Why is it so difficult for a Male to give a Female an Orgasm??

i think if you have a great connection with the person, it makes it sooo much easier... like, my boyfriend right now, anything he does, its so beautiful and great that very little can make me orgasm... i think it has mostly to do with the person you are with, and how close you are to him/her... i mean, one second it will be real heavy and stuff, and then the next we'll be laughing about something that has just happened.... i dont know, connection i believe is the key!

 

I dunno. I'm 29, about to turn 30 real soon. I just had my first orgasm back in early December. A lot of women experience heightened sexuality at various times in their lives.

 

heh it cracks me up how men assume eveything is so mechanical and physical. The physicality part of it is the least important.

 

is it that hard for men? i disagree. the female orgasm is mostly mental. its not something so much that she is owed, but something she has to achieve. most women are too lazy in bed, and expect everything to be given to them. go out and get it if youre havin problems, and i dont mean find a guy who willgive it to you, you have to go out and get it when its being given to you. it takes me a long time to orgasm, it should only take a woman 5-10 minutes for the first one, after that theres no tellin.

 

So it's more of a connection would you say?

 

Soooo.... you can take a long time, but it's not ok for a woman to take a long time to orgasm? What if she can't help it? What if what you're doing isn't right for her - it takes something very specific to turn her on and it isn't what you're doing, for whatever reason. I may take 10min with my happy little vibe, but a lot longer with a guy - because they will never know my body the way I do, no matter how much I try to impart that information. I've been with it for 19 years, he's been dealing with it for far less than that.

I agree that women can't just sit there and expect an orgasm to happen, but neither can men. Communication between partners is key, in the sexual part of a relationship and outside of it.

 

l tend to ask the ladies what they like and go from there..

 

for sure for sure, knowing that someone cares for you not someone knowing how to touch you.

 

heh that's all I have to say to that.

 

Excellent.

 

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so you've had one then?

 

you know the answer to that, but I think it's crappy that now everyone on here knows too.

 

i believe that some women have a very hard time reaching an orgasm..i think its a scientific fact... personally i have never had any issues in this matter* you might have to find the right girl ...situation... position... find out it will be fun trying!

 

There are several factors that play a part here, first, the woman herself, how she views sex, how she views herself sexually, her mental state of mind, etc. Second, it can sometimes take time for some women, and some guys like to rush it. I think too being "comfortable" for a woman has a lot to do with it. Hey if she's not in the mood, there is NOTHING a man can do to bring her to orgasm, on the other hand, there are some of us, that are soooo comfortable with our partners, know how to communicate what feels good, are totally into the whole "sex thing" with them, that it comes rather easy...


I really think orgasming for women is as much mental as it is physical...which I know,doesn't help the guys out too much ;-/

Lynn

 

INDIVIDUALITY, that's the key: I am a girl. ok, but i don't particrlarly enjoy getting a head. And I don't know how it is for guys, but I can get different types of orgasm, clit/vaginal.... And when I am w a guy i want to get it from him, (no oral sex, I do it better myself). A guy have to accept that! They think that all the womens favorite thing is go down on her, or let her ride him. I don't ever come that way with a guy. AND: faking IS so much more common than u think, beleive me.... That's why guys have the WRONG fantasies about girls, because, they have got fake experiences ( I was faking myself for a couple of years, and every single guy thought he was a real stud... I REALLY DO REGRET HAVING DONE THAT, specially for all the other women that are not faking) STOP feeding your ego, climaxing is NOT the real big thing, first come lust, when you feel really horny.... Then when you are relaxed, orgasm can become easy to give or to get....

 

that's a very good question... I dont know the answer, but that's a very good question!

 

I've had no problem orgasming with men doing the job, in fact, most are quite good. Although I am very easy to get off, so I make guys ego go through the roof because I get off so fast. But that could just be me.

 

and if the guy can't do the job get her a vibrator... that will be a nice gift until you get some skills!
greg
always ready to help...

 

Its the females fault. They cant have a good time with a guy becaUSE OF THEIr insecurities. Even if they say they have none, they do. Thats why they cant orgasm with men only by themselves... theyr focused on just sx and their pleasure when theyr alone, when a man comes in they have random thoughts of random bullshit. Its all their fault., so stop bitching.