How Can You Committed Someone Who Always Talks About Ending There Life

on the phone with my sister we are trying to find a way to help my mom she has done nothing but make suicide comments to me and her boyfriend she never said how she would intend to do it just that she wants to die and can't go on anymore we are very worried anytime someone talks about me getting a place of my own she sees red and gets so fucking pissed. my sister said I need to talk to her about the death comments but she feels she needs to be there too because my mom knows just what buttons too push with me I am not strong enough to handle a conversation with her on my own. I am very worried my mom gets home tonight and don't know what kind of mood she will be in.

 

she hasn't attempted suicide yet just allot of comments about ending her life

 

Jennifer, Hate to be the barer of bad news but your mother is a Drama Queen, an Attention Whore and a Control Freak.

By saying the things she says, she's getting all the attention, everyone is focused on her. She's controlling and manipulating your (and others) thoughts and actions. She's renting space in your head, and not paying for it.

She obviously is depressed about something, which you either omitted in your message here or are not aware of. The reality is she's not dealing appropriately with the issue and is Acting Out, Attention Seeking. She, and only she, must face the issue and then deal with it. You might bring this to her attention, but I'm sure it won't go over well, you'll be the "bad person"--Always through the "Guilt" card on you or whoever will listen.

As a friend of mine says, "Time to put your big girl panties on and get on with life,,,or not"

 

I agree my sister said I need to talk to her but she needs to be there because she knows what buttons to push with me

 

Might wanna contact a mental health professional...

 

I've been in this boat many times and I understand how you're feeling, I think :-(. It's a hard situation to be in because a suicide threat is not something you should ignore, and it's extremely stressful. If it's a chronic issue, you begin to feel like the person is doing it for attention, and often times, they are--but sometimes, they aren't.

At the end of the day, it really isn't fair to you. I know you depend on your mother for a lot of things, which makes it hard to escape from her. The only thing I can recommend is that you have a very serious conversation with her about it. Tell her that the next time she threatens suicide, that you'll call 911. This removes the burden from your shoulders, and might force your mother to get the help that she obviously requires.

 

you are right I was seeing a caseworker and she said the same thing next time she talks about ending her life I am to call 911

 

I glad I saw this my mother-in-law is doing the same thing. She lives with me and my husband.Whenever we get into it she says she wants to die,or she wishes she was dead. I mean really whatever my husband and I argue about has nothing to do with her. Ever. It never has. But the next time it happens yeah I'm fucking calling 911.

 

Good on both of you for saying you'll call 911. They will get the help they need or they will quit playing that card.

 

you have to be kidding. this is sort of attitude here is why so many suicides happen when the can be prevented

there are two things , one his always to take the threat seriously. because if you act on her threat and have her sectioned she wont do it again. too if you truly believe she is going to then call the police. try talking to her seeing what up. don't do this on your own. have a united front. it may well be the case she is not as depressed or desperate as she says she is but its better to take the threat seriously. make sure your always involve someone professionally. weather it be a psychologist or a doctor outside help can shed new light on difficult areas. never ever for a second think she is an attention seeker. i don't know your mum and i don't know your story. but this is a seriously misguided attitude with in society. i had a bf friend once who constantly said he was going to kill him self. for a whole year i battles will his mum and dad and him and jis sister to take the treats seriously. and of course they kept saying to him grow up stop attention seeking. until he deliberate od just before Christmas and did kill him self

 

I somewhat agree, however it is true some people do say stuff like that as attention seeking. Not saying this is the case here, I don't know the OPs mother or the full situation, but unfortunately there are people that will go as low as using that as a manipulation tactic. But it is harmful that in society it seems that is what people first assume regardless, when much of the time upon further investigation it turns out the individual is seriously suicidal and needs help because they're unable to cope with it on their own.