High Sex Drive And Needing Sex

You should have pushed yourself when younger to get through Uni and make something of it, then career etc

Love, relationships, this guy or any other one guy has nothing to do with it.

There are truckloads of women and men too miserable later on because they took the easy way early on. Unfortunately every does come down to money


Even if it does work out with this guy, you get married, its only going to be one decent income for the next couple of decades, and thats "if"

By the sounds of it, you dont have to worry too much about other girls wanting to take him of you at the moment, but that will change

Its bad planning



Just your avatar gives you away, a 30 yr old woman chooses an avatar from a kids movie? You dont even understand why anyone else is interested in sex, do you?

 

You have a right to have whatever fantasy you want to have and to set whatever standards you want to set. You don't have to feel bad about insisting on something that you really want. That doesn't mean that your bf has to agree, or continue to agree to be in a relationship with you, but you still have the right.

In any relationship, there is a question of compatibility: are you and your partner able to give each other the things that you need and want in a relationship.

When friction occurs in the relationship, the first thing is to try to make adjustments to make the relationship work for both parties.

If you can't find an adjustment that makes it work for both parties, one or both have to make a sacrifice. If a sacrifice has to be made, you have to consider if the relationship is good enough to be worth it.

In order to help you, we need to know (and you need to figure out for yourself) how much you value your relationship. Do you really feel like he's the one? Are you madly in love with him? Is everything else in the relationship going well except the sex-before-marriage part?

If you really do value this relationship and feel like it is fundamentally good, you should see if there are some adjustments that will work. From your other threads, you apparently give him manual and oral sex. If you feel very comfortable with oral and manual, you could try improving your skills in these types of sex, and see if both of you would be happy with that. You could also consider anal sex.

If you don't want to consider these things, or it doesn't solve the problem, it may be that you should just put your foot down and just insist on no sex till marriage.

You might also want to think about couples counseling

 

Yes, I have considered all of what has been said here. Him and I are going to work thing out.

 

My question is frozenfun: do YOU wanna have sex with him? Are you ever horny? And what would you do when you're hot and wet? Or are you really really frozen?

 

Which by the sounds of it is another thing he would have to pay for, no doubt resent having to pay for it.

Do you think in session, if her guy mentioned that he resents having to pay for the counselling, that the counsellor ( the one getting paid ) would be objective, linger and examine that point

 

Yes, in fact the counselor might recommend 8 or 9 sessions to fully explore the issue

 

Frozen, before you do disappear again for another month...

It could go the other way, he may indeed want the 1950s style wifey

Not that theres anything wrong with that