Open marriages/relationships

For 36 years I did have that agreement with my SO. But now I'm divorced (34 yrs of marriage) and I am monogamous with my gf. Altho -- she had a dream last week of sharing our bed with another woman. Hell, I'd be open to sharing with another man, too. But it hasn't happened yet.

 

In all of my LTR I have offered these women the opportunity of an open relationship. Open for their end.

G/F #1 took me up on it, and had a torrid relationship with another woman. I think they're still together.

Wife #1 took me up on the offer after 2 years of marriage. A 6 mo affair with her personal trainer. Never got to watch or join, but I did enjoy numerous "seconds". She even had a MFM with this guy and his roommate.

Current wife of 15 years has always had the offer to play alone, but said she's not interested. We did however have a few MFM 3 sums with a good friend of mine. She loved that.

 

Happily in an open relationship. It has its ups and downs just like monogamy does, but I love our life!

 

Happily in a cuckold relationship where I get to be with another man whereas my husband is faithful to me. It's what we BOTH want so it's a win-win!

 

I have encouraged my wife to enjoy herself with whoever she wants to. I have the freedom too but I don't have much desire to have sex with other woman (i have on a few occasions though). It's more about her and sharing her body with others that gets me off.

 

yeah been open with my wife the last 5 years - we did have a regular 3sum with another bi-guy for 5 months but after that ended we didn't repeat. I make full use and meet other guys - the deal is she is my only woman. she doesn't make much use of it but accepts my needs.

Simon

 

In my opinion open relationships really don't exist. If you are in a committed relationship then it should be committed otherwise what you really have is just a fuck buddy who you may or may not live with. As far as swinging goes, I have no problem with it but I think you shouldn't be married if you choose that lifestyle. Some say that being jealous is silly and that may be true yet everyone gets jealous at some time. Also in a relationship or marriage there is more of an emotional connection and sex becomes part of that connection. If you are having sex with others whether together or not I don't see how that connection can be that strong. I have been in a swinging open marriage before and it actually led to our divorce. Face it people do get jealous, its jist a human emotion. I am now remarried and would never want to swing again. My connection with my wife means too much to me and I see no reason to go outside my marriage for sexual gratification. Besides our love life is awesome. Don't anyone else to help spice ot up. Its pretty hot already.

 

My wife and I are in our late-50s (I'll be 60 in less than a month.) Her sex drive has always been, at best, average and she really has no interest in sex with other men at this point in her life. I still am very interested in other women and have her permission to entertain other partners. However, it'll probably never happen, as my age, plus both ED and PE, make me very reluctant to try, for fear of "failure to launch".

 

After nearly 30 years of marriage, my wife and I are still very close and very much in love. However many years ago with our frequent travel schedules we gave each other permission to sleep with others if the urge or opportunity arose. My wife has had some hotel encounters as well as I have. We both have the mindset that it's just sex and fun on the road. Here in the last few years we both have invited our outside lovers into our bedroom to share. My wife and I are both Bi, and we enjoy the opposite sex as well. I really get into seeing her kiss and eat the pussy of her female lover.

 

We had an open agreement when we were younger. It had to be open and honest. Now we don't even mention the possibility and concentrate on pleasing each other.

 

We are polyamorous. So, with us it is a case of many LOVES. It is more than just sex. Yes, we also have sex with others for fun, but the relationships we have with others are deeper than just sex. Our agreement is that we love each other, and if another person can enhance that love, then we agree that it's a good thing.

 

sure, my wife and I have been open the last five years; I make more use if it than she does. The deal is that she is my only woman.


Simon

 

We had that agreement years ago. She could have sex with anybody she desired, man or woman. Nothing happened.

 

Most definitely, He and I have been in an open relationship for over 30 yrs. We decided yrs ago to maintain our open sexual mannerisms and it works for us. We always tell one another who we been with and its always been OK. He knows and approves of the men i bed and i know the majority of women or men he beds with. When we are with other its just sex and fun, when he and i are together we make passionate love. I know its hard to comprehend but it works for us.

 

When we were first living together, and then during the first few years of marriage, my wife was my sexual soul mate. We did just about everything together (including several mfm with a good friend) and experimented with a bi woman alone. During that time I offered the option of seeing other people while I remained monogamous. As far as I know she never took the opportunity. Although we are in a basically sexless marriage the last 4 years....married 17.....the offer still stands. I would think if she took a lover or two it would definitely improve our sex life.

In a previous LTR my GF took my offer, and had an ongoing sexual relationship with a bi gal. My ex wife had the same offer, and had a 6 mo affair with her personal trainer.

I guess I just like to share!

I miss those days/women.

 

Things have changed since I posted this almost 3 years ago..now understand, I am a mid 60's male, who never had a blowjob,until I was 60, with my second wife.I had been married for a LONG time,in my first marriage,and the sex was 'vanilla',and boring.My second wife,is to put it mildly, a cum slut.And one thing she does, is talk to her 'girlfriends', (mostly married)..ladies, in their late 50s early 60s, when she is drunk and/or stoned,about my 'equipment'. I find that I get my 'package' checked out a lot by these older married ladies.It came to a HEAD..(pun intended), this past summer, as her married girlfriend of 64 gave me a spine tingling blowjob, as I kissed my wife,and sucked on her boobs.Word must have gotten around,as I find I am displaying my cock a LOT!, to these older ladies. (I am about 7-8 inches and THICK) and my wifes rules are..'blowjobs ONLY, and they have to either swallow, take it in their mouth, or as a last resort..a facial.My wife likes to watch me being blown, and my reactions..there have been 3 ladies so far this year,who have taken up my wifes offer to suck my cock, while she watches, and 1 has become almost an addict for my cock.Gentlemen..keep your dick CLEAN,and pubes nicely trimmed..and who knows what could happen. I went from a guy who never had a BJ until I was 60, to almost being able to have it sucked on demand, lol..Our sex life is FANTASTIC!,I am hoping that on our vacation next year,that we can have a full on 3some,with one of these older ladies. There is absolutely nothing better,than having someone blow you, as my wife kisses and caresses me, as her friends suck me off to completion. Older ladies ROCK!!

 

Whatever it takes but anything is better than cheating and getting cheated on *smh*

 

With an open marriage one has to have rules and your's is right on track! When first got in to an open marriage we set our rules and now after years of an open marriage we still have rules! If my wife gets hot pants over some guy and she can't get a hold of me to tell me she is going to sleep with a guy she tells me later and the same rule goes for me! Communication between both of us is a must! if she is going stay the entire night she then must get a hold of me to tell me she isn't coming home that night!

 

Your not alone!

 

Our relationship is open albeit one sided. I play and she doesn't. She wants me to be happy, healthy, and find sexual satisfaction where she can no longer provide it. Sex between us has vanished but everything else is still there. We have been together over 40 years and know each other well. She needs daily attention due to her medical issues and I am there for her. There are times when I need relief from the daily stresses which she points out. So when she does I schedule an outing and get recharged.