How Would You Like To Be Rejected?

Iwould always welcome something like that than a keeping me stringing along......It is hard to reject someone, though.....I do feel for people when I do...still....I feel sorry for them, too.....

 

the op seemed clear that the rejection is more pre-relationship than during a relationship.....and in that case no deep explanation is owed or should be expected

in the op's second example there is no hint that the dude liked her?...she mentions none...she says she was into him and his hint was that he was with someone else?....in that case the hint should have been enough to at least table the attempt until buddy is single...its not like op has a problem getting dudes


not everything requires a verbal rejection.....besides.....with girls that sleep around there is always a chance you may be called back up to the majors....so why outright reject someone like that?....bes' to just send them down to a farm team to finish out their career just in case

 

If someone is threatening you if you have to block them. If they're not anywhere near you and you don't think they are a real physical threat. I went through someone harrassing for about a whole year after I broke up with him. I thought I did a really good job of breaking up with him initially, but I came to realize I was too subtle and then I got blunt and it still took about a year...maybe more for him to stop bothering me.

So now I'm nervous about doing it "the right way", but I think I will go the wizard way. I typed out this text to him that was probably too personal, but I think I'll delete that one now.

 

your bikini boat pic is already all over the net....and undeletable.....you might want to tighten up your personal security when it comes to online presence....

from a dad/grandpa point of view....be way more careful

 

In real life....I only had one problem....with someone who hit me and beat on me and then i did call the cops...told that story somewhere on this forum before....and they did not come back at me threatening at all...thank goodness for that...
In real life it is easier to see who to stay clear of...so those problems are avoided....
It is sad the internet has become open season for some....though....

 

yes, you are right, Rolling...i will delete that photo now....was not thinking.....

 

In the second example the guy definitely liked me. He was calling me everyday and I actually asked him to back off a little, not because I didn't like him but because I did like him and I wanted to get to know him better in person and he agreed and he very clearly told me he wanted to take me out when he returned to town, we also talked all about our relationship preferences and what we wanted long-term. There were other plans made as well.

As for the hint, I don't know if it was really a hint I just took it as that. He told me he was helping a friend of his, and I said "I hope he/she is okay" and he basically started telling me about her problems and I had to stop him because I didn't need to get the full novel of her story. After that there was very little conversation, so I took it that something happened with her. I felt like he was over involved with her issues.

I'm not sure what you mean by "with girls that sleep around", I haven't slept with any of them and I don't sleep with guys easily at all.

 

I never slept around either.....I am a prude....

 

Wow, usedto behoney...not good sounding at all,...i wonder if it is the same person I have to keep dealing with....They were calling me up every night, too...stupid me.....i believed them to be good, decent, etc.....and i acrually started talking to them and responding becasue I thought they were someone else.

 

No, not the same person at all. I exaggerated...he wasn't calling me everyday, he was texting me every morning and every night and then asking to call me on a regular basis. We did talk on the phone a lot, most guys don't call that often. I think I asked him to stop texting me on a regular basis because it's like being in a relationship when you're not, I like things to go in a certain order.

 

OMG I sent the text and he responded with "ok". That seems too easy.

 

I don't have text or skype...none of that...i only have a cell phone which i use as a phone....

 

Yeah...I prefer using the phone but texting is very convenient. I think it's overused and yet...I'm glad it exists, some things I'd not be able to speak.

 

''girls that sleep around'' was inferring to the lovely ladies that I encounter in my own life...I wholeheartedly apologize if it sounded like I was referring to anyone else....

I enjoy the company of a good skank....I see no harm in treating them like the goddesses they are

 

prudes aren't goddesses?

 

not by a longshot.....sorry

 

oh, well, poor me.....

 

Ok is universal for "you're a fucking bitch but imma save face by pretending I dont give a shit."

 

in that case, no just do the rejection ASAP, that way your not wasting anyone's time.