Interested in Trying Anal, but Lots of Questions

I didn't read this whole post but I stopped when you said tampon. The better thing to try is a good shaped hair brush handle or do what I did as a kid and anything you found in shape stick it in there. There's unlimited ideas.

 

Yeah, I totally understand what you mean, I think. We had a few reasons for going with a tampon. First of all, when my wife first got her period, she had an aversion to sticking anything into herself, so she didn't use tampons for several years. She realized that she wanted to be able to have sex someday, so she worked up the guts to use a tampon. Since our trying anal play for the first time is much the same type of thing that we're very much not accustomed to, we could see the parallel. Second, the tampon would definitely not get lost up there, what with it having a string.

The problems with a tampon are its shortness, and the fact that it's just not made for that. But that's why I'm not really sure about using anything else, except an anal plug itself. I'm already nervous about it, so I want to be sure that we do it absolutely right. I don't know, what do you think? What are some specific things we might safely try? Besides a hair brush... I'm not sure my wife would want her brush used that way. LOL

 

So I went to some shops today, but it was frustrating. I've decided that I want to start with glass plugs, but the first shop didn't have any in glass. I was referred to another adult shop, but the second store didn't have any trainer kits with glass plugs. The second store had glass plugs, but they were flared in weird shapes. Didn't look like they'd be comfortable at all. I'll keep looking around here.

 

With strapon play (pegging) it is going to take time and chances are she will not hit it the 1st couple times you try. She will also need some practice to get some rythem down as its a different game when you are the thruster and no longer the thrustee.

When I first bridge the idea to my wife about pegging me, I got her her strap-on, harness and also a blow-up doll to practice on before we stepped her up to the big leagues. It gave her time to practice and feel a little more comfortable with her new girl cock. Plus, it was fun to double team a doll with her before she moved onto the real thing.

P.S. Don’t forget to put the condom on for her the first-time. To me it was almost magical knowing I was prepping her...

 

A couple nights ago, my wife and I did stuff. It was fun and all, but we both still had a really hard time relaxing. I'm pretty sure it was positioning. But it still made me think of a rather important question:

It's well known that the glutes are the largest muscles in the body. So, suppose that my wife is able to relax her sphincter enough to eventually let me ease into her. I'm nervous--and a little worried--that she might reflexively tense up while I'm inside her, which could squeeze my penis WAY too painfully much, lol. Any suggestions on how to avoid involuntary tensing?

 

I've never had that issue. Maybe it varies per individual.

 

Would anyone have any recommendations on the best anal position for the first time? A lot of people say that doggy style is the best, because it opens up the anus in the most relaxed way. But I just read an article that suggested that any woman-on-top position (e.g., cowgirl) is better, because then she's in total control of speed of penetration and things like that. What do you all say?

 

Yes it true it good to give them control but you may not get everything in I like missionary myself with her legs speed wide and over her head where her lower back is slightly lifted off the bed

 

Well, I'm okay with not getting in all the way that first time, though. As long as it doesn't hurt her. My hope is that even if she doesn't find anal to be the best experience in the world the first time or couple of times, that she'll think it better little by little each time we try it.

 

Ok I may be a little late to the party but here go's ....for my wife's first time many years ago , I did my best to help her relax, how did I helped her relax ? We had sex she had 2 or 3 orgasms , she said ok I'm ready , she got into position "doggie" ..

Slow and gentle with a massive amount of lubricant , I encouraged her to move while I remained still , she was able to control how much cock she was taking and the speed of movement..

Did I mention slow and gentle? Ok good ..

Anal sex is not for everyone but I'm lucky enough to have a wife that now enjoys anal sex and can orgasm from it ...

I can not pound away at her ass like is seen in the porn movie , trust me I would like to but this would never work for us , your mileage may vary...

Good luck and enjoy...

 

Ah, okay. So we could try enough foreplay to get her to climax at least once, if not two or three times. Then she might be in a sufficiently relaxed state to take me in the back door.

That sounds like a great way to approach things.

I know a lot of women can orgasm from anal-penile stimulation, but I guess a lot of other woman just don't. I'm still really nervous about it, mainly because I don't know how my wife is going to react. I really want her to love it. But we'll see... whenever we work up the nerve to do it to each other, LOL.

 

The same way you would get to Carnagie Hall.

 

Taking the subway?

 

I find that some libes can cause this. We switched to pure coconut oil and have not had that problem since. His semen does not cause it for me at all.