Are You A Loner Or Gregarious?

really depends on the group, don't ya think?

 

LOL! I was going to say something about the epidemic of 3 some threads ...but refrained until now.......

 

Well, shit....hit my quota of likes for now....TNS...I wanted to give you another for your 2nd smile song....will when I can again....as well as for some other people.....

 

Thank you It's the thought that counts, anyway.

 

I've never understood people hating loners that hang out for hours everyday on Forums. But I love people so that might explain my confusion.

 

Whatever the hell that means.

 

I doubt that. Maybe it is just more obvious in groups because people there are interacting while a loner keeps to him/herself so it just isn't apparent how stupid or smart they are.

 

Well, the thought became real....

 

I became stupid on a doll forum once upon a time....wasting money I did not have to waste buying dolls, as all of the hype about some of them, beautiful photos, etc......and wanting to be part of something fully......that made me stupider than i am.

 

Sometimes I'm into entertaining people, having a laugh, telling jokes and stuff, looking for approval. So from that point of view, I'm "gregarious".
But there's another side to me that is probably a bit more cynical of people. I tend to categorise them. Groups like "seems ok", "harmless", "neutral", "insincere", "pondlife" etc. I do see a lot of insincerity in some people, often the more supposedly "friendly" people.

Very rarely in life have I made new friends who are what I call kindred spirits. To me, a small number of those is worth infinitely more than the very large circles I've been in. To me, these people are worth more than anything in life.

Much of my socialising is work related these days. Ironically, I've found that people who want to make money with/from you can be more genuine than some people who try and convince people how they love being friendly.

Maybe because I've seen pure evil in some situations, and complete sleaze masquerading as friendliness in others, I just haven't got the tolerance for some of the social "gaming" that exists. Infact, nowadays I think I expect the worst and then I might be pleasantly surprised.

I suppose that translates to me being more detached nowadays than I've been in the past. Ultimately, I know what motivates me in life. Large, fickle and less than loyal circles probably aren't one of them.

Wow, I sound cynical here! Haha. Alcohol and forums.. :redface:

Anyway, I wouldn't say I'm a loner. I can be gregarious. But I'm prob not really a "mass market socialiser" these days.

(Goes off to Instagram to post pics to 2000 followers of of last nights clubbing. Not. hahaha)

 

"But there's another side to me that is probably a bit more cynical of people. I tend to categorise them. Groups like "seems ok", "harmless", "neutral", "insincere", "pondlife" etc. I do see a lot of insincerity in some people, often the more supposedly "friendly" people.



Very rarely in life have I made new friends who are what I call kindred spirits. To me, a small number of those is worth infinitely more than the very large circles I've been in. To me, these people are worth more than anything in life."



I hear you about the kindred spirit thing....it is rare...if it exists at all.....

There are degrees of being friendly, and it has nothing to do with beng fake....Friendly on one level to everyone....with politeness that everyone gets at first.....then another level...maybe somewhat closer, etc......I don't take too many people really in on that deepest level.....that is very rare......

 

I like and get on with my own company but also like the option to be around other people,which is why I like communal living.Well for one thing I have a habit of taking to myself quietly,because often I find it hard to keep everything in my head.I am quite fascinated by more thought processes and this often takes the form of a dialogue,exploring questions and ideas about my consciousness and how my critique relates to objective reality.These conversations can get pretty intense and involved and it's almost like having another personality to share the world with.Sometime I entertain the most outrageous ideas and fantasies and thought experiments,just to play mind-games with myself and come to realizations that help me to progress out of problems and into resolution.I play conceptual games with myself that help me to stay afloat in my at times rather fragile little castle sailing on the ocean,which is really rolling on waves of ever-shifting clouds.I can instantly snap out of these reveries and engage quite sanely with other people in an instant.What I would really like is to meet a similar female with similar interests to invite into my private world.

I generally see friends on a one to one basis at irregular intervals.I feel quite comfortable in groups of people I know and am good at making conversation,from the jokey to the mundane to the elevated.I have learned when to talk and when to allow others to take over.I rarely feel the need to impress and like to let others have a chance to shine.

I also like anonymous spaces like cafes and clubs where I can just lose myself in the crowd,where I can be sure no one knows who I am,what I do or what I am thinking.I love the freedom of that.Finally,whilst I try to accept all individuals without judgment,I try to avoid heavy,obnoxious people who could possibly become a liability to me and try to assert their mendacious agenda and will power over my generally gentle and loving disposition.These are people I try to get away from at all costs.They are entitled to act themselves out however they like,but I infinitely prefer the company of arty,conscientious,light-hearted spirits who just want to have a fun,imaginative,creatively inspired positively nuanced time,sharing their love for the brighter good vibe take on life.

 

^I'm all about light hearted fun and good vibes!......