Society And Sex The Hidden Taboo

Ready for a virtual orgy? :devil: We won't tell anybody you work with.

 

Are you the orgy coordinator? ;-)

 

Put it this way I was an innocent person before I joined up with HF, now look what has happened to me. I certainly wont be going back to my old ways now for sure, it feels like a heavy weight has been taken off my shoulders.

 

If you want me to be.

Corrupting an innocent guy is a tough job, but somebody has to do it.

My husband says he first had that experience at strip clubs. There were no strip clubs or topless bars anywhere near the university I graduated from. Otherwise, I probably would have picked up some cash that way. Getting paid to play, as I see it.

 

If by shoulders you really mean gonads

 

I agree with moonglow completely. Thankfully, most people understand that sex isn't that important. There are more important things. Some people think the sensations they experience have to be everybody's business for some reason, like they're not really getting off unless everyone is exposed to it.

I figure they realize that their sex lives are unproductive and they need the rest of us to validate the importance of what they're doing. Only we won't, because it's not important. I'm glad I've never been approached by anyone who wanted to tell me everything about their sex lives before. But what if they did -- what is expected of me? How am I supposed to react? Am I supposed to be stunned or impressed that you fulfilled possibly the most basic of human functions next to peeing and pooping? Are our bathroom behaviors being oppressed too, because I never discuss those with anybody.

True love is what is important, and don't expect the rest of us to spoil it by turning sex into some frivolous thing instead of the sacred thing it really is. You people are in the minority because you're blowing this thing completely out of proportion because that's how you get your jollies. Most people are grossed out by it, and it's not because you're being oppressed. It's because you are stupid.

 

No BJ for you today. Boring!

 

Oh damn, I am so attracted to you, too. You seem like such an interesting person. I bet you have all kinds of stories to tell...about bjs and being anally fisted. I am truly rapt.

 

I wasn't totally innocent before joining hf, but I have to say my mind has been widened farther than I ever imagined. I can actually type the word "dick" (in reference to a penis), in mixed company, without blushing now. Haha

 

Haha, you are killing me!

 

I love you Karen J!

 

I'm on the side of sex is an important part of your life, and if you choose to share it with someone else then so much the better. There are a lot of married couples who have very boring sex lives because they are doing the same old thing over and over again. If discussing sex was regarded in society as being quite the normal thing to do, then married couples would probably have a far more fulfilling sexual relationship together. Say for instance I was talking to my next door neighbour about his sex life, and he told me that his wife very rarely tries out anything new when they have sex. He finds sex with his wife boring and wants some new ideas that could put some sparkle back into their marriage. He knows that my sex life is rather hot because we openly talk about it, so I could suggest to him sexy things they could do together that will help improve their sex life, and therefore make their marriage more fulfilling for the both of them. The reason all this has come about is simply because we openly talk about our sex lives, and in doing so they are now enjoying sex together far more than ever before.

Yes love in a marriage is very important but so to is the sexual chemistry between husband and wife.

 

First of all, apologies for calling ya'all stupid. I was just joking, albeit knowing full well that it wouldn't be obvious to anyone that I was doing so.

Second of all, what exactly are you saying? How sexually open are we to be? You want it to be so that strangers can walk up to me and start asking me if I have any sexual advice for them like it's some run-of-the-mill thing?

In the situation you're describing, I don't think it's likely that the husband and wife will start having incredible sex. More likely they'll get a divorce because the husband went and discussed what the wife considers to be a private matter with their neighbor.

I think the OP assumes that everyone would be happier if they were as obsessed with sex as they are. Most people just aren't that into sex, though, to be perfectly honest. I'm not saying they're not into sex, but they're not consumed by it. Most people aren't unhappy in their marriages or with their sex lives, although to you they are having what you find to be boring, normal sex. To them there is more meaning to the act than that. Believe it or not they truly love each other and doing the same thing over and over doesn't seem boring to them. They really think it's something special they're sharing with one another. Sex isn't a power issue for them like it is for so many people these days. Which is something I am divided between finding abhorrent and finding ridiculously silly. The penis is what on average, six inches big? That's not a big thing at all. To place so much emphasis on it and to try and grant it so much power when it's such a small thing is really funny. I'm not saying my penis is small. My penis is huge. But comparatively, the penis is a very small thing.

 

Of course we do. I could add some evidence on the topic from the Eastern Europe. Once I worked as a reporter in Mari El, Russia, in a popular progressive newspaper. Actually all the conversations of my co-workers inside the editorial office ran upon sex issues. A bit different situation was at the local television. Topics like "sex" are kind of taboo there. May be due to overall conservationism of head-office.
But yet Mari El region is famous by enormous sex-addiction of its natives. Many of Mari adhere to ancient pagan believe sex orgies being natural part of it. People from the other oblasts visiting Mari El are shocked by local controversial morals. You may watch Celestial Wives of the Meadow Mari movie based on folklore motives to get a vague idea of it. The film won a lot of awards. Eg. in the Vanguard section at the 2013 Toronto film festival.
Sorry I couldn't find a link to the the English language torrent file, but still - here is link to Mary-russian language torrent
http://tfile.me/forum/viewtopic.php?t=639642
if you get interested find the button "СКАЧАТЬ" at the bottom of the page. This film is worth seeing - I saw it four times. Ironically in the Mari republic film was received rather frostily even aggressively. Evidently cos' its creators touched upon locals sore points.
I suppose that all those Europeans restriction and taboos are expressed in Mari region at exaggerated degree. This old European nation has been living here before Arian intrusion.
Besides Mari El is famous by world suicidal rating. I won't say that addiction to sex and level of suicides per capita are connected, but still we hold this dreadful position being the second after Lithuania, one of the old European nation as well

 

To be perfectly honest I think the reason why the average married couple's sex life is boring, is simply because some wives regard sex as a chore to satisfy their husbands basic sexual desire. I'm certain this situation came about simply because of the way some women in society have been brought up to think about sex, it is a woman's duty to satisfy their man's sexual desire, while at the same time it's not so important for a woman to get the same sexual satisfaction from a marriage. So this takes us right back to where we first started, boring sex and no interest in trying something a little more daring, which can lead to married men turning to porn to satisfy their sexual urge.

By being sexually open in society I meant talking about sex in a grown up fashion to someone you consider might be interested, without feeling they will regard you as a sexual deviant.

I think women should be far more forward thinking and open about sex, because if they were there wouldn't be a divorce situation in the making if their husband discussed their sex life with the next door neighbour.

Agreed sex isn't a big thing in some marriages but in others it certainly is. It all depends on the couple really and it's those marriages where sex plays an important role in keeping the couple happily married, that may need sex counseling to save the marriage. I don't think there would be a need for marital sex councelors if the next door neighbour could help by giving some basic sexual advice. In a far more sexually open society this would be a perfectly acceptable way of dealing with failing sexual relationships.

 

I don't know if I would say our culture is sexually oppressed, I would say sexually inhibited.
The generation that is growing up now is the first generation where people admit to masturbating, instead of denying it.
Before if someone in a group made a joke about someone jerking off - every guy there before the subject changes will go through the motions of making sure no one thinks they do it. "I haven't done that since I was a teenager"..."I'm not gay...so..." "Well I guess if you can't get any...as for me..." etc. etc.

It is astounding that people live their whole lives without ever really doing what they want to do sexually because they don't want their spouse to think they are weird....or perverted etc. - so they do the same thing over and over and over.
Sex is a HUUUGE part of humanity, yet we hide it away - we subdue our thoughts to conform to what everyone perceives is normal. And only act out on our fantasies when we are alone with our eyes closed.

I wouldn't suggest that people talk about sex in the same way they talk about that game last night - but I wish it was ok to talk about with friends and of course your lover or spouse.

 

i'm pretty sure my generation is fully grown. and i'm positive the generation older than me is. i've rarely heard either generation deny masturbating, and the few that do have been quickly called out as liars.

 

Well said iamjustme I couldn't agree with you more. It's going to take a while before sex is no longer regarded as taboo, but the change is certainly coming and I think mobile phone technology will help to bring about this change among the younger generation of today, as to how sex is viewed in society. With the digital media of today internet, iphones etc, it's a lot easier now for people to talk about sex, send pictures to each other and exchange views on all aspects of sex than it was in previous years.

 

ew


and just what we need more teenage pregnancies in this world.....