What do you do when your partner is done with sex?

My wife and I had some bumps a few years back, she was done with he whole sex thing. It got a bit heated at times and one night I told her that if we were not intimate then we were no longer living as husband and wife. I guess that struck a nerve because she got more accommodating, and we resumed our weekly romp. It was not as fun, kind of like her doing a chore but over time her desire has returned and although it is not what it was it is pretty good. I think if you give up you are done, women change if they don't have sex and when they try it causes pain....before too much time passes you could have a heart to heart and see if you can find a routine that works...for us 20 minutes once a week was all it took. Now she looks forward to it, when we go on vacation we usually have sex almost every day. She does not always orgasm but I usually get her off 75% of the time...

 

Same boat here but hand jobs and blow jobs are offered all the time because she knows it is absolutely necessary. But about once a month I tougue lash the clit until she cums then immediately in the pussy and she cums again. Then like the song says, "I take a little for myself."

 

Same here.

 

Outsource it for a while. Then look for a more compatible wife.

 

Yeah, if I could get off from a HJ or BJ that would probably be it but I can't. We are fortunate, once a week seems to be holding which works. I DATY and usually can get her off and then its my turn...

 

Do you follow your suggestion of outsourcing? I have for several years now and find it works well for me. As for finding another wife why go through the trouble? A divorce, child support, second place to live, this all adds up. Having a partner and even though there sex may not be available there are many other things that are. Companionship, understanding, someone to talk to about your troubles. My spouse and I don't have sex but we enjoy many other things together. I just believe divorce is an easy way out and more trouble than it's worth. But that's just me.

I can't orgasm from oral sex either. I can by hand but oral or a blow job just doesn't do it for me. In an erotic setting with a willing partner I have some of the best orgasms when done by hand.

 

when younger I was same way now that older I have no control..I was getting a BJ first in long time and I went in her mouth very quick by accdent.. But first BJ I had in years?? that biggest problem I have since got older no control and small loads when go

 

Hey guys wait a minute. The sex stops and the first thing is talk of divorce? Wouldn't it be more logical to have a sit down face to face ans say, "WE have a problem." Tell her how important sex is for men and you imparticular. It is absolutely necessary to come up with some sort of solution because this will cause our marriage to simply fall away from each other. Have her come up with solutions if she can. Suggest a third party. This discussion is a must before divorce especially with kids. Talking is the best solution, been there done that.

 

I been threw that talk 100 times when I younger sex was most inportant thing to me..Now that older I sure glad stuck it out with wife she best thing ever happened to me.. But came close to leaving her more than once when younger...She d cry and promiss to be better when she cryed I couldn t leave her, Sure glad didn t we in 60 s now retired and she my whole world

 

My wife says she is through with sex, even though we do it occasionally. When I go down on her she will stop me before she comes. She won't talk about sex and if I mention sex, even in general terms, she would give me a sour look and ask what is wrong with me. Now I have been using a bi-curios website to maybe try something different. I wouldn't cheat on her with another woman but maybe a man so there would be no emotional attachment.

 

When my wife doesn't feel like sex I say, "may I please use your pussy for a few minutes, just bend over and I'll do the rest including clean up." She says, "ok." Then as soon as I enter her she gets turned on. She told me it was the whole use me for sex feeling without any emotions involved.

 

IMO the guy thing is a real breach of trust with STD dangers included. I'd give that a second thought and if its really necessary then tell her your plans first. See what happens. Just an opinion, your word should count for something.

 

Does it matter if you have sexual relations with a man or a woman for it to be infidelity? Having sex with someone who is not your spouse without consent is the same regardless of their gender. You can find willing partners, male or female, to have non attachment sex with. There are always emotions that arise when having sex with someone as humans have an emotional response to everything. Having consensual sex, that is having the consent of your spouse and partner, is so much more enjoyable and relaxing. There is no having to hide or cover up your activities afterwards and you can be totally relaxed and enjoy the liaison without fear of repercussion.

 

infidelity? that is simply an agreement that is agreed upon in a relationship. If you want sex with another tell your friend, maybe he or she will want to be there.

 

Infidelity is having a sexual relationship where a spouse or other partner has no knowledge of it happening. It is not an agreement within a relationship.