Open sex discussion amongst close friends

Ditto to above.

 

I would consider us as very out going and social people and tend to spend time with others that are the same. Sexual undertones are in most conversations if drinks are involved.

 

Jayandcay,
Lucky for you. Our friends usually stay away from sex talk. Maybe a passing jest, but that’s about it. I am the OP for this conversation. To talk about sex sure beats talking about the weather.

 

I can discuss sex With like 4 of my Close friends, With 1 of them absolutely everything i and she says stays between us.

 

I think it is not easy to answer to Panama Jack's question. If we know what is the definition of humans and animals, we may get some sort of answers. Humans and animals have many similar instincts, inclouding sexual innate behavior. It means the nature of sexual behavers of humans and animals is the same. Humans have the power of thought, but animals are thoughtless. So, some factors such as, social regulations, social laws, and social manners that have developed during human civilization control humans' sexual behavers.
Let's give you an example, we are the members of The Hip Forums or other similar forums, but, how many of our partners know what we are talking about in the forums? Honestly, just a few percents of our partners know. The reason is simple because here we talk mostly about sex fantasy, sex addiction, sexual desires and ultimately sex freedom thought, which belong to the dark side of humans' sexual instinct.
we talk about our endless fantasies, desires, and many other sexual behaviors, that we can not achieve them in reality. Men or women have more or less similar sexual wishes, that are not reachable. This type of thought is private, and no one likes to share with his or her partner.
Based on the above reasons, it is not easy to talk or share our sexual thought with our friends, particularly between couples in friendly sittings.

 

The stigma of sexual relations being afoul of good moral judgement squelches many open conversations or even attempts at open conversations. The world treats all thoughts of sex as if the act is immoral. The number of contributors to this and other forums versus the world wide population is so minuscule that even though we are open to the conversation the world is not. The minds of the masses are ignorant of the true pleasure sex can bring. Corrupted thoughts portraying that any participation in sex that does not follow an ideal takes away any conception that sex is a gratifying experience. This bleeds over and inhibits the ability to have open conversations about sex. Because of this most people are uneasy discussing their sex lives or anything sexual in general. I, myself, am guarded to open up any discussion due to repercussions that would occur from the knowledge of my sexual activities which do not abide by the ideals set forth. I would welcome conversation of the subject if it weren't so. Exchanging points of view that are positive about sexual relations and without judgement can be enlightening and informative. Unfortunately of all the people that surround me either they or I choose to not discuss sex.

 

The only friends we were ever able to discuss anything, and everything, sexual with were the couples we swapped with years ago. And, honestly, the only times my wife and I were able to really discuss anything and everything sexual was during the times we were involved in some sort of swinging,

 

It just amazes me that as humans - and we are alive because of sexual union - we have SUCH GREAT difficulty talking about sexual things with each other. Even within marriage. We can talk about bowel movements & stinky farts easier than sexual topics !!! WThell???? So many marriages and relationships have problems sexually - no communication, desires unrealized, fantasies not fulfilled, mismatched libidos, etc. And yet we can't talk about sexual things. How are any other of life's problems, topics, or interests brought to light and solved / investigated?? Isn't it through verbal exchange??

Something's wrong when a few people can discuss their hemorrhoids freely, but feel creepy discussing the acts of love that bond us closely as couples. Not that you would open a free discussion with strangers, but why so difficult with close friends?? Advice, ideas, printed or online info sources could be exchanged, right?? NOPE. Rather talk about my HEMORRHOIDS !!!!

 

Yep, with my closest friends nothing is off limits conversationally.

 

i have only a couple of friends both male and female with whom i can talk about that.

 

This is a fitting share for this post. So last night we went to a New Year’s eve party. There was about 8 or 10 couples there between the ages of 35 to 50. Some were vanilla, others more adventurous. Cay wore a heart shaped jeweled plug to the party because she knows I think it’s hot. Well somehow it came up in conversation, and there were a lot of questions and curiosities. Well Cay being Cay asked if anyone wanted to see it; there were several yes. Cay pulled off her pants and underwear and laid down on the couch, and brought her knees up toward her shoulders. For about five min she laid there answering questions as some guest got a really close up view. Then she basically gave a class on how to remove it, clean it, use lube, and insertion. She even let a few people insert it into her to show them how early it goes in with lube. It was supper sexy, fun, and supper funny at times. It was a supper sexy night, and that wasn’t even the wildest part but that’s another story all together. PS: the party turned into a sleep over for some of us. Wink. Hope everyone’s part turned into a swingers party last night. Good luck in 2020!

 

I'm wondering if the evenings conversation revolved around sex and sexual relations other than the demonstration. Or did it turn sexual when the subject of the plug came up. After the demonstration did the vanilla party goers loosen up and keep going? I have never had conversations with others where the topic was sex. It seems it is a necessary taboo subject. Necessary as without sex there would be no children. Taboo because the subject has been degraded such as it is referred to as gutter talk. People will not talk openly about their sexual preferences or experiences unless incognito on an internet forum. In the living room among friends, unless they specifically meet for that purpose, the subject does not come up or is sustained.

 

Barry, since I am the original poster. You are correct. Most people will talk about anything to avoid talking about or having a basic conversation regarding sex. I guess you strip yourself bare when exposing your sex life.

 

Had that experience just this evening. While reminiscing about the old neighborhood and a promiscuous neighbor who had an affair with her husbands best friend. The husband invited him to move in til he got back on his feet. Seems he got on more than his feet. When the conversation moved to the reasons why this happened it was quickly squelched. I was attentive to the talk not saying anything but when it was suggested the husband was failing in the sex department the others felt the need to move to a new topic. I would have liked to hear others opinions and gave my own. Instead it died and was left to wonder.

 

I have a friend who has been there throughout life, we met at nursery school when we were 3, we have no secrets at all from each other and that includes sex, no judgement ever.

 

Isn't that what were all doing here already? Having open discussions about sexual topics? Am I missing something?

 

I don't think you are missing anything, but I took the question to be about people who actually know you, your family and other friends, on a forum like this I am anonymous, or at least as much as one can be. My response was about the one individual in my life who I openly talk to about everything, including sex.

 

Oh. I guess I misunderstood. Thanks for clearing that up. No, there is no one I can talk to about sex. That's why I'm here!

 

Just those on the forum. One disadvantage of getting old is that friends move away or die.