Society And Sex The Hidden Taboo

Okey dokey.

Knock yourself out then, doorknock the whole neighbourhood, ask ever guy how often his wife puts out

 

No I would like to see a society where people are free and happy to discuss sex out in the open, without fear of being branded perverted. I have no intention of carrying out a house to house survey about peoples sex lives I can assure you of that.

 

Oh, I thought we were joking around

But if you are being serious, isnt that the same thing. Isnt a society where everyone is free and happy to be open also one where you are free to knock on strangers doors, ask em about their sex lives, since everybody is being so free and open and all

 

Of course you wouldn't be knocking on strangers doors asking them about their sex lives, let's get this into some kind of perspective shall we. What we are saying here is that everyone in society would feel free should they wish to do so for whatever the reason of course, to talk frankly about their sex lives with say friends, family, close neighbours or perhaps people they know without fear of being regarded as weird or perverted. Say for instance I've got some friends around, and we start chatting about masturbation, sexual positions, pornography, orgasms, sexual fantasies etc etc , we would feel a lot more comfortable talking about it because it wouldn't be regarded as a taboo subject in society. You take another look at that the post I did about Diane and my sexual relationship with her, that's a good example of how being open about sexual matters in a family would help prevent teenage pregnancies and the spread of SDIs.

 

Ok, that still doesnt make sense


Isnt 'society' for the most part everyone else thats not family or your friends? i.e strangers

So its only going to work with if you dont talk to all the other millions you dont know. Even though its their fault in the first place, as they are 'society'

 

I live in the USA, which I have heard is the most sexually repressed country in the western world. I believe it. Just look at the warped censorship of our TV networks. No nudity allowed. We can't hear the words "shit" or "fuck", even though almost everyone's grandmother says those words. Even HBO is very reluctant to show penises, even though many female fans of Game of Thrones have petitioned to even the nudity score between the sexes. Censorship is probably the most un-democratic aspect of modern life. What would happen if we could vote on it?

 

No it works for everyone who is connected with the people they know as well as strangers. But that doesn't mean you would randomly go around talking to strangers about their sex lives, but if you made friends with a stranger then of course you could freely discuss sexual issues should you wish to do so, without feeling ashamed or guilty about it.

 

Oh ... I am so enjoying this thread ..................

YES WE ARE SEXUALLY REPRESSED !!!!!! i want to shout it from the rooftops ..................
for years i have felt like a freak because i am a female who loves sex ,,,
i am from a roman catholic backround which taught me that
sex is wrong unless it is to procreate,
sex is wrong between people of the same gender ...
sex is so wrong that after you have given birth to a baby you must come to church and we will forgive you for the sin of performing the act which made said miracle .....
i am not talking about a small community here i am talking about everybody i knew growing up agreed (or publicly seemed to) with this.
nobody ever spoke to me about sex as a young teenager ,,, my parents just said "you better not get in trouble" which i assume meant pregnant ????

so what was i to do when my sexuality was awoken ???
i lost my virginity in a field at 15 years old
i was ashamed
i masturbated regularly
i was ashamed
i walked around feeling ashamed my whole adult life - in essence i was hiding a huge part of myself from everybody i knew,

then i turned 40
decided i dont give a fuck what anyone thinks and i am having the time of my life
i have rediscovered myself and my sexuality ...
i only wish i had more sex when i was younger and had a much better body lol

i speak openly and candidly about sex to my 3 children age 11, 13, 15
i support and encourage them in all aspects of their lives and sex is and will always be a part of that
there is no topic taboo at our kitchen table...
i have lost people that i thought were friends ,,,, turns out they couldnt have been because they didnt really know me
i have met some amazing, interesting people and the people in my family who always loved me still do ...

turns out that to be a woman who loves sex and enjoys masturbation is not as unusual as i thought and thank god for places like this where people like me can have opinions and be honest about who we are and not be judged ......

and hopefully with more and more people becoming open minded the future generations will not be repressed ...
what is the harm of doing something that you derive so much pleasure from if it doesnt hurt anybody ???
live and let live ,,,,,,,,,,

by the way backchat ,,, wish you were my neighbour ... bet we would have some interesting convos at the garden fence :dizzy2:

 

In most cases, it is the women who are holding back men from being more open.

My female friends from college are a lot more open and honest about sex than the average American woman. Girls like us tend to seek each other out in a group and bond with each other. Our private conversations can get quite explicit, but we're still careful about what we say in front of women who are not known to be uninhibited. My old friends have developed relationships with their daughters that allow them to talk about absolutely anything.

When getting to know a new couple, I've developed a simple test that seems quite reliable. In a lighthearted moment, I simply slip the f-word into the conversation in a casual way, and watch the woman's facial expression. If she doesn't have a positive reaction, she's very likely to be an uptight person. If she also uses it in a sentence within a couple of minutes, there is likely good potential there for an open, honest, and uncensored friendship, if I want to pursue it. Unfortunately, the typical reaction from a Southern woman over 35 is shock and horror.

 

Thanks for this Karen ,,,, it may be a good way to test the waters ,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,