Fuck buddies who want to kiss and cuddle...

There's a woman I work with that likes stroking my nipples sometimes for a laugh thru the outside of my shirt. It feels nice actually & i wish my wife would stroke my nipples when we have sex sometimes.

 

I always kiss and cuddle with my partners after sex, fuck buddy or not.

 

I cuddle even ONS, if they're in need of it. Some people are very lonely. I wouldn't impose it on a man, but if he starts it, I think it's OK.

 

I'd settle for any kind of a (female/soul-mate/friend (with benefits!))/lover) / Buddy
= It's a bugger when ones' only friend is schizophrenia

 

I love cuddling no matter if it's a fuck buddy or my (future) girlfriend. It calms the soul, that feeling of intimacy.

 

I agree with Kairilove. Many years ago my very first fuck buddy and I used to have the most intimate sex ever! There was lots of kissing, cuddling and touching. She saw this as a sign of love and started falling for me. We ended up having a big falling out after she accused me of leading her on. It was never intention to but she obviously saw the intimacy as a sign of love.I suppose with anything communication is the key.

 

I have a fuck buddy and we kiss and cuddle... rarely sleep over...

 

I have a fuck buddy whom that's something we love more than anything from each other. We fuck, cuddle, kiss, then go our separate ways the next day.

 

The very first friends-with-benefits situation I had surprised me. I had expected him to be relatively detached, and intended to have him bring me home, or at least to my train after. So, I was befuddled when he asked me to sleep over, and a bit confused when he gave me his softest tee shirt to wear, and pulls me close to snuggle. I was completely perplexed by the extremely intimate confessions he made to me as well. He started off just telling me not to surprise him with sexual contact while he was sleeping, and ended up telling me about the trauma from which that boundary stemmed. From there we began sharing many I tomatoes secrets as we drifted off. The next day, as he was driving me where I wants to be dropped off, we got into a horribly violent car accident; a little boy was killed. Shared trauma cemented our bond and we have been friends since, even during years in which I was monogamous to another man.

He always made ot clear that he only wanted sex and companionship, no romantic love, no becoming a couple. That was mutual. I had been brokenhearted-but-horny when we met, so I was looking for the same thing. It had never occurred to me that we could have that level of I intimacy without falling in love. It had jever occurred to me that we could truly connect and be real friends, not just people who fuck a lot. He opened my eyes to the possibilities, and shifted my paradigms. I love him deeply, but have never wanted to be his girlfriend. Because of him, I carry out all of my relationships this way. I have no interest in sex with anyone who doesn't also want to build a strong, intimate, enduring friendship along the way. There have been no shortage of like-minded people in my life. We love each other. We've rebutted like beasts. We've snuggled, made out, danced and shared as many secrets as dinners. But we don't try to pair up.

To me, no, the request to stay the night and canoodle isn't odd at all. I don't have fuck buddies. I have friends-with-benefits.

 

I don't see a problem with it. It sounds pretty lovely actually.

 

I prefer not to have that emotional connection. Fuck me silly and fuck off. :rofl:

 

Casual sex with my lovers is intimate to me. We share our feelings, talk, buy things for each other, kiss, hold hands, call each other, hang out together, go places together, and are attached to one another. They all treat me like the goddess I am.

 

I think that's rare. My friends and I were talking and those that do FWB or fuck buddies type relationship deals, say it's very business like, and the intimacy is present only during the act itself or leading up to the act so sufficient arousal is ready for the act to be enjoyable.


Anything more intimate outside of that, seems to fall into things both men and women want to do from a real serious monogamist relationship, or a serious polygamy relationship, because then you start getting involved in worry about the other person's day-to-day life in a way that society associates as a spouse's responsibility both legally and casually.

 

This is exactly the kind of relationships I want to have. No joke.

Especially including the Goddess part

 

Nah. You have friends, right? The ones with which you had that conversation, for example-- would you say that you hang out with them, occasionally spend insignificant amounts of money on them, call them when you have something to say or have not heard from them in a while, and care about their well-being and happiness? I do not do casual sex without the potential for friendship. My partners nearly all became friends. I mean the kind of friends who will let you have it when you're being an ass, be disappointed for you when things do not go your way, celebrate with you when you win, and take you to the airport/help you move. Some hesitated to let me get too close to them, but they came around once I had been present long enough to demonstrate that I would never be jealous, never cockblock, and never try to become a life partner. Great laughs, great food, great times, and great sex. Why not be friends?

 

This was inspiring for me. I am currently navigating my first fwb situation. Never thought I could do it because I need this level of intimacy to even want to have sex with someone. I used to think I had to be in love. Then I met this guy and he totally blew that out of the water for me. We were having all kinds of sex within a few weeks of meeting each other. Clearly I didn't love him then, but we talked and had this connection. Sadly we fucked it up by getting into a relationship, which ended kind of shittily, because we were both trying to force a square peg into a round hole, so to speak. Now we are back to the way we were at the beginning... And I feel like this is the way he and I should be. It was extremely confusing to me at the beginning, thus why I said yes when he pushed for the relationship at the beginning. But your post has showed me that it's not impossible to still have that connection with someone, but not necessarily want anything more than that. Thank you.

 

NO overnight stays!!!!!

 

It's actually simple biology. Women are inundated with bonding hormones when they have sex...it takes a helluva lot of willpower, or a perfectly good reason to the women on why she wouldn't want more with that particular guy, or a special kind of woman, in a special situation to override those hormones with her mental state/conditioning...not sure of the right word for this.

So if you're not having a full on conversation or know this person really well...what she might have thought was a fwb in the beginning can become confusing to her after sex, and she can't exactly tell you she wants more because there's a part of her that doesn't, and another part of her that is ruled by hormonal activity.

 

It is rare. It means she's in a state of being closed off from a relationship, on a really deep level. Most women don't have that level of not opening up to a relationship if a promising situation or heavy set of hormones comes her way.

 

And that's my point, that setup is rare.

I didn't say impossible, but extremely rare among friends who maintain a friends with benefits situation, if you don't slap parameters on it, it begins to change the friendship into something else which isn't easily defined and can be confusing to all involved.

Do friends do the things that you describe, yes they do, but in friendships where sexual elements aren't in the picture allows feelings to be kept in check.


Sex, can unlock the gates for emotional reactions for something deeper that doesn't always fit in the initial game plan.


How do you control jealousy if feelings arise? I don't think many can just shut that feeling off. Instead I think either the friendship itself gets awkward or distant, and then it goes for the better or for the worst at that point.