Should I Be Worried?

I'm not exactly sure if I should be worried that my boyfriend's ex-girlfriend still comments on my boyfriend's Facebook posts trying to get him to message her... I'm also not sure if I should be concerned that my boyfriend won't allow me to post a picture of us on Facebook because he says it will cause drama for him... I'm extremely confused and any help or advice would be greatly appreciated

 

Yes.

 

fuck yeah u should be concerned

kick his ass to the curb. seems like he wishes to appear to be single.

 

Slim pickings in Alabama though I'd imagine

 

GanjaBabi, if he isn't willing to post a picture of the two of you...there is a reason why. It is highly unlikely that you will like what that reason is. Sorry.

 

yes,I would be very worried about that if one of my bf's exs did that,it sounds to me like he wants to be with his ex and not you,kick him to the curb,you deserve better.

 

If he's worried about drama with his ex then he is still too attached to that relationship. Sometimes things are complicated but he's obviously hiding you for a reason. What is that reason?

 

crazy ex-girlfriend? nothing to worry about unless he's replying to her messages.

boyfriend who is ashamed of you? yeah, that's a pretty big red flag.

 

Nah, I'm sure she has plenty of other cousins to choose from.

 

Start posting pictures of the 2 of you on HIS facebook wall. If he freaks out then there's a reason for it. Not worth it. If a man isn't proud to have you around or be seen with you then he's not worth having around.

 

Seems to me he wants to keep all options open and see many people.....he is not committed, it seems.....

 

Lolz

 

I personally see this as silly. The 'ol gf that knows the ins and outs of their boyfriends personal life and friendships, what every guy wants....
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Bad timing with the Alabama jokes, I feel I must apologize, just read about this Britney Wood case, jeezus effing christ

 

That they do XD

 

This thread makes him seem unreasonable, but if you have a bunch of crazy girls causing a bunch of shit in your life, and you're already dealing with the possessive ex who won't let go, do you want the current girlfriend being all mushy and obnoxiously public about affectionate pictures? Then not only can I be in mushy pictures shared publicly, I can have my past and present girlfriends fighting bitterly and ever-escalating cruelty and bullshit in my life over it...... awesome.

Personally, I don't even really enjoy other people posting that kind of shit - I would be like yeah, please don't, if it included me.

It sounds like they've been together for like ten minutes, and he's still trying to wind down and eliminate drama from the last one - and this one wants to start posting obnoxious couples pictures?

 

What do you mean allow? You can do what you like, you are just worried about the consequences.

Is this a new relationship? As RooRshack pointed out, maybe he's not ready for something so public. It sounds as if you want different things anyway.

 

Do it and see what kind of drama happens. Just give karma a little push.

 

once again its up to me to correct everyone on this thread cuz they all wrong!

is your bf still fucking his ex, most likely.

should you be mad, no.

he was living his life before you met him. you were living your life too. is it really reasonable to meet someone and say "ok i feel attracted to you, so stop talking to everyone of the opposite sex because it will make me jelouse"? no, thats obviously very unreasonable.

the fact is, when youre in a new relationship, the other person was fucking/flirting with a bunch of people before you and they are not going to just drop all that just because they met you. in fact, for future reference, you should expect it.

in every relationship there will come a time where you mutually agree on boundaries and the consequences of not respecting those boundaries. if your not happy, then its probably because your partner is overstepping those boundaries and you dont respect yourself enough to do something about it.