There's this girl I really like who I can tell likes me too. However whenever we're alone in a situation to do something... nothing happens, and this strange awkwardness takes over. Then conversation becomes harder and things get worse. If we're high it's even worse, we end up going into our own little words. It's troubling because we're extremely similar and have a really great connection, and damn, she looks good too. I guess it's a confidence issue - I have trouble talking to her about how I feel face to face. This girl is perfect for me and I know she liikes me, but I feel like I'm fucking things up. Any advice? How should I initiate stuff?
yeah i know what you mean. when my bf and i dated for the first few times we had awkward moments of silence. he broke the ice one day by holding my hand, he just slipped his hand into mine. a few hours went by and we didnt say much for pretty much the whole day then he frenched me and next thing you know he's kissing my breast and sucking on my nipples. try holding her hand, if she doesnt object kiss her.
Is there anything that you know of that might be holding you back? Such as, not being completely ready for a relationship? If you are so sure you guys are so good for each other all it should take is just one move. What is there not to be confident about? You already know she likes you. To raise your overall confidence you could try being arrogant. Not in an asshole way, and just when the timing is good. Like when you are hanging out with your friends (I mean guy friends of course). Be competetive and trash talk while playing video games. It might not be the nicest thing to do but, it raises your confidence
Take how nervous you are... mulitply it by ten and thats her. Plus assuming you're not some huge dork, girls are usually twice as eager to hook up. Its an easy situation man, look into her eyes for a couple seconds then go in for a kiss.
lol. how sweet. i just got over this by having sex. totally loosened things up. in fact, my best girlfriend and i used to have this same problem. she's just get really reallly shy, and i didn't know how to talk to her, until we had sex on night. now everything is so simple. i'm not saying you should just have sex with her, but do something physical to break the ice. people get wrapped up in their own heads to often.
I'm going over to her house today... things will go better hopefully I'm normally a socially confident person, I'm just not that good at getting what I want with girls... I don't really try, I guess, even though I want to. Frustrating predicament, but one I should be able to get myself out of. Thanks for advice so far... I'm just not too experienced with girls... I mean I'm good at being friends with them like guys, but I have trouble initiating.
"The problem with wanting something, is the fear of losing it. " I'm a pretty introverted person, and that former quote was one of the things that was bothering me, and me just beeing shy in general. Untill I met this really special girl, I felt really at ease with her. That coupled with the knowledge that I could try and fail, or not try and fail anyway, I found bravery in her presence by realising the fact that she accepted me as a person and that I genuinely could be myself and she'd still like me. so... the most common advice really holds truth. Be yourself.
oh wow i know exactely how that is... thats totally what happened to me and my boyfriend... but anyways... ask her. see whats up. communicate! its a big thing. (communication, i mean) or just go for it! take a chance! what do you have to lose? good luck!
I'm pretty fucked up now but yeah I did it! It was fun we made out for like 2, 3 hours... fuck I can't type I'm off to go smoke a joint and go to bed good night and thanks all for the advice. Edit: Yeah, it worked. We were really intimate and just all over eachother... it was wonderful. I couldn't have done it with out you guys, and now I have a hot girlfriend...sweet!
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