Hi you guys! Okay so.. my boyfriend and I have been together for a year now. Normally I initiate sex or anything sexual but I think its because my sex drive is higher than his.. but for the past month its been so many excuses every time I make an attempt.. “i'm tired from work” , “I didn't take a shower”or he simply doesn't “feel like it” now I completely understand that he doesn't have to if its not what he wants .. TRULY I DO .. but I have needs as well and I’ve been patient any suggestions ?
You need to talk to him first not here.with that said.. I dated a woman for a year an sex was boring it was the same thing over an over. Come up with new stuff make it fun ask him what he would like. Dress slutty play with toys in front of him Play games. Here's one put on some porn an both of you do what there doing in the porn act it out. Make him want to have sex ask what he would like.
Having her good talk would be the best first step, hopefully it would be productive. If not I would suggest to MoveOn.
My wife and I dated for years, but I refused to have sex with her because I loved her too much to do anything that would hurt her. An unexpected pregnancy like the ones that happened to my friends would have been devastating. She found relief with others, as I discovered after we married. That was okay.
Kita is not going to read this (She was a one and done poster) but for those who might have the same issue with a partner who isn't as highly sexual here's my advice. If you have someone in your life that isn't as sexual and you need or want more than they can provide then by all means supplement the lack of with them by finding another who will. It doesn't mean that you don't have feelings for that person who isn't as sexual. It's just that they are incapable of fulfilling your need for sex and sexual relations and beyond that you can still love and care for them as they do you. There is nothing wrong with finding other outlets for expressing and relieving your sexual desires with someone else and still maintaining an emotional and devoted relationship without sex being involved. Just keep that outlet for sex and sex alone. Nothing else.
Wow, time for a new boyfriend. A guy who understands how lucky he is to not be a single guy. But that's just me, maybe he's not sure who he is and needs to find himself.
It seems very fishy to me. How's your personal hygiene? Is he jerking off to porn instead of taking care of you? Does he have another babe somewhere who's taking his loads for you?
