How long do you wait to first have sex when your in a relationship with someone?

I play it by ear, although I tend to request std and sti checks before anything begins.

 

Whenever they are ready, I am

 

used to be about a week after 1st seeing the girl

 

Nothing is too soon, when you feel ready. I completely respect those who want to get to know each other first and all that, totally fine, but waiting until married (or equally arbitrary point in time) sounds like a bad idea. Have to have good sex for a good relationship so screw around until you find someone who you like having sex with and like to do other things with too.

 

I think it depends.

Are you hot? If no, then I would say I don't really know the answer, and you have to decide for yourself.

If you are hot, then the answer depends on who you are with.

Are you with me? Then the answer is it is never too soon to have sex.

Are you with someone other than me? Then it's always too soon.

 

I never wait past mutual desire. And if mutual desire isn't present within three meetings, I'm out. Experience has shown that's just not going to be the right situation for me.

 

7 years (it was painful)
i waited
till we got married and had sex after marriage

 

personally I find the my experience is not waiting long enough. love the electricity of waiting and getting the energy going. I know the sex can work as long as she is not a star fish and starting that too soon just makes us think with the wrong head.

 

wow, I bet you had great fore arms though huh

Think I waited 2 weeks once, that seemed like forever

 

What ever feels right. Some were 1st date, others weeks. Wife was 2-3 weeks.

 

Don't think there is a right anwser for this one. It really depends on the two people and so many other circumstances! With my current lady I have been with for the last four years I don't think we made it a week before we were all over each other. With her I was trying not to rush things, because I really liked and respected her so much, but the chemistry and want was so strong between us it just happened. Happy to say four years later that chemistry and want is even stronger.

 

When I was dating I typically held to the three date rule, sometimes longer if it still had not been determined whether we were actually dating.

 

The first few dates are too soon, unless you truly know the person will commit to you. I have waited usually a few months until things got serious. The men were madly in love with me.

 

There is no set time scale the first time for me was about 3 months but the second was almost straight away however I knew her beforehand and we felt at ease with each other and the sex was great in both cases

 

My main guy and I waited 6 months. We've been together 10 years now.

It's completely situational. Every relationship is different.

 

Glad you realize that. Some people like to argue for the necessity of some kind of arbitrary time frames, or claim that whatever didn't work out for them ("I got fucked and chucked") couldn't possibly work in any other situation either.

Personally I'm a bit too oversexed to be able to imagine waiting for very long, and I have simply moved on and friendzoned the woman when I've felt that the sexual chemistry just isn't there after a while; but for a more reserved person who wouldn't even find him/herself having to make the choice about jumping into bed on the first few dates, it could be just fine.

 

I don't think I'd wait very long if it were a different time in my life. We were young. Both virgins. At the time, very religious.

I think as long as people are practicing safe, consensual sex, they should do whatever they want.

 

Sex to me is important but there is so much more that means everything to me so I wait till he feels right for me, can't say exactly how long that would be in each case. I know too many women that gave themselves to a guy for sex and altho sex is great he might not realize she wanted him for all the rest so it doesn't seem like it matters as long as he knows he puts out. I am not being a jerk here but some men think their sex abilities covers all that's needed.
Once established that we are in a relationship then it's a go. That's why I laugh when guys ask is their penis too big or too small. Does it matter once you know you love your man? Does it matter if he knows how to use it? It is what it is IMO as long as it's attached to my man who loves me for who I am. I value the connection first, the sex can improve later if needed and I can't say I ever had an issue there where a guy didn't want to make sure we both had a great time in bed.
And seriously if he had a teeny weeny but knew how to make it work or do lots of other things that worked I would be in my heaven with him anyway just because I loved him for what he was to me in the whole round of things.
One thing I am not ever, is desperate for sex itself but I love with it my perfect man who makes me want it with him.

 

Wait to see if there's possibly future together.
If you can't see yourself with that person in the future (like for good), don't have sex with them.
That's what I think and try to do.

 

People place too much thought on sex. All I consider when it comes to having sex is if I am physically attracted to the person. As long as I don't plan on getting a girl pregnant and am having protected sex, I don't see what the big deal is with having sex with someone you've only recently been acquainted with. People treat sex like it's a sacred thing. It's not.