Anal Sex Questions, Honsest Answers Only!

I would love to have anal sex however my size present a problem. I've been able to get the head of my penis inside but that's been about it. My current girlfriend is a size queen. She's pretty freaky and willing to try just about anything to include swinging, however when it comes to anal sex she's not able to. When we swing, she enjoys having anal with a smaller guy and shes gets her anal fix that way. We've been swinging for several years now and I have yet to find someone that will even try with me. As sexual as me and my girlfriend are its frustrating that I'm not able to experience anal.

 

All I know is my limited experience. Out of a couple of dozen, 2 women actually wanted it, 1 or2 others would occasionally allow it, a few others said absolutely not, and for the rest, it never came up. I only really wanted to do it with them a few times, so not much pushing it on my part.

Sometimes, but not always -- but most of the women I was with were single, never married. In my case anyway, almost all the attraction was that it was something novel, maybe almost forbidden. This was a long time ago -- in the 70's and early 80's.

BTW, I found that the best preparation / lubrication was pussy fucking first, dog style.

 

Horny jules hope u will take my cock in your ass babe

 

i hope to god that horny jules is your girlfriend. if not, what a fucked up thing to say to a random person.

 

Absolutely right.

 

If you really want to do anal sex, you have to make sure to use the right amount of lube and use the thicker ones, because they don't dry out as quickly. You can lie flat on your stomach, get in doggy-style, or do missionary — and that is the order of what will hurt the least to the most.

 

As a bisexual guy who is new to anal sex, I can tell you it does hurt at first! My advice is to relax back there as much as you can and use a lot of lubricant! For my first time I was lucky in that the guy had a lot of experience and spent a lot of time just fingering me as we kissed and he got me used to the feeling of being penetrated in my bum. I got to the point where I was begging him to penetrate me and when he finally did I was much more ready and willing to go through the pain barrier! After a short while of him gently penetrating me and allowing me to get used to his length inside me, the pain subsided and the feeling of being full back there started to just feel incredible! The closeness and intimacy of the act took over for me and I have to say the feelings were the most intense sexual feelings I have ever had!
I have now done it a number of times and each time it hurts initially as he pushes all of his length into me but Iknow it won't be for long and once it subsides the pleasure I get from anal is beyond anything I know!
In terms of afterwards, I tend to feel a little 'open' but I think it is a mental thing rather than anything physical!
My advice is to just take your time, make sure your partner takes their time and enjoy hun

 

And I can tell you from a lot of experience that it only hurts at first if you don't prepare for it. A few weeks to a month of training before you have anal sex the first time and it will not hurt.

 

Is anal sex better then vaginal sex? sometimes. but if i haven't had anal in a while i tend to be more likely to say yes to this question...withdraws i guess
Do women really like anal sex? i am a woman and i love anal sex. i like it in many different positions and i like it rough and hard or soft and gentle. it's hard to do anal soft and gentle though.
How long does it take to adjust to anal sex? you never adjust to it but you can learn how to get through the sphincter muscle with less pain.
Does anal sex cause your butt to be gaping open and eventually lose bowel control? i have had anal sex for about 17 years now and no i have full control of my bowels and my ass only gaps open when we make it.
Does your butt bleed the first few times? no if you bleed then something is either wrong or you have torn something.
Explain The butt plug! it's a sex toy you insert into the asshole. you use it to stretch the sphincter muscle or for anal foreplay or masturbation on your own ass.
Will my butt be sore after? sometimes it depends on how rough they fuck you
Does it cause hemmeroids? i'm sure that it can

Unless there is something wrong with your colon or the inside of your rectum which is always possible and you should have a doctor look at it if you are concerned, then the pain is probably from the sphincter muscle. It's the inner sphincter muscle that is so hard to penetrate. You have to be the one to slowly push it through. You can wiggle your ass back and forth or side to side while very very slowly pushing your ass down onto the object you are inserting. Once you break through that wall let whoever take control it's a mind blowing experience to be done up the ass. Very carnal and erotic for me. You need to be patient with it though and do expect some pain especially when you first start you are stuffing something rather large into a hole that is used for the things to come out of. Lots and lots of lube.

 

Although I've never had anal sex before, I can say that If I ever did give a woman anal sex, I would penetrate her very slowly & with plenty of lube being added at intervals. It does hurt a bit if you push something in that's well over an inch in diameter. But I can tolerate something inserting something that's 2 inches in diameter. I will at some stage try something slightly thicker.

 

well me and my girlfriend do occasionally enjoy anal sex but we found "warming it up" helps we either put a butt plug in first or her favorite is take a half hour and put a small/medium then large smooth vibrator up there first! and use a good lube!

 

Is anal sex better then vaginal sex?
I can't say that it's better, it's different and if done right it can be just as enjoyable. I'm sure some find it better, but I can't cum through it so I guess for me it's not better.. at least I can't yet.

Do women really like anal sex?
Some do some don't.

How long does it take to adjust to anal sex?
Depends. I've occasionally had fingers up my ass, and I have a quite large buttplug that I would use on myself, but the plug was always uncomfortable.
Last month I tried anal with a cock, the first time in years (after much finger and tongue stimulation) and I relaxed and let him very slowly entered me. It's a little uncomfortable at first but once you are able to accept it, it can feel so good.

Does anal sex cause your butt to be gaping open and eventually lose bowel control?
I'm sure if you abuse your asshole that can happen. But just by fucking I doubt it.

Does your butt bleed the first few times?
My has never, but if it does you're probably overworking it.

Explain The butt plug!
They can help loosen you up before anal. I like to use them in the shower as my skin is relaxed and soap works a little better than lube, also it will clean your asshole a little.
They come in so many sizes, I ended up with a medium size one as my first plug. It hurts a little going in but once it's in you can hardly even feel it.

Will my butt be sore after?
The first couple of times yes, but as your ass adjusts to taking wider things, you won't feel sore after sex. IME at least.

 

On the discussion of anal sex and orgasm. Ny wife had never had an anal orgasm until we met
My wife now has the most amazing mind blowing anal orgasms and it doesnt involve my penis at all. Weve descovered that I can gently massage aroung her ass and over her asshole with 3 fingers in a circular rubbing motion. Sometimes I change to a rubbing up and down motion across her ass and I also make sure to stimulate the area between her ass and bottom of her vagina. Now some times I use a two finger tickleing type of motion across her ass and ever so slightly penetrating her. The finger strokes finish on the up stroke by tickling the area between ass and box. This always works. Takes time, not invasive but so satisfying.
Now when i do this my palm is pointing up towards her pelvic area. If shes having trouble getting there I use my palm to apply pressuse to her clit. So whole hand is doing small circular motions. 3 fingers on her ass and my palm on her pelvic area rubbing her clit.
All women are different but my wife can distinctively tell the difference between a clitteral orgarm a g spot orgasm and an anal orgasm.unless she has 2 or 3 at once
Ive also descovered that if you know how to correctly massage a womans g spot, well do that in opposite action.
Insert 2 to 3 fingers 3/4 the way in and aim then down wards towards her ass. Then use a similar stroking motion as you would on the gspot. You are stroking the rear wall of the vagina which on the other side of that is her ass. Use a scooping motion with your fingers so that you are pushing her asshole gently out from the inside. My wife firstly assosiated this feeling as an urge to poo. Once I convinced her that shes all clean and good to go she can come really hard. With all of these techniques my fingers are not inside her ass at all. However she seriously is so overwhelmed with stimulation she swears im in her ass when im not at all.
Please if these work for you or youve had similar experiences please let me know
Report Abuse
0 0 Reply
HAVE SOMETHING TO SAY?

 

On the discussion of anal sex and orgasm. Ny wife had never had an anal orgasm until we met
My wife now has the most amazing mind blowing anal orgasms and it doesnt involve my penis at all. Weve descovered that I can gently massage aroung her ass and over her asshole with 3 fingers in a circular rubbing motion. Sometimes I change to a rubbing up and down motion across her ass and I also make sure to stimulate the area between her ass and bottom of her vagina. Now some times I use a two finger tickleing type of motion across her ass and ever so slightly penetrating her. The finger strokes finish on the up stroke by tickling the area between ass and box. This always works. Takes time, not invasive but so satisfying.
Now when i do this my palm is pointing up towards her pelvic area. If shes having trouble getting there I use my palm to apply pressuse to her clit. So whole hand is doing small circular motions. 3 fingers on her ass and my palm on her pelvic area rubbing her clit.
All women are different but my wife can distinctively tell the difference between a clitteral orgarm a g spot orgasm and an anal orgasm.unless she has 2 or 3 at once
Ive also descovered that if you know how to correctly massage a womans g spot, well do that in opposite action.
Insert 2 to 3 fingers 3/4 the way in and aim then down wards towards her ass. Then use a similar stroking motion as you would on the gspot. You are stroking the rear wall of the vagina which on the other side of that is her ass. Use a scooping motion with your fingers so that you are pushing her asshole gently out from the inside. My wife firstly assosiated this feeling as an urge to poo. Once I convinced her that shes all clean and good to go she can come really hard. With all of these techniques my fingers are not inside her ass at all. However she seriously is so overwhelmed with stimulation she swears im in her ass when im not at all.
Please if these work for you or youve had similar experiences please let me know
Report Abuse
0 0 Reply
HAVE SOMETHING TO SAY?

 

Listen, if you are truly wanting to do anal then go for it, you will find that the sensation is worth the initial pain you may feel. Relax and entry is much easier. My husband is fairly large and I am a petite woman but once you start doing it on a regular basis that pain goes away. I am not normally a screamer unless my hubby is pounding my booty and my orgasm's are so intense that I have been known to pass out temporarily due to the intense pleasure. Trust me sweety, try it and you will come to love it.

 

It sounds like it's just not your thing. I have no interest in anal sex either. There are plenty of other fun things to do.
I've never understood the attraction.

 

Done right and with proper prep it should not hurt. It should in fact feel great. Women in movies have trained their muscles, are relaxed and lived up before the camera rolls. A great way to work up to full anal sex is slow and diligent practice. Relax. Get in the mood and start with just lube and a finger. Over dats and weeks progress at your own slow pace to 2 fingers. Then a tiny plug. Then larger and larger until you can comfortably take in and keep in a plug or dildo larger than his penis. Each session start smaller than you think you can take and continue to go slow. When you can take that larger dildo without pain go for the penis. You keep control and take breaks if you feel discomfort. Remember that a gentle push down on your anus (mimicking the muscle use of a bowel movement) helps to open the spinster making insertion smoother. Keep up the work. If you have a break of more than a few days between anal sex nights then step down the size again a gradually scale up. The more you practise the better the muscles will get at it and the more amazing it will feel. Experiment with lubes to find one you like an do not use numbing ones. You WANT to know when to stop or slow down.