this isn't about me. I don't have an open relationship and I don't want one. But I am curious about how it works out. Soooo, has anyone here ever been in an serious, but open relationship? not the "lets have an occasional threesome" type deal, more like "we are committed to each other but we both go out and sleep with other people whenever we feel like it" type of relationship. How do you deal with issues like jealousy, and were you ever afraid your partner might leave you for one of his/her fuck buddies? I'd also like to hear from anyone who was on the other end of an open relationship, like if it bothered you that this person was in a serious relationship, or if you ever developed feelings for that person. Haha, I bet anything this thread is gonna end up being a total flop.
I did hook up with a guy who was married and "in an open relationship" with his wife. I was really diggin' on him untill I found out he was married. He even showed me a picture of his wife and kid before we hooked up and talked about how great they both were. It was a little.....strange. But then he is also a musician who spends most of his time traveling for gigs, so I wouldn't be surprised if he lied about the "open relationship". It is possible he doing this all behind his wife's back. I thought that after we hooked up and we were in the room together and his phone rang (I was expecting a call) and he grabbed the phone outta my hand before I could pick it up and said "Dont pick up my phone, it could be my wife!" I personally don't understand open relationships...but they exsist and I guess they work for some people. I could never do it though.
I think that would be the worst part about hooking up with someone who claims to be in an open relationship.....you'd never really know if it was the truth, or if they were really just cheating on their partner and lying to you to make it seem okay. I know it's a little different, but my ex husband cheated on me a lot, and my neighbor told me one day that my husband had been hitting on her, and when she told him she didn't mess with married men he told her it was okay, because we both slept with other people....which was definitely not the case on my part. In the case of an open relationship, IF I was in one I think my biggest problem would be worrying about whether or not my husband or boyfriend would eventually develop a serious relationship with whoever he might a sleeping with, or have some other girl develop feelings for him and try to stick around or ruin our relationship. I don't see how an open relationship could work out for very long, without eventually causing some kind of problems. I was hoping there might be someone here on the forums that has managed to keep a healthy, loving relationship or marriage while openly sleeping with other people that could explain it to me. Like I said before though, I don't want it, I'm just curious.
I've been in a committed open relationship for six years. Before he and I were together, my fiance had another open relationship that lasted about two years. In that one, his girlfriend did eventually leave him for one of the other guys she was seeing. It's a risk. However, I've been left for platonic friends before, too. A lot of arrangements are know-and-not-know... that is, your partner does not really know the specifics. Elle, your musician friend may have had such an arrangement with his wife. It's pretty close to how thing are with me and my man... I don't go out of my way to tell him, but I don't lie, either. As far as jealousy... no matter what else is going on, we're the ones who are building a life together. We have children and a home together. I don't understand why sexual exclusivity is the mark of commitment, when there are so many other aspects of your life.
i have a good friend Nick and he and his gf sarah have an open relationship..so far it has lasted 5 years..there is an occasional jealousy..but for the most part they are very happy..somehow they have made this strange concept work...although it makes everyone else uncomfortable..they pull it off...
hum...I'm sceptical about open relation (sexualy speaking)....anyway I know I don't want them....it's curious...but I guess it's a choice... love and respect
That and the risk that your spouse brings you home a disease. That is what I would be too worried about.......the possibility of him sleeping with someone and catching something and bringing it home to me. Condoms are not 100% safe. And there is always the possibility of him getting another girl pregnant or (in her case) getting pregnant by another man.
For me, a open relashionship CAN'T exist if all the people concerned are aware of that. In the most of time, it's a idea of one people and the other people was just suffer the consequences. I think that often it's not real open relationship, but just because one people want to be a free agent and use the term "open relashionship". It'a for this, that after other people have a doubt about what they said.
