Lost loves?

Do you think it's ever a good idea to go looking for a lost love? Have you ever felt like there's someone with whom you have unfinished business? Have you ever looked up someone from your past to see what they're up to now? What lengths would you go to in order to find a lost love?

 

Yes.

 

shit i used to think about this one guy all the time. he was my first real boyfriend at 14 we dated tell i was almost 16.. we still talked off and on after we broke it off. anyways when i was 18 i got a call from him he said he got a job in cali and wanted to see me before he left. We planned to meet a few days later. At the last min i called and chickened out, i felt i had more important things to do. I felt bad. I found out a few years later he went to cali to work on the star wars movies he designed the main big ship in hs when we were dating i always told him he was a nerd, but george lucas descovered him. Shit all that stuff payed off for him.

3 years ago i found his addy on the internet and sent him a letter telling him hi sorry i had been such a ass in the past blah blah. Well i never heard back from him. I hope he is good, he was a good boyfriend/and friend but i treated him like shit

 

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crystalstarr~do you think he got your letter?

 

i dont know. honestly he was very sweet so i think if he had gotten it he would had wrote back. rumour was he was now married his wife may had gotten it and never gave it to him

 

darn, well, i hope that writing the letter and sending it helped give you a bit of a sense of closure.

 

I think about a few of my ex's a lot...just wondering how they are and what they are up to. Not necessarily trying to get back with them, because I think once and ex, always an ex...things didn't work out the first time for a reason, why scrounge old feelings back up, ya know?

I have had some great ex's that I just sort of lost touch with and timing was off and such.

what would I do to get back in touch with them? Probably not much, just out of respect for the life they are living now and any significant others they may have. Sometimes I think the past is better left alone.

 

No way, I don't believe the saying "once an ex, always an ex." is 100% the case. My sister took a two year break from the guy she would eventually marry and have two kids with. Most of the time yes, once an ex, always in ex is a valid statement though. But I also believe in the saying, "right person, wrong time." People mature, they realize things and sometimes, sparks never truely die. Obviously if things don't work out you want to get away for a while. But if there was ever something there it never truely goes away, feelings just go into hibration and are ignored. On a subconcious level (that you are not aware of) I believe you can sometimes remain connected to some, (obviously not all) exs.

So most of the time, exs are a lost cause. Sometimes, they are not. So really think about it. If the breakup wasn't to bad and a friendship eventually developed, thats the first step towards a possibile relationship. But who knows...

 

i'm trying to get the words to fit together properly to address what you're saying DancerAnnie.

i'm not really talking about "ex's" i guess. exes are usually exes for a reason. i'm curious about some of the exes that i've lost track of along the way, but more in a i hope they're happy, wonder how many kids they have now, i bet he's still involved in such and such a sporting activity, i wonder if his parents are still alive, i bet he's still working at xyz factory, blah blah blah. some people are pretty predictable and you dont really have to talk to them to know that they're still doing the same things now that they were doing before.


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Carlfloydfan~ i know people like your sister, who had a prolonged break in their relationship and are now living happily ever after.

 

I guess I was just expressing my opinion on what I thought of MY OWN situation. I wasn't really saying that's how everyone should think. Personally, I'm happy in the relationship I have now...I have no reason to try and finish something I may have started in the past. If you're currently in a loveless relationship, get out. If you're thinking of rekindling something in the past...more power to you and I wish you the best!

Obviously, everyone's situation is different and every person is different.

 

i'm really glad that you said what you did, because it helped me to verbalize some of these random thoughts that i have. i dont even necessarily disagree with what you said!

 

i suppose, but that's just semantics

what do you think about the questions in the op?

 

oops, sorry, op=origional post

 

i think love can evolve or fade away...you know in your heart if a relationship can work again...i am friends with almost all of my ex girls... you never can tell what the future holds....its your destiny...but me i want someone new!

 

trusting what? fate? destiny?

 

bah