Family Nudity

Your profile indicates that you love camping and the outdoors. If you bring your daughter along with your wife, you might go skinnydipping or, should the weather be favorable as well as the locale (and legality), go without clothing at teh campsite itself. You would be better off setting a context to naturism. You might just say to her that you thought she was"old enough" to see you naked. That's the old parental line, isn't it? You're too old for this or not old enoug for that. If you are not in good shape, any objections she might have would center on that probably rather than the nudity itself. Many people express objections to nudity on the basis that they may not see 'pretty bodies'. Children commonly ridicule parents for being out of shape. So there are a multitude of issues and factors to contend with.

 

if she has issues with your nudity visit a nudist beach, camp, resort

she has 2 choices stay at home or go along with you and your wife

most nudist venues have a clothing optional policy it would suit her

 

If she has mixed opinions on it i would just ask her if she would like to try for a day and see how she feels. But if not i would wait until she has moved out to start. While i do agree it is your house, making your child very uncomfertable would not bear the best results for your relationship.

 

This is a difficult one so I'll only make a few suggestions which may or may not work. Rather than suddenly going nude at times when you were hitherto normally clothed take a gradual approach. For example drop your guard going to and from the bathroom and simply do not react at all when your daughter catches you nude. Then play it by ear depending on how she reacts gradually extending the boundaries. It may be that she will never be comfortable with you being nude around her let alone her being nude as well. The bottom line is that you may have to curb your nudity until she is not around.

The worst thing that you can do is pressure her in any way.

 

Basically as long as your daughter is living under your roof, you set the rules of the house. It's your house, your body, your right.

However, if you were previously prudish as parents and raised your daughter to believe that nudity was for sex and showering only instead of as a personal freedom she probably will be a bit confused.

Maybe you could tell her you want to have a 'clothing optional' day in the house where you and your S/O go about your business nude and she how she'll react to that.

It might be unnerving for the first 10 - 15 minutes, but after a while she will get accustomed to it.

 

I am all for it...

 

Pardon me for disagreeing, but this "gradually get more naked with no explanation" approach is a form of passive-aggressive behavior, the very form of pressure you claim that you disdain! A girl in her late teens would not be fooled by this. She would recognize it for what it is: an attempt to impose your will on her with no input from her, no verbal communication. At her age, she deserves dialog.

I am a nudist and I would take offense to it. It seems very pervy.

And I also object to the premise that you start sneaking around and hoping you don't get caught. This is so UN-NUDIST! We don't operate like that. We talk things out, we come to agreements about things.

If this girl thinks that she is not allowed to discuss differences in your house, that her parents are Gods who must never ever be questioned, then she will resort to snarky remarks. Well, that's exactly what she's doing!

Her problem with nudity is minor compared to the power and communication problems that the parents seem to have.

 

Asking a teenager now to enter nude circle surely is difficult. Likewise I can understand your position. Before taking a decision, recall if you or your wife have:
1. ever seen her in nude
2. or in bra and pantie only, or any short dress,
3. Has she seen both of you, or only her mom, nude. If so, what was her reaction.
4. Did you recently try to move around without clothes
5. Do/did you have general discussion with her about nudity to know her views.

And if you still feel that her staying in clothes will disturb you, and wife, better to wait for her moving out.

 

My daughters never liked wearing clothes so it was easy for me to be nude in front of them. It made for a lot of delivery men coming to our door though.

 

I haven't seen any discussion about how any decision will play with a daughter who has male/female friends home. She's unlikely to be able to invite anyone over unless they are confirmed nudists themselves. Not only that but having daughter's friends in the house opens the parents up to having their cover blown in the sense that it can trigger miscellaneous gossip around the neighbourhood. It only takes one happy clappy (fundamentalist) or other extremist to start a whispering campaign. North America has never been much of a place for nudists (although Canada is a lot more relaxed). Western Europe and Australasia are more the happy hunting grounds for clothes off lifestyles

 

It's surely an interesting subject. I recall my life. Though I have been staying nude within my bedroom, never before my family, except when I was alone at home. Later my younger sis came to know it. Very difficult for me how to convince her. I found her "dis-interested" in my life style. Gradually I mustered courage and arguments to discuss with her. She understood my view point and interest. Probably she herself was a bit confused what to do. Sometimes she would come to my room at night, stayed there 1/2 hours when I was nude. A good opportunity to "teach" her. It all took about 3/4 weeks that she started taking off shirt, then pyjama, wearing only bra and panties. Later I gifted her see through under-garments, then g-string and finally there was nothing on her body. We were both comfortably nude.

Interestingly my husband adopted the same strategy that he started taking off clothes alone, allowing me to follow him or not (my discretion) but it took not more than 2/3 days to throw off my clothes.

Another example is of my friend. She took rather long time to follow me. I started conveying my life style, never to tell her what to do. Instead, I used to repeat how relaxing and exciting it was to be nude. Sensing her interest, I tried to convince her to take off clothes, not all in one time, but gradually. She used to tell me her gradual progress. And one day I received her happy call to tell me she was totally nude and that she enjoyed it. Now she is home nudist.

In short, slow and steady wins the race.

 

Like so much else about not wearing clothes, this isn't about nudity as much as all kinds of other stuff. Since you raised your daughter in a textile family, that's her world view. The likelihood of her accepting your conversion isn't high ("she has mixed opinions" is revealing). She has a high likelihood of associating nudity in mixed company with sex. Sitting down and talking to her about how you and your wife would like to stop wearing clothes around the house therefore has a very high liklihood of making her feel coerced and pressured about something that she probably thinks is sexual. That's not good coming from Mom, and especially from Dad. The one thing we should feel in our home is safe. If you had that conversation, it could shatter her sense of safety. Even if she were not to take it as an attack on her safety, she might look at your and your wife's new-found body freedom as signs of an infantile regression in your "old age". (Teenagers think that of us naturally, even if we don't do anything crazy.) That's not great from the standpoint of being able to give adult and sage advice about other things (including sex) at a time when your daughter may need it most. I'm afraid that you are both up against the reality that when we have kids, the kids come first, and that changes our lives. Your little girl is more important than nakedness.

 

The discussion going on here really makes me ponder things that I haven't before. As slowtony said "Your little girl is more important than nakedness" and how true that is. For me and the kids step mom it was our 3 sons. Their birth mom said no to us for them to be around nudity so we kept it to our bedroom when they were with us. Which was a majority of their life until they were on their own. Teenagers as it goes don't stay home much with all their activities so that's when we could practice nudity throughout the home and yard. The kids knew we were nudist and learned to call when they were on the way home.

Nudony's story of the 2 teenage girls being exposed to nudity and charges brought against the parents, there is no doubt in my mind my ex would have brought DCS in to investigate. That would have been embarrassing for my kids plus put them in a bad position with their birth mom. Family nudity would have been what I wanted but it wasn't a good idea in our case.

 

Other than for what you mentioned in your posts, I don't know your family situation. That said, I would recommend talking to your daughter and letting her know that both you and your wife enjoy nudism and plan on being nude at home even when she is there. Tell her that you think she is old enough and mature enough to understand your desire to enjoy nudism more fully. I"m sure she will handle your nudity very well. I think LovelyHippie is wrong when she says "But, most kids don't wanna see their naked parents parading around the house." I honestly think most kids don't care.

 

I honestly think this thread is insane. Deciding to have the child means you decided to put your needs second to theirs. You cannot put this on the kid, especially as a teenager. It’s a difficult enough developmental stage without adding stress to her life solely for the purpose of enjoying your own freedoms.

 

There was a necro-posting somewhere, lol.

But I wonder what has become of the OP and his/her situation. They should've just practiced home nudism from the get go.

 

I agree. In my case when I have my own family, I'd want our home to be a clothing-optional environment so nudity would be a natural and enjoyable part of living. I say clothing-optional because both my girlfriend and I still do like clothes and the sense of fashion they offer, lol. But finding others(family units) who share the clothing-optional stance can be a challenge depending on where you are, so that may become something of a focal point to consider prior to even starting a family in terms of where we're going to reside.

 

The fenced yard idea is very nice. We all need to enjoy the sunshine, and especially kids need a nice outdoor area where they can play freely but safely at the same time. I actually remember many years ago in my hometown where I was just parked outside my friend's house to pick her up, and just so happened that I noticed a young child out in the front yard completely nude, playing and just doing her own thing. I thought that was really cool though, and was actually reminded of my own childhood where my mother would take me to the local beach and I'd be completely naked.

I also think that, in an environment where a full-on nudist lifestyle is a bit more challenging to achieve, the nude nights type approach is good in terms of making sure that you all get to stay in touch with that natural, naked part of yourselves and celebrate all that goodness.

 

My gf and her daughter live together. I wore underwear in the commom areas . The adult bedroom was nude and required a knock. After several purposeful walk ins and a long discussion, her daughter was exposed to non sexual nudity. Soon after she was the age of consent and made her own decision to go nude as well. Now she is a legal adult and we are all very comfortable nude together. We recognize and appreciate each others sexuality and beauty ,but we know the boundaries. Our love and respect for each other is pretty strong. We have no issues with what we do.

 

You Have Told Us This Story So Many Times Before......Give It A Break Mate.....



Cheers Glen.