Supermodel Envy....

Do the images of women in magazines and on screens large and small ever get into your head? If so, why???

 

well i don't watch a whole lot of tv or let myself get exposed to many images of supermodels, so no, their images don't really get into my head...

 

Why would they? I don't compare myself to anyone...

 

yeah, they get into my head. They make me angry and insecure all at once. Angry, because I know every woman isn't like that, why are thye portrayed as the only image of beauty in mainstream society? And insecure, because I'm nothing like those shapes.

I'm in a body image discussion group at my university too, so we talk about those sorts of things a lot. Heck, I'm supposed to design a poster with a fake magazine cover and show all the bad, potentially damaging things there.

 

Only if it's Adriana Lima. I'm terribly insecure. I'm not afraid to admit it... I compare myself to everyone. *sigh*

 

I was just talking to my husband about this the other day. It seems somewhere during my childhood I determined that men prefer women that look like models. Skinny, tan, flawless bodies, etc...I have this insecurity that any man I am with will eventually prefer a women that I could never be or look like if I tried.

 

Ive given up on caring about the images in a magazine and on TV... I know most women dont look anything like that... and ill never look like that.. So ive accepted it... It doesnt bother me at all... but as for our impressionable youth.. it upsets me for them... they havent figured out that most women dont look like that... and they want to.. so that upsets me...

 

Only as a horrible warning of what not to do to your body!

I'm an old hippie, long long silvering hair, furry legs in the winter (cheaper than two pairs of socks,) no bra, only make up when I feel like it, I wear Grateful Dead T shirts or tie Dye, or cotton dresses and old raggy 501s. My dh thinks I am the most beautiful womyn in the world. (Either that or he's just trying to get laid LOL!)

I don't let girls who refuse to eat and get paid to wear ridiculous clothes no one but 1% of the people can afford effect MY personal style or how I dress or eat. I eat when I am hungry, I would never starve myself or dress to impress anyone. I don't waste money on "fashion" clothing, I wear what I feel looks nice on me and is comfortable. Those people who do other wise are not part of my world.

 

Sometimes I wish I looked like that and could keep my laid back nature and be free, but you can't. Those girls choose to look good instead of feel good. We could all look like that if we used money that's supposed to go for food for clothes and makeup. We could spend hours making ourselves up, starve ourselves, never do anything to prevent our hair being messed up, and all that, but then you are living in external beauty and not living life. You end up spending time focusing on what you look like and not what's really going on.

I am satisfied with how I look most of the time. I spend a little bit of time making myself up once and a while. I do it because it does feel good to look good, but that can't be the only thing you think about. There has to be a balance.

 

It doesn't bother me, because I also came to the conclusion a long time ago that my mind is always going to be the #1 thing I have to offer. It sounds arrogant, but I'm able to surround myself with highly attractive, nice people because I'm intelligent, witty, and creative. I'm a good fiction writer. I'm generous with what I have. I'm well read when it comes to modern and post modern literature. I am nice to animals. Not to toot my own horn, but I don't feel obligated to look gorgeous when I have a lot of intangible positive qualities.

I even dated a model. I have also squeezed a model's zit. Everyone "ooh" and "ahh" now!

 

Tit squeezing......I could tell you stories, dear!

(I'm a lactation consultant and I have the market cornered on boobies, LOL!)

 

Hehe! You reign as the Boob Queen!

 

anyway, i don't worry so much about the women in magazines and stuff that are typically put off on me as the ideal woman. i tend to think they're yucky. that's not to say taht when i see a woman who's gorgeous and has the body i adore on women that i don't get a bit jealous. but it's not usually in the media, that's for sure.

 

Yes, it would be lovely to look like a supermodel... But I don't, and I never will, so I'm just gonna work what the good Lord gave me

When Marcel and I went to Vegas this summer... there were so many fly honeys in the swimming pool... implants, long legs, UV darkened skin, collagen injected lips... Their little bikinis looked like a million bucks.

But you know what, I just jumped right in there in my two-piece... Hehe, made quite a splash! I don't have a perfect, sculpted body - but I sure wasn't gonna let a bunch of skinny bitches stop me from soaking up the sun and enjoying myself. Besides, I'm cute in my own way. If you go around worrying about stuff like that, you'll never have a good time.

No offense to the thin sisters out there...

I love all ya'll.

 

Vegas seems the have so many good looking people don't you think?

 

I would be lying if I said that I didn't let the supermodel image run rampant in my mind sometimes. I think it's a combo of the way I was brought up that physical beauty is something that can determine the way you feel ( happy or not), and that you have to be accepted by society. I would suppose that this is why I struggle with an eating disorder. Either way, I want so badly to be able to accept my 130 pound body and really feel comfortable in my own skin.

 

Off and on. My problem isn't really that I think I’m ugly because of it or anything. I don't consider myself unattractive because I don't look like Halle Berry. Most people don't look like her, that's how she got to be Halle Berry. And I'm cool with that. She not a model, but she's attractive in a model-like way- thin, shapely, great skin, etc. I can respect that because, while yes, some actresses and models are unfortunate enough to get eating disorders, a lot of them just work very hard exercising and eating healthy to keep their bodies in shape.

My insecurities lye in the fact I want to be work as an entertainer, and sometimes I'm afraid that the fact that I don't look like that will make it even harder for me to be successful in the business. Because the fact is that I can truly and honestly believe that I am a pretty girl, but when I step on that stage, I’m not the only one I have to convince. And it may not be fair, but it is a reality that people do judge how good of a performer you are partially based on the way you look. And people don’t judge what’s attractive in a performer the same way they judge the person sitting next to them. They look for those model-like people who fit into one category. Now, this problem isn't to the point where I regurgitate my food or cry myself to sleep at night or anything, I'm not that worried, but I'd be lying if I said that I never felt concerned about it.

 

Some women do, but only those I really, really like -not because they're supermodels. I even dislike many of the typical supermodel ideals; tall, big boobs, smooth legs... I like my hairy legs, bare, calloused feet, small boobs that I don't need a bra for even when running... I don't like faces with lots of make-up either. But I do wish for different hair, thick and somewhat curly, and some actresses/models who have it, yes I'm jealous... I have quite thin and straight hair

It's not because of the media or because of society though, or because I'm insecure, because I don't care about all those other things where I definitely don't conform to those ideals and don't want to either... it's just that I personally think it looks really, really good and that's why I want it too... what others (whether society in general or any one person in particular) like doesn't come into it.

 

I do envy how tall most of the women are and sometimes i catch myself wanting to be as thin as them even though that is not me I am more of a muscular woman but i just think of how it would be to be that thin and that tall. Than I relize how that is just a stereo type and that women and men do come in all different sizes and i am this size for a reason. sometimes I just get so depressed cuz i so much want to be "beautiful" .

 

I don't know about most men but I prefer women that don't look as fake, or at least glamour-ish