How far does your pride go?

when someone you care or cared about wrongs you....

how much pride do you feel? do you go running to them right away crying and saying whatever?

do you wait a little bit and if they dont apologize, then you do cause you care?


or are you stubborn and say... "if this person really cared, they should have ever treated me this way and ill wait for them to say they know what they did but if they never do... fine"

ive done all three. it depends on the relationship... usually, unless it's someone ive been with for a looong time it's number two or number three. lately it's more number three. i dont feel like with putting up with too much shit anymore but ive never really been at the point that i dont forgive people if they know they did wrong and they dont want me too.

i forgot that there should be a fourth choice and that is.. it's OVER!! period. im not usually like that but i did that to a "friend" a month ago because well, it was right.

you?

 

If someone is truly wrong or really acting wrong and it's a repetitive behavior then I tend to kind of lose feeling for them which kinda makes me indifferent for the entire situation.

 

think it depends on how much that person really means to me.

Pride is not a good thing if in the end it hurts me or those I love....so if it is someone who matters I would be likely to forgive and let go as otherwise, I not only hurt them but me......and that is not worth a simple I am sorry.

If it was someone who did not matter....then it would not be an issue as it would for me never come to a place that I felt I had to say I was sorry or make amends.......it would not matter in my life.

 

i've done all three, same person and im still waiting for an apology (number 3) that i aint gonna get but i'm not going back to them... im not stubborn this person just went over the line, turned around spit on it and kept walking...

 

what about people that you like but dont have a strong bond with?

 

I can take it way too far sometimes. I'll just drop a person as though they've never existed if I feel it is needed, regardless of how painful it may be. Not exactly a good thing, but I'm working on it. I'm just a stubborn ass sometimes.

 

yah. ive done that before. its hard. most of the time im too persistance in relationships and friendships that dont really deserve it but i dont neccasarily do the work neccasary. i dunno.

 

Yeah, mostly I just go with it... I can easily forgive those who mean little to me, precisely because, they mean little to me. It's the other way that sucks..

 

my one problem that i dont talk to most people about is my best friend for ten years... will... we had a "thing" at a time and i guess it never truly stopped but we were always best friends and it never needed words-

i guess i said a few things while drunk after a few actions before (that he he previously pretended he didnt care about) and he FOR THE FIRST TIME EVER HUNG UP ON ME. (he lives HOURS AWAY) and wouldnt take my calls for the first time in 10 years EVER (and he knew EVERYTHING about me)- well, with time he started talking and now he tried occasionaly... usually with a message on aim when im not there (i never am) or the occasional phone call (which he left messages)... we talked a few times. i love him to death but but i wonder if he was just THAT part of my life and if it's over. we have both changed so much and it sucks. i love him but i dont know how to make our friendship or whatever it is work...

 

shit! it just hit me! you are exactly like will! (that friend i was talking about!)

dude.. your writing on here is "his", you look a lot like him... you seem like him. he is being passive aggresive (which i knew) but advice.. should i call him?

 

I'm very stubborn and usually expect the other person to apologize. If they do not and it eats at me I will eventually speak with them. Usually they say they are sorry for the wrong doing. It's easier if you take a break so you are not so mad when you talk. No one is going to say they are sorry if you are shouting at them and whatnot.

 

You never know about things like that... Is anything still existent, or is it all just an act, kept up for whatever reasons? People are complicated...

 

If he is anything like me, even he probably doesn't know... I'll try and think about it, but that's probably the best answer I can give.

 

what do you mean by existant, pat?

well, i think im gonna call will tonight and if i get his machine not say too much just "hey will, it's me, call me when you get a chance"

i miss him

 

you remind me of him more then anyone ive ever met. it's weird- i dont know you well... but i get that vibe.

 

I mean, is there any sort of relationship whatsoever still there, or is it merely a show, kept up for the sake of pride or whatever? Is it kept on, simply to not give in, and in a sense lose?

 

well, id hate to think after ten years of close frienship that there isnt... but i that is for me to find out.

 

But was it kept up simply to have meaning? I don't know what I'm talking about..

 

god... are you will in disguise?

lol

in some ways, yes. in some ways, no. that's really why we stopped talking.


but i think him trying to get in touch with me and me wanting to get in touch with him.... well, things just need changing.

mine and will's relationship is the most weird thing EVER. it's the most lasting relationship ive ever had where someone knew all about me and loved me always. im gonna go outside and call him now.

 

If he has been calling you, I'd call him... It may be slow, but eventually, it will likely come together..