I am fearing Valentines day... I have a boyfriend and this one is probably the first nice one in well, ever. The thing is I don't think he believes in Valentine's day and I doubt I'll get more than a phone call that day(We don't even see each other that much). I'm not saying I want stuff or that I believe in making a big deal of the day its just that I've never had a special day where anyones showered any kind of extra affection on me. I hear and see all these pretty girls who get attention and worked up about how great things are going to be on that day and I can't help but feel a little envious. I sometimes can't help but wish to get a chance to brag about what my boyfriend did for me instead of sit there and listen to what everyone else says. Jeez, sorry if this sounds so stupid but I have the water works going on now. I'm feeling ignored and not special I guess. I'm definatly an all natural hippy chick and material posessions don't mean that much to me. I'd rather be shown love in a poem rather than through a gift. Or a single sweet gesture just meant for me. But, I still can't help but wonder how it feels to be one of those girls who get spoiled. Ah! lol I hate thinking like this! Anyone else having Valentine's day fears or worrys? I hate that I'm upset over something so trivial. I need to get out more, lol.
you got a thread for this topic before me, im fearing v-day also - i was feelin so good bout getting over an asshole ive liked adn ended up fallin for a friend of mine.... w.e it really isnt fun. i actually wrote 2 poems about this one guy, cuz i have so many emotions to get out of my system. tho the more i get out the more i tap into others i didnt kno about and now im on poem 3 i wrote today. ive been in such an emotional funk lately and havent been able to think str8 ALL week, im really stressin, and im 16 and i really really wanted a valentine, but since its Monday its not gonna happen - i think the guy i like wanted me to be his valentine, but cuz of me didnt get around to askin.... yea im scared for valentines day also, the closer the more miserable i feel...
its ok, earthymama...i get you my boyfriend is in another state, but even if he wasn't, i doubt i'd be getting showered with stuff, which is ok. im not a materialistic person and i know you arent either, and thats why i can sympathize with you. we like the guys we do (and they like us) because there is an understanding that there are more important things in life than cheesy gifts on gooey holidays... thats also why we are completely in the dark and slightly curious/envious about the recievers of all those cheesy gifts. the nature of the holiday tends to make people in down-to-earth relationships feel left out. but honestly, when V Day is over, you'll be glad you have a relationship that is made of more than boxes of chocolate and cheap red teddy bears *stops to ponder the fact that this could indeed be a desperate rationalization* :H
I have the exact same thing going on, it just i dont think he cares, and i do a little, but i dont want to tell him...well just wanted to tell you i feel your pain
thanks for replying everyone My boyfriend is living a half hr away right now and never has any gas *shrugs*
You're complaining about him living a 1/2 hour away? My boyfriend lives 6 hours away by public transportation and 4 hours away by car. We won't see each other for Valentine's Day this year. I guess I have some V-Day worries, but not over him forgetting me. I like to shower HIM with extra love and stuff, and I'm wondering what I can do special this year when we do see each other (better late than never). I don't expect material gifts, and don't really care to get 'em. A card and a nice meal out will be just fine. But I'm sorry you're feeling left out. Maybe he'll surprise you and you'll feel bad for feeling bad...haha.
It's funny, because guys like me who like to emotionally connect with females and express how much we care, always seem to find the girls who couldn't care less about that stuff. This usually leads to the girl not reciprocating the emotion, and banging the first asshole to hit on her while drunk at a party. Which, in turn, makes us cynical and emotionally numb substance abusers that are no longer able/willing to love. So look at the positive side. At least you have held onto your idealism.
oh I wasn't complaining about him being a half hour away...someone meationed theirs was a state away and I said mines only a half hour. He has been in his own world and I don't think he quite understands yet(even though I do tell him) how much something different would be nice once in awhile. I don't care about the gifts either...just the extra something special to have with him on that day.
I would rant along with you but I already ranted on my site. Hate to put a shameless plug in the threads but it is 100% on topic seeing as my latest rant is on how stupid valentines day is..... ....even though i have a gf.
that made me all teary reading that. Not the valentines day stuff but the fact that he lives half an hour a way and never comes and sees you. I don't think you should stay with him, you seem like a really cool girl who deserves more not this. But I do have one question why are all the posts on what to get their girlfriend from guys, fyi it's not a birthday thus it's a mutual gift making each other not just the chick happy holiday.
The one I love lives 2000 miles away. I know I struggle making her feel special all the time. When she is right beside me, I have no problems expressing my love and making her feel special. Its almost like I need to be looking in her beautiful eyes for the words I love you to come out. Its a problem of mine, one that I hope to fix. Valentine's Day is hard for some. How long have you been dating this man? I suggest talking to him about it. You never know what you might find out. Also positive encouragement brings out the best in people. Try and remind him of things that he's done that have made you feel special and you might find that he starts doing those things more and more.
he does... but not often. He'll get busy and that pisses me off. I don't think he realizes how much it bugs me because I try to be understanding and laid back. Hes out of a job right now and can't afford gas to come over. He just went for an interview so hopefully he got the job and we'll see each other if hes not busy working. Oh and believe me... if he does something that makes me feel special I can guarentee his v-day will be great. lol
we've been together 6 months and most of those months we've lived together and been with each other 24/7. We were inseprable and never bothered each other when things were like that. Now that we are apart more we fight more...I get insecure more that his priorities don't include me ever. Maybe I should just back off and let him come to me. I think the fact that I've never had a good v-day is tainting my feelings right now. I need to stop caring. I thought about it and realized if the official v-day isn't special I'm going to make the next time we see each other extra special.
i agree brother but time will tell and in days to come you will find her.... or she will find you... love like youll never be hurt
ah, well, the women who are bragging about getting everything done for them on valentines days are usually the ones who NAG their men to no end to do something. they won't put out for WEEKS if they don't get something. they'll consider ending the relationship just because their man didn't do something for the designated hallmark bragging day. fuck that. i'm not a v-day fan. my dad asked for a divorce on valentine's day, 1984. he did it for his latest girlfriend. fuck it. if your man is good to you the rest of the time, forget the so called holidays. IF, however, your man is too lazy to find a way to get to you, you may need to find a new man. my man hitch-hiked to get to me when he didn't have a vehicle. you're too good to have some guy not crawling on bloodied knees to get to you.
you keep saying like those "pretty girls" hun i don't know if you've looked in the mirror but you are naturally beautiful (in a non-lesbian way lol) you are one of those pretty girls....everyone is beautiful in their own way...
