Sucked an old bf's dick, should I tell my husband?

I'd tell him, beg for forgiveness, AND bring a cute girl with you that is willing to give your husband a blow job.

That way it's fair.

On the cool tho, you were dumb for hanging out ALONE with a man you had past relations with while you were intoxicated. You were just playing with fire.

And from the sounds of your explanations the ONLY reason you didn't have sex with him was because he didn't have a condom.

It seems like you are not mature enough for a monogamous relationship if you're even asking if you should tell the truth or not. Maybe you and your husband can talk about having an open relationship.

 

If my wife was unfaithful like this to me I would want to know because I know i deserve better than that disrespect. Having said that, mistake now made, if you value your marriage you may want to say nothing, and dont do it again. I feel sorry for your husband. My wife was unfaithful to me. I found out. I hated her for it. I decided to forgive, but no one can forget. lasted another 7 years and naturally drifted apart. In hindsight, I would have left the day I found out.

 

Don't tell him anything about it!

 

hahhahahahahahahahaha

 

As a man devastated by my ex-wifes cheating, my opinion is biased. I know that. You cheated on your husband. You say it will not happen again, but it will. Again, I have an extreme bias to what you did. My opinion is you ended your relationship with your husband. You have to deal with whatever consequence that may bring. Sooner or later it will come up and be found out. How that happens is up to you. I am sorry if I am being rude or harsh..

 

a shut mouth catches no flies

 

You don't yhink he has a right to dump this one in the slut dumpster and get one more worthwhile and lessdirty? My experience is, once a cock slut....once a traitor. That's just how it is.
Sounds more like dumped this marriage already and wanting to be exonerated and shift the blame.
I would say it sounds more like getting honest with ypur own self first and then finish tearing up the idiot still dumb enough to have to take "your old boyfriend's" leftovers ~ get real! Let some home wrecker slut tell you how to lie and cheat because that's alk you have now. You deserve it.

 

That's the problem. Monika blewinsky couldn't keep her mouth shut and some rank cock is worth more than her marriage and husband. He has a right to do better if he can and if he stays like a fool for kitty to torment some more, that's his call.

 

Not harsh. This is the truth. Not biased in my eyes.

 

Tell him. Quick. The longer you wait the harder it will be.

When my husband and I were first dating I made the mistake of hanging out with an old crush.
And by crush I mean I was after him for 3 years before our friendship collapsed because of drug use. He was then clean and wanting to get back in touch.

I did so thinking it would be just chill time and my sexual nonexistence. However, it turned out way different because as soon as we were intoxicated he was regretting having ignored me most of our teenage life. I regressed to my 14 year old blushing self and BOOM. Disaster.

It took me 3 days to finally tell my now husband. And lots of dodged phone calls. But I could not stand him not knowing. I couldn't live with myself. So I went into the conversation terrified and 100% prepared for him to drop me like a sack of potatoes. Because he didn't deserve that. He had my word. But he didn't deserve being lied to even more.

Just prepare yourself for the major backlash and humbly accept it. Be open and honest about your relationship with this guy and why that was a moment of pure misjudgment on your part. And stay humble about it. Let him know you are prepared for any kind of questions and leave the discussion open for at least a few days for it to sink in. Once those few days are up, back away and allow him to be upset and take his time coming back into trusting you. Know that this may take a while but stay by his side while he processes.

I was able to prove to my now husband that he can trust me and we lived together not long after that. Truthfully, try to see it as a test to your relationship and his commitment to you. If he is able to walk away from the relationship then try not to dwell on it for too long just know that if he does walk away, he isn't for you, nor would you want to stay in a relationship like that.


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<<T ruthfully, try to see it as a test to your relationship and his commitment to you.>>

Desperation, to preserve something lost or to keep someone, commitment maybe to the idea of the relationship or fear of getting jacks or better.

<<If he is able to walk away from the relationship then try not to dwell on it for too long just know that if he does walk away, he isn't for you, nor would you want to stay in a relationship like that.>>

He may not "be for her" because she needs an idiot that can be humiliated with impunity. No, don't have any kind of relationship with a person like that! Get someone that you can shove around! Some poor bastard of a stupid ballbuster's dream. Yuk.

Haha that crap sounded like it came straight out of "women who stink like a carp bucket" ahahaha!

But, there's a good chance he won't go anywhere. If he's been buying "we slipped on a banana peel!" This long it's fifty/fifty it won't matter.

 

Do NOT tell him. You only want to tell so you feel better, but he will devastate him......

 

IMHO, and I have been through this.. Never would I trust ever again.. The OP opted to cheat and lie. Easy enough done once, easy enough to do again. I don't buy into the "heat of the moment" crap. It is just an excuse. There is a ring on your finger. That means (to monogamous relationships) you are not available for blow jobs.. Really.. What the hell did you get married for if you were still wanting to have sex with other people?? sorry for any rudeness on my part, but if you take a vow of marriage then be honorable enough to keep it. Otherwise, break it off then go do whatever you want..

 

Don't tell him now, wIth 2 or 3 years

 

You be the judge. Would you want your husband to tell you if he went down on an "X?" What if you found out from someone else that he did?

 

Ur a bad wife and u don't love him enough cause if u did u would be able to be an adult and control urself u just threw his feelings aside to suck some dick like Wtf I love dick very much but if I decoded to get married I would have to love only the one dick.

 

How would you feel OP? I believe if you get married then those days of being promiscuous are over. But maybe you aren't ready for marriage, but you owe him to come clean. Karma is real my friend.

 

My wife came home from a party and told me she sucked a guys dick. I was disappointed but I didn't marry her to hold her back from things she wants to do in life. I always got the feeling she didn't care for my penis anyway. she never complimented it once in 11 years so I forgave her knowing she would never forgive me. Then two years later she divorced me after 13 years of marriage. She fell in love with her new boyfriend who she had been cheating on me with for six months.

 

Tell your husband, hopefully he'll send your ass packing with a footprint on your face.