Fess Up: Love Making Is Just Propaganda

I think the important thing to remember is that it's up to you to make it special. It's not going to magically be special. You have to think about it... what will make this special? Roses!

 

Roses may get the message across but is not really regarded as special these days in my book. More like cliché. And its not that I am not romantic: I romanticize the shit out of everything

 

Of course, and I agree that it is perhaps cliche, but I think it breaks the ice. Makes the topic more approachable, don't you think so?

Otherwise it could be that she has been with him for a long time and is accustomed to faking it. If this is the case then more drastic measures may be appropriate, such as marital or couples counseling. That's my take on it anyway.

 

if i'm getting laid, it's pretty damn special.

 

No matter how good group sex feels, only one person in any group can be your favorite person on earth, the one you trust the most and connect with best.

 

My wife and I have been married a long time and have enjoyed different aspects of sex. Sometimes we just want to get naked and fuck. Other times, we want to cuddle and reaffirm how much we value each other, ending in a long, gentle session of sex. Both are great! The natural question would be: "How do we know what we will be doing tonight...fucking or making love?" Beats the hell out of me! We just seem to know.

 

Personally I am a big fan of love making, I am also a big fan of fucking also but there is a big difference.

For me love making is like this. My current partner I love more than anything on the planet. When I wake up she is the first thing I want to see, and when I sleep I want to sleep knowing she is next to me. I could not live without her. Those moments when say you are spooning and cuddling in a nice way, love making is like a much more intimate version of that. Such a beautiful feeling just relaxed and gentle. That feeling of intimacy and devotion and happiness knowing that there is no where or no one I would rather be with right now.

On the other hand, fucking is the ultimate of lust and flesh desire, my girl friend is pretty damn hot, and fucking the shit out of her is awesome and both of us love it.

There is a time and a place for both.

 

The act of "making love" is a physiological blender of chemical secretions and reactions meant for species propagation.. As humanity advanced in culture and self-identifying cognizance, homosexual intercourse still biochemically applies to this as well but through simulation of the "make babies with this one" instinct. This is also a root for homosexual couples being motivated by visions of carrying/rearing their partners BIOLOGICAL offspring in a definitive manner. Those who can't seperate physical sex with romantic emotional attachment have been societally conditioned as such, religiously based or otherwise.

Is sex better when youre emotionally connected to someone as well as biologically hot for them? Usually, unless they suck absolute ass or are incapable of meeting your prefential needs. Afore mentioned connection's establishment, and relative functional stance at any given time-ie when couples fight a lot, they tend to fuck less-can effect the quality as much as not having it. And, if one was for whatever reason motivated to, i believe it can be classically conditioned from a person to require emotional obligation.

And i wont say the awful Freudian bigotry i imperically feel about asexuality in regards to biochemical and environmental conditions..

Personally, im a picky poly. Lol, my kink positions and preferences for males vs females is distinct and completely opposite. However, i dont need an emotional connection to fuck someone-nor even much persuading depending on how the days going. I also give zero fucks about sharing my partner, or having a completely open relationship. *for the record, if you wanna bang someone outside on a regular basis, id like to meet them a couple times so i know they're not a demon from satans bunghole sent to devour our souls. If ours is the established seriously committed partnership-ie co habitation/parental responsibilities, marriage, ect-then full party involvement is required in regards to sexual health, and illegitimate fetus incubation. And of course, dont expect if you can do it that i wont be as well.

 

I truly believe that anyone who believes what OP stated has just never found the right person to make them feel the way needed. I have even seen hard-core feminist militant types melt and give in to the right man.

To over analyse and look at the whole thing scientifically is a load of crap. Sure you can just put all down to chemical reactions etc etc, but stuff that. I'm a huge fan of science but there are some things that are far more fun to just experience rather than study. A basic understanding can help, but to say that other peoples experiences are just propaganda is pretty lame.

And propaganda or not, when me and my partner are truly connected with each other and in tune with our needs and desires the overall feeling is far more intense and satisfying than even our most intense bondage session, marathon, or just hard rampant fuck could ever achieve.

 

To me the whole act of sex just seems naive. Like you think you're special because you're special to someone. But are you really special, or are you just cell division? Do you really have a mind at all, or is it just the function that keeps you multiplying? People that don't contemplate deeper questions like this really bother me.

It seems like the woman is the embodiment of nature, and man is the embodiment of man. But the truth is that everything's natural, and women therefore always think everything's all right. But to me, modern men are mostly ignoble losers. I can't believe women can even stand having sex with us. When I imagine what it must be like, I just think, if I were a woman, I'd be like, "Get the fuck off of me" to almost every guy on earth.

 

and woman , too....there, neon.... GTF off of me to everyone.....

 

Being a straight man, why do you think you should be able to understand how it feels to be a straight woman? And why do you assume men are always on top?

 

I just try to be empathetic. To see things from others' points of view.

I only say all of this halfheartedly, because I understand that all women are different and it's wrong to generalize or to become disheartened by the actions of some or even a majority of women. But most men seem to me to disrespect women in some fashion or another. That is, they put their own desires over the woman's happiness in the world. AND that's kind of backwards too, because a lot of women like to be disrespected, at least in the bedroom, so technically you sort of are respecting a woman by disrespecting her in some instances. Which seems like a pussy move, and I don't know why women are attracted to it.

Needless to say, the whole woman thing is so fucked up there's no point even thinking about women. Like nature, they want to be unbound and limitless, and as someone who respects women, you have to let them all go. What you love you must set free. And yes I REALIZE that even this is not good enough for a woman. She'll say you're being an asshole for not taking what you want. But on the other hand, don't delay too long in considering what is good for the woman, and if that thing is you.

I didn't mean "Get the fuck off of me" in the sense of the man being on top, per se. I meant that I can't understand how women appreciate most men's advances.

So as you can see, I have complicated this to the point where I am a fetus brain inside of a man's body.

 

This seems to be more true for younger women. Certainly not true for me.

 

I don't know why I think about shit like this. Like thinking that maybe our minds are just illusions created by the necessity to procreate. I can see how that could be true, but then I think the illusion is more significant than the "reality" anyway.

And men. Men aren't so bad. They smell bad and are delusional, but generally mean well. And I guess cell division could as easily be construed as a beautiful thing as a mindless thing.

Sex is truly wonderful, is what I honestly believe. It's just that people get on my nerves.

 

I don't think younger girls want to be treated disrespectful, it's just a product of the time we live in thanks to advertising and media. You just don't see nice people much anymore. What a husband or boyfriend is meant to be on television is a jerk, or a sneaky back stabbing wife. These are the role models we've got to choose from. There's a few good people out there, I know. But I feel for me personally, few and far in between.

 

I have contemplated recently if anyone could connect with anyone and I have come to the conclusion (for myself) that this is not the case. There has to be common thoughts, opinions, feelings. When I say you have to have some of that stuff in common, I don't mean you have to agree wholeheartedly with each other all the time. That would be boring as fuck but the other person has to have an honest respect for your differing opinion. No person is perfect, no relationship is perfect but the whole theory that we are just cell division and anyone could form a bond with another just doesn't ring true for me. I think it's a really horrible thing to say that if someone considers their relationship or themselves to be special to someone else that they are naive and don't contemplate deeper questions.

BAM

Don't think it's an age thing but more of a situational thing, what people get used to and the fact that some people seem to not be able to step back and evaluate their own thoughts and actions, let alone those of others.

There are lots of good people out there, everyone is not everyone's cup of tea though and there are different levels of friendship.

 

I agree fully with you, there LOTS of good people out there. Me and my partner have been travelling for over 4 years now, and yes we have encountered so many people from all different walks of life. And so many of them are amazingly good people. Even the ones that maybe we don't get along with on a personal level I have still seen them do good things or show traits that impress me.

Even though I like hearing the other side of things especially the more scientific based side of things, (helps keep me grounded, I can get carried away with the whole romance side of things to easy and end up living in the clouds) it is nice to hear that others also believe that a real connection between two people is something special.

 

If you could analyze each and every brain wave and neuron impulse so thoroughly that you could write a detailed essay about it, how would that improve your life? Animals are naturally Zen, but humans have to work at it. Just enjoy fucking or making love or whatever, and don't overthink it so much. You're going to die anyway, and eventually be forgotten. Enjoy your brain while you have it.

Nearly all high school girls love the bad boy attitude. Behaviors that are nothing but red flags to mature women. There are exceptions, but that's the trend I see.