Hello all, first post, and I'll get right into it. OK my question for advice. When my fiance and I started dating, about 8-10 months into it, she starting telling me her thoughts about a 3 some. She's fantasized about women since she was young, 13 or so, she's now 26. She has never told anyone about her urges ever, until me. She trusts me with it and trusts me to have another girl join us. Every time we have sex even if its multiple times in one day, she talks about having another girl there. She says she wants to share my dick with the other girl. Said that since I can make her cum multiple times she wants other women to know how good I am and would love to switch back and forth. She's even asked if I would be ok with her having sex with her without me, which I would be. I told her about a dream I had where she was cowgirl on me and there were two girls licking her nipples, that sent her soaring and now she wants to hear about it all the time. Whenever she watches porn, which is quite often, it's always either girl on girl or three some. She loves big boobs and wants to have oral from a girl and reciprocate that. She wants to experience multiple mouths and fingers exploring her body and feel nice boobs on hers. She's now told one of my good buddies about her desire for this many times, has flashed him a few times and he's even grabbed her boobs a few times which I know turned him on and her-just so you know shes comfortable like that. The other night the three of us were out at a bar and my fiance said how hot this waitress was and would love to know how she is in bed, said it to both my buddy and myself. That's the first girl she's said that about, not some fictitious person. This has progressed for about 1.5 years now, It does seem as though it's progressing nicely and might actually continue to move forward. Any thoughts or comments are welcome. To be honest, it's all about her, I want her to have all this attention I can't even explain it. I've told her it can be just her and the girl at first, me watching, I would only touch her and she could have all the fun with the other girl, but she wants to have a full on three way. She, and I would ideally want this girl to be friends that we hang out with they go do girl things, etc. My fiance is such an extremely sexual person and she's had this desire for so long I want nothing more than for her to experience it.
I too have been in this situation, and we met a couple one evening, intending on my lady to be with the girl in the couple. They were attracted to each other, and started playing. It was amazing to see my lady thoroughly eating out another girl! I went to the restroom in the middle of this, and returned to find the male of the other couple balls deep, taking my lady from the rear. The bad thing is, it seemed like she was enjoying it. All I'm saying is be careful doing this, and make rules beforehand, so everyone knows how this should go.
My wife told me I could have a 3some so long as I never saw or spoke to the people involved ever again. Also, I would no longer get sexual favors from her again. She says to me, "Is it worth it?" I should have said yes just to see her reaction.
So what's the problem? Your girl is practically begging for pussy. The only problem I see is that she's been asking for it for 1.5 years (or is it 8-10 months?) and it hasn't happened yet. The only other problem I see is the aforementioned mathematical error in your timeline. If you don't care about math errors...whatever. I don't blame you. I wouldn't be worried about math and timelines either because if I were in your position I would be too busy being up to my neck in.....pussy!!! So....get to work!
This is what led my lady and I into the swing lifestyle! She also loves the ladies and had never been with one before we had our first threesome. Now she is full blown Bi and jumps right in every chance she gets. That is mostly with others couples though, because anyone who is in the lifestyle knows just how rare it is to find the single unicorn. Just make sure you keep the communication lines open with each other and that you are on the same page and everything should be just fine. Are relationship is stronger then it has ever been since we entered the lifestyle a few years ago. Sounds like your lady might also be interested in bringing another guy into it by the way she is being with your friend. Is that something you would also be okay with?
From a woman's perspective, I think it makes things a lot easier and better to bring another man into the bedroom.
Hi SAN, My suggestion would be to just let it happen naturally, don't force or coerce in ANY way. That way when it finally happens it is in the heat of the moment and all parties involved are on board, no one is feeling like they were tricked into doing anything they may have second thoughts about. Also you may want to think on this for a minute. What are the after effects of you fulfilling here fantasy? Is there an end point to where both of you are saying that "Enough is enough"? Does you doing this to fulfill her fantasy does it fulfill yours also? Also how would you feel if she decides that this is the way she wants things? This may sound great and at first it might even be FANTASTIC, but like all things, eventually it fades. There will be a time when you want your bedroom to yourself, alone with your wife. Or a time when things aren't s smooth and the silent thoughts and what if scenarios start to creep into your mind. Based on my personal experience, maybe a someone neither of you have a lot of interaction with would be ideal. Males are competitive for beautiful women and friends are no exception. We (men) all want to get the beautiful, lusty bombshell, even if she is a friend of a friend there can be a fantasy, as this would be perceived as "innocent" as long as there is no "real world" attempts to make it happen. Ultimately, if you are into that kind of lifestyle, then there should be no doubts about it, and you really shouldn't be here asking for advice unless you are new to the life.
I would rather have a threesome with another man than to feel like I'm sharing my husband with another woman. I once had a threesome with two other girls, and I felt pretty left out and completely unsatisfied. I ended up just watching or giving. Less on the end of receiving. It pretty much ruined me of the idea that I can enjoy a threesome with another female. Jealousy hurts and unfortunately I am cursed along with many to feel it. Seeing my husband find pleasure in a woman that is not me makes me feel highly inadequate. Just a perspective of a woman.
You might need to set boundaries too if you still haven't tried it ... ie. if it is your first time ...
I agree wholeheartedly! Having experienced both MFM & FMF situations, I have to say the the former permutation is way more satisfying for both the 2 guys & more importantly the woman! I realise that most guys fantasise about having two women at once, but trust me, it rarely ends with all 3 parties having the best outcome.
I would love to experience a MFM threesome so that I could be the center of attention, but I wouldn't want to have a threesome involving another female.
With assumptions you can always go wrong. You seem to be at the very start of the "fantasy phase", where most of it is just a horny idea. You girl has advanced furthera and you need to decide where your limits are and what you can accept. You also have to keep your eyes open and your antennaes in high scanning mode as to the "real" intentions of the people who you are engaging with. A lot of women who are looking bi-sexual partners can be jsust a front of a woman who engages in some superficial lesbian kissing and fondling but hte main aim is for the husband to pump his sperm into another stupid broad giving his ass to him. At worst there could be quite a few cunning guys who do this all the time and enjoy manipulating an in-experience couple into an extreme and repeated gangbang action with the girl just being fuck-meat for a substantial number of guys. I have seen this myself.happen in a bar in Frankfurt, Germany. As the girl during this relentless sexual assault will inevitably have a few very intense orgasms and will not be able to help herself moan, cry and shout wth pleaseure, it will be very difficult to prove the intention of rape. So research more, define better what your partner/wife wants, what you want and can accept and talk about were the limits are . I am not talking about it that this all will be forever but what works you keepand what doesn't work you disregards.
what if i want FMF and i know i would give it more to my wife?? of course there WILL be pleasure in the other woman .. but .. what if i agree on turning my wife more and more and let her enjoy even if me and the other woman work on pleasing her and go further than her sex limits???
