a while ago, a friend started to flirt a little bit. i thought it was innocent, we had only known each other a month or so and he flirts with everyone.. i don't even know if it's flirting, he's just a natural charmer. he doesn't have a girlfriend although he was KIND OF 'together' with a girl who he used to date. when we hangout together we act like friends, although we don't even have that much to talk about and it doesn't FEEL like we really connect on some high level aside from perhaps a platonic one. at a party a while ago we were both drinking and he was doing the flirting thing again, although i thought he was with everyone. sometimes he says things that make me feel as if he's interested, other times he acts like we're friends and that's all there is to it. i went to his house on the weekend and he ended up holding my hand somehow.. which led to cuddling, and eventually we were making out. the next day at school we acted like nothing happened, with the excpetion of greater eye-contact and a few special "looks" we gave each other. i didn't know what to think. that night, we went to the movies where he gave me his jacket, held my hand, rubbed my leg.. it looked like we were on a date. we went back to his house and ended up hooking up again. it was a mutual thing. the next day at school, we once again pretended mostly everything was normal. our other friends have no idea what's been going on. i don't know what to think. i can't tell if he honestly likes me or if he's just interested in hooking up. in actuality, i'm fine with either/or. i just got out of a really long term relationship and i'm not looking for another right now.. but it's nice to feel close like that with someone. it's all been innocent so far.. but i have no idea where this is going or what's going on! anyone have any advice or similar experiences???
Some guys just like the physical aspects of being with a girl, and want no emotional involvement at all. Maybe hes one of those, it doesnt have to be sex, it could just be making out, holding hads, the like... And then their are some girls that like the guys like that, but wont admit it, but for some reason some girls just keep going back to the guys that hurt them and take advantage of them, and just totally blow off the nice guys. I am yet to understand that. Not implying you are like that at all, but that is what makes girls so confusing.
Maybe he is trying to take things slow because you just got out of a relationship. Is he still with another girl? Is this considered cheating? If so back away now. Don't do that to a fellow sister. And that shows how honest he is and he would likelt do it to you also. If there is nothing going on with anyone else than it's fine. Maybe he doesn't want you two to be labeled by your friends quite yet. Just sit back and enjoy the attention with out any commitment. That is really good for you since you just got out of a relationship. You don't need to cut yourself off completely from guys. Just take it slow and don't worry about it. The less pressure you put on him the more fun it is because you're thinking about the moment- not what it means.
