Have You Ever Wanted To Tell Someone How Much You Loved Them

That's Excellent I like a happy ending

 

I just tell the people I love that I love them now. I never used to be so open but I don't want any regrets if I died tomorrow.

 

I am not sure. When that time comes, I will let you know.

I am too guarded...or I haven't found the right one...but that's OK. The rest of my life is beginning!

 

Now I want to know what made her change her mind

 

It just really took her off-guard when I told her how I felt about her and it took some time for her to kind of let the idea sink in and process it. I was one of two people who she considered the closest, most trusted people in her life and, considering that I was married when we first became friends, we started out in the position where we wouldn't be more than friends. But I eventually got divorced, we both had relationships with different people over the years but we really solidified our friendship throughout it all. So when I dropped that news on her....we were both basically single, we hung out together all the time, we stayed at each others houses on the weekends after going out on the town....and I never planned on telling her how I felt. In my own mind, I felt like telling her would be betraying her in a sense and possibly hurting her and I never wanted that. But letting her move in and not telling her would have been a bigger betrayal. I had to tell her.

She thought it over and told herself "Why not? He knows me better than anyone, he treats me very well and he has the qualities I'd want in a man. Why wouldn't I want this?" (I've heard her tell the story enough times to know ) And you could feel things grow from there. I knew I was winning her over without her having to tell me what she was thinking. I could sense it because I knew her so well and I knew to just let it happen at it's own pace.

Our other friends weren't surprised and some were basically like "About time! Congrats!"

 

I actually have been in love with a woman for going on 25 years. Never once said anything about it to her. We were both married at the time. Her husband was abusive and a cheat. My wife was cheating as well. We both went through our divorces at the same time. Spent many hours on the phone together. Never once acted on my feeling towards her. Then I got married again, she was living with some guy which then ended after I was married. And here I am again. Still the same feeling for her, she doesn't know and life goes on for us both.

 

man, just tell her, even if you never follow through with anything

 

Who you want to express your love to?

As for me, nope. I rather keep my love to myself, because no one wants it, anyways. It's not about wrong timing for me. It's just about being wrong in general. I kid you not, I'm not being negative... no one wants my love.

There is this need to express yourself when you love or really like something. And if you don't do it, it starts to weight heavy on you. So, in order to avoid that I might say it casually, in passing. Like while I'm talking about something else or when about to leave. This gets my need fulfilled without all the seriousness, and rejection. I already know how that goes. If I don't do that, then I keep it to myself.

Of course, I throw around the word, 'love' a lot. I love myself. See, I just did it right now. Lol. So, that also helps.

 

I don't need no pity cyber hug.

*pushes you off a cliff*
Buh Bye newbie-one.
You go down, down now.

No, seriously... spill... who you love?

 

I have sent her notes, letters, emails, spoken to her face to face and eluded to my feelings many times. She never got the hint or I was too vague or she just was letting it pass. Not sure.

 

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boyfriend does not equal stepfather

unless you feel like it is critical that you find a stepfather for your son, you can have a relationship with this guy without him becoming either your husband or a stepfather to your child

 

Hey newbie, how is your timing going? Is it time yet?

 

I would go based off your first instinct if it feels right jump on it. If it doesn't wait. Patient grasshopper good things only to people that wait.

 

I think i'm gonna wait. I've got a boyfriend that i randomly hooked up with. But i know that is just a flirt.

I feel that when the time is right i will tell all

 

1st off--welcome to the forums. Bringing a " new" man or women into a house is a HUGE step for a child. "he's kind of a gangster and not the serious type." Sound like someone you want helping to raise your child? It's hard enough with a person that is NOT "kind of a gangster and not serious," because your 1st priority is your child. Sorry this sounds like a lecture-------I have experience at this in my family in more than one generation. (maybe gangsters in Finland are different than here in the US?)----------Joel

 

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