Hi all I'm a mom 28 and he is 3. I'm looking for advice!!! I am maried untill I can aford a devorce. The problem is he is totaly scary and is now moveing to my town. I left him a year ago in OK and he moved to FL a few months later. He knew why I left him and I told him that I did not want to be with him. Now he is moveing hear and he thinks we are geting back together. I have told him no and why so many times I just do not know what to do. Maby I just nead to get a court order to keep him away. All this makes me want to set my self up as a mail order bride so I can get the hell away from him but I've started a bizz of my self and my family lives hear. He makes me afrade to go to work and leave my little rainbow with anyone. I just dont know what to do. And another thing is all our friends are just his and I say that because thay dont want to know what he did and that kills me. If only thay knew thay would never talk to him again and if thay did there just as sick as he is. With all this going on I just want some earthy man to come in to my life and make every thing allbetter. Yea I know thats probly just what I dont need. Help
You need to do whatever is neccessary to protect yourself and your little one. Is there a rape crisis center or victim's advocate in your town? I don't know what your history with this man is, but the rape crisis people can give you info. on what you can and should do (even if sexually assault did not occur). They can help you file order of protection. Good luck, sweetie, and please don't let him back into your life. If you want to talk about what happened, we are good people here in the parenting forum...many of us have also been in abusive relationships, so we can at least sympathize....Loves, ~Angie~
call the cops if he comes near you or your child. what is best for mommy is best for the kid. if you are scared, young grasshopper will be too. call the cops. it sounds to me like you are scared of him . . . . dont let him near you until you bring him to court. and you are "separated" you dont have to be "married" untill divorsed. call the cops if you are scared.
well so very much has hapened in the last few months, he did move to mobile and in with some old friends of ours. However stupid it sounds we meet in public with friends every few weeks. this keeps him from comeing to our home or my work. He even gives us some money so he can look good around his friends. At first I needed the money so bad but now I have a job making alot more than him. He still talks about killing him self of going oversea to work. I would not mind if he did how ever strange. I have meet so many good people hear on hip forums and I thank every one. I wanted to get the cops involved but hear in alabama I can't do any thing but file a complant yet if any thing dus happen to me thay know where to find him. I got his tag # and any other info that will help. My ochean wants to see him some times so thats when we meet at the mall a train store or some place like that. I still have the pichures over his head so maby that will help keep us safer and I bought all new locks for the house. I still want to move but I just can't aford it right now and the family bills have gon up so I'm paying alot more than I did befor so saveing up money has goten harder. I will never give up Some thing he asked me latley was " will you move in with me" and the answe was NO and the the next week he asked me if we would spend the weekend with him the answer was again NO. and yes then he asked my if I would og camping with him in his back yard and so NO NO NO. I wonder whats going on in his head. Oh yes and the other day in public he slaped my back end well I was about to hit him when Micheal layed in to him. Micheal still has very bad dreams just about every night and he took some agreshion out that day. He often lets me know that he wants a good dady.
well I guess this is some sort of diary for me it helps put life in order. The new job I have is working in the early A.M. delivering news papers to 24 hour stores and filling boxes. Well the night was going so well and I was finishing so fast so there had to be some thing wrong. I don't mean to sound sour or any thing but the second to last stop is at a 24 hour store with a box outside the door. Well I pulled up as close as I could as always and started to open the box with my keys when this sweet looking guy about my age pulls up at the gas pump. He gets out and smiles "hi" then he walks to the front of my truck and my door was open so I was pretty much blocking the way to the box and me. I was thinking he was going to stay there until I put the new papers in like every one I meet every night. Well I was so very wrong he pulls this knife out and it's big looks like a switch blade or some thing all sharp very jagged and holes in it. He seas some thing like eighty dollars maybe like I would buy it or he just wanted me to give him some money. I'm not sure the only thing I thought was run. I got back in my truck so fast and locked those doors. He was like sorry but he still had that knife in his hands. so I pulled to the other side of the pumps and he looked in side the store and then the took off. Maybe this sounds not so bad but scaring the hell out of me. I took of so fast told the next stores people and went back to finish my rout. After that no one is getting near me at night. So I went to the IHOP on the way home and had a lot of coffee came home washed up and got on the computer. There was no way that I was going to go to sleep. But Micheal Bear had another bad dream and so I got in bed with him so he could tell me all about it and ask a million questions. Strange as it might be I'm in a very good mood today. I'm very thankful for the life I have. It could have been so much worse. I am strong
