Get a sex swing. Experiment with sub/dom. Role playing. Simulated rape (I had a thing with a girl in college who was into this... She was on the basketball team, 6'3"... It really got her off that there was someone who could forcibly take her. No closed fist punching, no visible marks, safe word was "Chevy"... She would call and tell me her roommate was gone for the night, "surprise me"... Most fun ever). Have her work on gag reflex suppression.