Hubby Wants Open Relationship...what Do I Do?

I Say Piss Him Off Before Things Get Worse, Next Thing He'll Ask For Is An All In Orgy...



Cheers Glen.

 

You're not comfortable with it. You would feel jealous. Don't do it.

Open relationships do not work that way.

 

Yeah I'm with theprodu here...why even get married if you're going to sleep around and let the other do the same? If it was me and I found out they were sleeping behind my back, not only would I tell them to fuck off, I would also do what I can to find out who the other guy is and very well may start attempting to make his life a complete nightmare, and I would also never let the woman forget about what she did either. That's the least that I would do if I was feeling nice. But, that's just me. I've got some Scorpio shit within

 

You see how you've got your agenda?

Good.



So does everybody else.

Take it or leave it.

 

some of you guys are being ridiculous lol. She cheated, owned up to it, and her man chose to forgive her so what's the point in passing judgement?

I've never tried an open relationship but I've talked to enough people on here who have been in that situation to know you should only do it if your relationship is healthy and you both want to. You don't want to, enough said. I dont really get the impression that your husband is hanging your infidelity over your head but if he is - dont let him. He chose to forgive you, case closed.

 

Yeah and now the OP is being a selfish B for doing that and now getting jealous that the man wants to try it. At this point, I don't really think you get to have a say whether he does or doesn't sleep with someone else.

 

What agenda? I'm not sure what you are accusing me of here. So I'm a monogamous kinda guy, so what?

 

I am monogamous, too.....


and I also want to say to assumers on this thread ....some people get married for different reasons other than being in love....sometimes it is a business arrangement.....sometimes.....it is a different thing than any of you can imagine...my parents are an example of this.....they only got married to give me a name and were never in love. no one deceived anyone.....though....so i am really tired of people who want to open their big traps without knowing any full stories about anything.

not that it is most people's business anyway.

 

I don't see anywhere in the OP that he forgave her only with the condition that he gets to sleep with other people.

Personally I would rather someone just break up with me rather than forgive with conditions and strings attached.

 

Your mono agenda. I'm not accusing you of anything, really. I think I made myself pretty clear. I haven't even read the OP I'm just following on from the shorter responses. XD

 

Mono Irmi... look into my eyes....

Monogamy...you must be mono...

When I snap my fingers you will awaken refreshed, and monogamous

 

True or false, you can get mono from riding the monorail?

 

And they dont even know what there agenda is. They are angry at something, dont really even know why

 

I know. I have sneaking suspicion they're eaither born again romantics or they're partner has cheated on them in the past or there in fact cheaters themselves trying to do the right thing.

 

I've never cheated or been cheated upon (that I know of, lol)
I suspect y'all have never been in a romantic relationship. Too bad.. ah well thats what porns for. Who needs intimate emotional relationship right?

 

Hey, can you please step down off your high horse? I can't even see you man, you're so high above me.

 

Hey, can you go fuck yourself?

 

Subtle, very subtle. You're all class.

 

I'm trying to do the math here. So if you've known each other 9 years... that means you met him when he was 19 and you were 15..... so you just knew each other then? When did your exclusive relationship actually start then? And you say you slept with someone else early in the relationship....how long had you been dating your SO at this point? I think this happens a lot.. when you just start a new relationship and not sure if it's exclusive yet and then maybe an old flame comes into the picture, and you end up sleeping with them....... and are you saying he didn't have any sexual experience prior to you? That's a little hard to believe because of your age gap... I'd guess he at least had 1 or 2 partners before you....
I am not into open relationships and I wouldn't share my husband/boyfriend. You don't seem into it either, so don't do it. Your SO is digging up your past and using it against you. He's making you feel guilty so you'll give him a free pass... not cool...he married you.

 

Quoting from a song by the Moody Blues...

"It's up to youuuuuuu-uuuuuuuu-uuuuuuuuuuu!!"

I think part 1 is a little messed up tho imo... and that you simply refer to him simply as "SO" but that's just me being a critic.

Part 2... you need to get that shit out man. In your own time, and however long you feel it takes you, but really. I think talking about it with him would bring you both closer together.

As for your original dilemma, that's up to you. Of course, getting advice from others would help. ("I'd like to use my lifeline" XD) But in the end that's your decision to make and it depends on how comfortable you feel with something like that.