Want to play out rape fantasy w a stranger on Craigslist

Yeah, you're a pezzer.

 

Or a trusted friend with a mask.

@Secretfantasy, for safety etc etc I would recommend you arranging with a friend to "break" into your place while wearing a ski mask.

 

I wish I had a friend to do that with.

But my male friends are all taken, and it be pretty weird cause there my friends. lol

 

Would your best girlfriend be willing to loan you her guy?

This elaborate a fantasy requires patience and trust (and time to determine who can be trusted) to set up.

 

You realise you're wasting your time on an obvious fake, right? Or does that like, just doesn't matter if you pretend hard enough, and be like oh wow this girl seems cool. Lol. Fucken whackos I tell you hwat.

 

If I'm helping a woman explore a fantasy or I'm contributing to a piece of on-line collective fantasy porn, I wouldn't call it a waste of my time.

I have trouble with the concept of "productive" time on this site. Its fun, its a good place, good people and all, but its recreation for me. Inherently non-productive.

 

I'm sorry to intrude, but you mentioned your husband's passing only six months ago--and for that I am truly sorry. My sincere condolences. And then you turn around and ask if this could be a grief thing. Well, maybe we're not the people to ask about this.

I'm not picking on you here or anything, legit question, but since your husband's passing, have you talked to anyone? Grief counselors? Therapists? Psychiatrists? Because if you think these fantasies are a way to cope with your grief, then that's the real issue here. It's your grief--and not your sexual desires--that needs to be addressed. If you haven't already, I think you should talk to a professional before engaging in something that could turn out to be incredibly dangerous.

 

Rape fantasy isn't really all that unusual as far as I know. The most important thing is, should one actually chooses to act out on it, one must make absolute certain the whole experience will be carried out in a safe, controlled manner. It is imperative that a "safe word" be established. I really don't believe you need to rush into this. In fact, I personally believe you should take your time and maybe even get into a new long-term relationship first, then your partner might be able to help you with it. I think this would be a much better and safer alternative to the Craigslist idea of yours.

 

Yeah your right. I'm not going to do it. But it was fun fantasizing about. Now to find a long term relationship....

 

Oh yeah, you can fantasize all you want. That's what fantasies are for. We can always fantasize about all kinds of things that we can't really act out on without careful planning. But that, and your concern about all this being a way to cope with your husband's passing(my sincere condolences!) are also separate. Neoprene Queen does have a point there, so you might consider getting some professional help in that respect, if you think that has something to do with the way you've been feeling about this subject.

In the meantime, masturbation continues to be a wonderful and safe means of providing you with at least some form of relief. When you're ready for your next relationship, you're ready. You have plenty of time, so I say breathe and take in what life has to offer.

 

Thank you for your nice post.

 

You're welcome.

I actually do want to encourage you to stick around and explore this online community in its entirety now that you've been participating in conversation for a little while. We're an interesting bunch, not always the easiest to deal with(to which I can totally admit, lol) but definitely not the most boring on the internet either, lol.

 

You could execute the fantasy by allowing that stranger into an hotel room while someone you really trust (and can overpower the stranger) can throw him out as soon as you use your safe word?

 

I’ll rape you

 

I have the same fantasy so fully understand...
First, rape fantasy... planned and consensual is not rape. Its a fantasy. A teachers fantasy wont make you a teacher... stop being so ignorant....
I get the stranger thing, thats kinda the point of the fantasy.... but i wouldnt suggest craigslist. Fetish clubs, swingers clubs or just a professional would probably be safe(er) and would get closer to your fantasy than some random guy who just wants to get some. What most ppl dont realize is that the “forced” fantasy actually entails that the other person knows you so well that hes doing everything you wanted just without having to spell it out for him step by step

 

Actually.. a fantasy is in your head... some should stay there...

 

It's know as consent non consent it's considered very controversial in the bdsm community and many reputable dogs will not do it though some will it's very very rare. As someone who is interested in cnc I find it rather abhorrent someone would try witha total stranger. This is the kind of thing youdo with someone you'd trust with your life physically and mentally. It's imply isnt safe otherwise it's very much a know when to stop scenario. It's something that must be discussed in great detail before hand and contingencies must be in place including the help of others if something gets too intense and both need comfort and after care from others so the not sharing with others wouldn't really work if you're doing it safely....no Hate or anything obviously but I'd recommend if you can't do it with complete safety in mind then don't do it at all EVER.

 

A bit surprised at the judgement and shaming in this thread. Though I am a guy, I totally understand where you are coming from, in search of fulfilling a fantasy in a safe (as it reasonably can be) yet realistic way. It needs to be a stranger. I get that. It wouldn't be the same with someone you know or have developed complete trust in. But, as you already know, it could be very, if not extremely risky, especially with someone off Craigslist. Please do not do that.

I was going to suggest something similar to what Bissubissu did. Instead of CL, find yourself a swingers forum, sign-up, and peruse the site for a while. Be patient. Pay attention to who the frequent posters are, who the respected posters are. Then consider putting the feelers out. A good forum will have a way for other members to vouch for someone you are considering. After you have found a potential partner/s, you can discuss rules. If he doesn't want to play by your rules, forget him, and move to the next. Being patient and taking your time will up your odds of success by a considerable amount. You do not want this fantasy to be a flop.

 

I didn't catch the date. Interesting.