Mine or his issue?

I've been dating my boyfriend now for about 3 months and we just recently started having sex. The last few times we've done it he gets soft before we're done. Like he gets hard but half way through the moment he just goes soft...I dont know if he comes and doesnt want me to know that he came so soon or what.....I just feel like i'm not pleasing him...

 

it is most likely not you... if you got him hard in the begining I'm sure you just don't make him soft all of a sudden later on. He is probably nervous or thinking about it too much.

 

had this problem. its from not being used to using a condom. tell him to masterbate with a condom on a couple times to get used to the sensation. worked for me.

 

not your fault at all - most guys won't admit it, but there is a personal mental side to sex for us too. If anyting distracts me from the moment, I lose my hardness myself and feel weird about continuing on.

 

that happened a couple times with a guy i know when he was SUPER STRESSED. another time it happened when he was too hot.

 

your not attractive enough... or hes depressed.

 

cockrings might help with that

Get a decent quality one... adjustable may be the way to go, or just a really stretchy one. It'll stop the blood from leaving his penis so quickly. Heck, there are even ones that have a spot where you can attach a vibe!

 

Shove some shit in your pussy and let him call you doug and see if that helps.

 

you asshole its not her fault.

 

It's not you, it's HIM. He needs to find ways to last longer!!!

 

Did you ask him why he gets soft? It could be any number of things...

 

jen the first thing I can tell you is that you are pleasing him. For guys just like girls the main fear is not to be able to please the other person. Dont feel this way, make sure you tell him little things like, you are so hot, I want to eat you a live, you are going to make me feel so good or I'm going to make you feel so good. Try to find a way to make him comfy, and get him to relax I am pretty sure it's just fear of performance something that's not out of the ordinary. Sometimes guys get stage freight... it happened to me my first time as well.
Hope that helps miss little jen
Greg

 

Well it doesnt happen everytime so maybe it's his stress level or something.....

 

Keep me cool and it lasts forever, get me overheated, well dont most engines shut down if thier too hot?

 

thats fucked up...poor girl...its not you sweetie

 

That happened to me probably 5 times in a 3 month period or so once, I think it was just from extreme stress. Either that or he's eating that meth when you aren't around...