation is our future.

-- Skeeter

 

I did not know i was bi till i was 21 i did not know that wot felt woz diffrent to st8t guy's. I use to work in a bar that had a gay nite and on 1 of thes nite i went in off dutey thinking i was an open minded st8t guy.and went home as a guy that had fond
out that he was bi. I gave this one guy a snog to find out wot it was like to kiss a guy
and it turnd me on. if was on the net then id ask the same thing becuse you cant see wwou i am

 

This post reminds me so much of my friend Matthew who's got to be the funniest person I've ever met in my life. He's always saying "I wish I was gay... does that make me gay?" You know, things like that. You'd have to know him to get the insane humor of it. Gotta love him.

 

oh dudes, i don't really care... i totally understand that people need a place for support from like-minded individuals, and it's great that this service is here. but, like someone said, because i'm over the insecure and coming out phase i just wanna get on with my life and it's hard to keep coming back to the same question.
i'd be coming here more often if i could convince myself that there would interesting queer conversation. i'm aware that saying this makes me look incredibly selfish, but... oh hell.

anyway, on a happier note: HAPPY MARDI GRAS! (for those aussies out there)